https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 25 May 2026 21:21:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents/page/2#post-80548 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 16:17:45 +0000 lemondrop 80548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a fan, but of something more practical or a small token- we just had a baby, I stopped working, our finances are not in a place to get something huge. </p> <p>I got this, I treasure it, and my son holds onto it when he nurses:<br /> <a href="http://www.thevintagepearl.com/products/daintydropsnecklace_p113" rel="nofollow">http://www.thevintagepearl.com/products/daintydropsnecklace_p113</a></p> <p>We also ended up getting one for each grandma too. I had gotten these for my SIL and MIL when my twin nephews were born, so they are becoming a new tradition. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents/page/2#post-80521 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:57:38 +0000 googly-eyes 80521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think they are unnecessary at least in my case. My DH has been wonderful so far. He helped me through the worst days of nausea, rubbed my back when I had aches and pains and couldn't sleep, and did the dishes when I couldn't stand the smells. He is completely involved in this process with me. Rather than having a gift at the end for going through pregnancy and delivery, I think it's just more appropriate for him to be involved and supportive the whole way through. But I don't judge those who get them. Anytime a woman says that her SO gives her a gift to show appreciation, whether a push present or a random gift, it's sweet.<br /> Eta- I don't agree with a woman saying she wants one, though, or it becoming almost a tradition/necessity. I think it should be more like if he feels inclined at that moment, great, if not, there's mothers day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80518 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:55:20 +0000 ALittleP 80518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think something to commemorate the new life that you created together is a nice idea in general but it doesn't have to be called a push present.</p> <p>My wedding band is a diamond eternity band and I would love another one to stack on top to match but with the name and birth date of our baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80480 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:23:27 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 80480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: I know. I need to renew my passport, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80479 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:21:42 +0000 mrs. wagon 80479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: can't wait to hear if it's a boy or a girl... and what is in BOTH THOSE BOXES!!! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80474 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:21:00 +0000 prettylizy 80474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tina: it's killing me, but I know how much it means to him for me to be surprised. Two red cardboard boxes staring me in the face every time I go in that room!! 4 more weeks.... this baby better not be late :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80468 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:18:29 +0000 mrs. wagon 80468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: I knew I liked you!! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80466 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:18:14 +0000 mrs. wagon 80466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: that is AMAZING. I would never be able to resist those boxes but what an incredible idea!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80445 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:08:09 +0000 His Barista 80445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had never heard of them before this week! I think the idea is sweet, but I don't think it needs to be something huge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80434 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 15:03:49 +0000 MsMamaBear 80434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like the idea. Why not save it for Mother's day? Yes, I gave birth, but he emotionally supported me. Do I get him something for having a stronger swimmer because he got me pregnant?</p> <p>I'm all for moms being appreciated, but I wouldn't have wanted one. Now Mother's Day I'm all for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80386 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 14:04:12 +0000 yoursilverlining 80386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: Ooh, I love the idea of a "push vacation"! (I love any reason/excuse for a vacation) :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80385 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 14:03:15 +0000 Rock n Roll 80385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband got me a snuggie and brought me a pizza when I had our daughter. I got him a video game for being so supportive throughout the pregnancy. It was more of "celebrating parenthood" moment than a push present I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80384 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 14:02:53 +0000 prettylizy 80384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's all about the thought/senitment. DH bought two little somethings (which I'm sure we're not expensive) and they're sitting in LO's nursery waiting for the big day. Both in little boxes, one says "It's a girl" one says "It's a boy" (we're team green). It's taken all my strength not to peak at them, but I know he put a lot of thought into what's in those little boxes, so I'll wait until we deliver to open the correct gift. I love that he put thought and effort into something to thank me for growing our baby. It doesn't need to be expensive or come in a velvet box, it's just about dad appreciating mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80381 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 13:52:08 +0000 banana 80381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm ALL for it! Mothers/wives/women are awesome and amazing and we deserve to be pampered and spoiled. Luckily my DH 100% agrees with push presents so now I have to figure out what I want! Yay! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80379 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 13:49:40 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 80379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kind of "meh" about them, honestly. But I've never been one for big, expensive gifts. Now if Papa Y wants to take me on a "push vacation" some day, I'm down with that :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80374 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 13:41:05 +0000 chopsuey 80374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think they're awesome. ;) Not necessary, but a nice gesture for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80373 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 13:40:06 +0000 looch 80373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a fan, but because we don't have a lot of chances in life to give each other more expensive gifts. I've gotten something from my husband to celebrate our love in my engagement ring, he's given me anniversary presents and something on our wedding day, so a gift to celebrate the birth of our child is a natural extension.