https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 16:35:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-49501 Mon, 09 Jan 2012 16:33:59 +0000 sorrycharlie 49501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>most of our fights are about his father..as opposed to his mom, in most normal fights, lol. he thinks his father walks on water and I...do not think so. </p> <p>we used to fight intensively about his drinking. he's not an alcoholic, but I really did not love dealing with him drunk (just annoyed me). we also used to really duke it out over how many beers = ok to drive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-49492 Mon, 09 Jan 2012 16:19:12 +0000 LuLu Mom 49492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our was about DH drinking, I thought he was getting a little too out of control with the amount/frequency and was being influenced by coworkers to ignore my concerns. We fought and came close to posponing our engagement at the time until he figured it out that it true. Now a new job and new outlook on the importance of our relationship has put everything on the right track! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-49480 Mon, 09 Jan 2012 16:06:15 +0000 MrsH 49480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sure it was about his mom- no one ever wins in that situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-49285 Mon, 09 Jan 2012 11:14:23 +0000 mrsjyw 49285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We argue over little things... the usual hubby/wife things. I think our biggest fight was during our dating period. And honestly, I can't even remember what we fought over! HOW SILLY. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-49106 Sun, 08 Jan 2012 21:52:32 +0000 mrbee 49106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rob: Haha sorry, I can't go against Mrs. Bee on her own site! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-49102 Sun, 08 Jan 2012 21:46:16 +0000 yoursilverlining 49102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The closest thing to a fight we've had was a drunken argument about which male celebs were "hot" or "not". </p> <p>In reality though, no fights. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-49074 Sun, 08 Jan 2012 21:02:54 +0000 Wagon Sr. 49074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: aw, c'mon Mr. Bee! my SO shared one of ours... give us something! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47272 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:53:35 +0000 mrs. wagon 47272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: I know. I always (half) joke about how if he dares to bring a girl home to me, I'll just call her a whore. So bad. I know from the way my parents were that I won't be so bad, but I just can't imagine him loving another girl more than me. I already want to break out the "do you understand how much I sacrificed to have you?? do you understand how hard I worked???" haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47231 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:37:48 +0000 chopsuey 47231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tina: HAHA. At least Rob's teachable and re-programable! I'm kind of scared of having a son because I'm afraid I might make him into a mama's boy.. What will I do when my son loves another girl more than me?!? :P<br /> :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47225 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:36:45 +0000 TJBee 47225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our biggest fight was about halloween decorations (I know, lllaaammmeee!). We had just moved in together, and I had decorations from when I lived by