</p> <p>We don't do gifts on the Hallmark holidays, and we do cake only for birthdays. Christmas is an experience gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80357 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 13:15:04 +0000 MsMini 80357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me and DH joke about it, but I feel like I have really been put through the wringer with this pregnancy (hyperemesis, GD, PIH, 3rd trimester spotting etc) and it would be nice if he would give me something in the end to show that he appreciates and understands all I have been through. He does little things now and again (like getting me a Valentine card from Ziggy). I don't think it has to be elaborate or expensive, but something to show he was think of me and appreciates and sympathizes with all I have gone through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80355 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 13:08:25 +0000 Crisark 80355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a fan. To me the baby is the present. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80344 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 12:41:39 +0000 mrs. wagon 80344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElisaT: no you don't! Go out and buy yourself your own present ;) Or go pick one out together. After what you went through, you deserve something to treat yourself, even if it's inexpensive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80341 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 12:40:04 +0000 mrs. wagon 80341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: Yes, especially confusing with deliveries that don't involve pushing, or adoptions, or other ways of becoming a mom...! Maybe it should be coined a New Mom present and be given at the shower... I've always enjoyed including a small, thoughtful gift for the mom at the shower.</p> <p>Wait, no, maybe no "New Mom present" since that would be turning it into an obligation as well ;) I think we could come to a consensus that it's just nice to be thought of and appreciated on a special day, whether it be through a present, a card, or just actions or words!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80338 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 12:36:38 +0000 littleveesmommy 80338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like the idea and had mentioned it casually to DH halfway through the pregnancy. I even told him it doesn't have to be pricey - its more the sentiment and thought he put into picking something out rather than just spending money on another piece of jewelry (which I don't wear often). As my due date had neared I knew he hadnt thought about it and I was a little disappointed that he didn't put thought into picking something. I also had quite the labor/delivery (16 hours labor 3 hours pushing with no drugs and then ended up with emergency c-section due to large posterior baby). He tells me he still can't believe I did that and he's still traumatized seeing me in that much pain, but I guess he just doesn't believe in push presents cause nothing yet. =\ kinda stinks. I just wanted some acknowledgement. I sound spoiled don't I? =P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80337 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 12:35:12 +0000 Grace 80337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: You hit the nail on the head. I couldn't think of why it was turning me off, but I think it's the idea of it being an obligation. Similar to how I love getting flowers any random day and am not so excited by the thought of flowers on Valentine's. </p> <p>I wish the name was different. Push present seems so odd. And there is more to do in growing a baby than push! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80312 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 12:17:44 +0000 mrs. wagon 80312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After the labor I went through, I was extremely happy to receive my push present and I wear them every single day as a badge of pride over what I went through. Much more beautiful than my stretch marks!! ;) (I got a pair of diamond studs.)</p> <p>I agree that the push present does NOT have to be something expensive. Although the diamond industry hasn't quite claimed the push present yet (anniversary bands, right hand rings, journey pendants... oh my!) Rob Sr. took the opportunity to give me something he wanted to get me for a wedding gift and couldn't afford at the time, and it makes the present all the more precious. </p> <p>Like every single other thing, I think it's something each couple should just decide whether or not they're gonna do it. Some couples exchange gifts for every event... I even know a married couple who still goes out on their dating anniversary. Whatever makes you happy!</p> <p>I'm a fan of all presents! @Maysprout: I love the idea of a massage being a pre-push present!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80307 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 12:16:06 +0000 Mrs. Marbles 80307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We joked about push presents a lot when I was pregnant, but I'm not really fan. I like the sentiment behind it, but I agree-- the baby is the present. Also, I usually buy things that I want/need myself, which is why when Mr. M and I exchange gifts, we much prefer sentimental things like letters to commemorate the year or event, instead of something we purchased. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80301 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 12:11:58 +0000 heffalump 80301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine for those who want them and want to give them, but I didn't see a need for it. I know my husband appreciated me for carrying our baby and giving birth to her, I didn't need a present. I have my LO, that's more than enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80299 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 12:10:23 +0000 HabesBabe 80299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Isn't the baby the "present?" I'm not a fan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80288 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 11:48:28 +0000 Mrsbells 80288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like the idea of it. First off because the hard work of childbirth isnt just done by the woman. Even though the woman is physically enduring the majority of the pain, its a process that affects both husband and wife as they both go through it together.<br /> And also because often times the push present is expected to be something expensive its rarely ever something cheap. I know childbirth is hard, painful.. etc but what has that got to do with receiving a piece of jewelry or an ipad. In my opinion the baby is the real push present and is the only thing that really truly makes up for the pain and hard work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80287 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 11:48:00 +0000 LivsMama 80287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im a fan. I got a pretty awesome one, and every time I look at it on my hand I think of Liv and DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-do-you-think-of-push-presents#post-80286 Thu, 23 Feb 2012 11:47:25 +0000 jennylynn 80286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think they are a nice gesture but can get out of hand. I would never expect a gift, especially a super expensive gift, but I think it'd be nice to have a special momento to mark the day. </p>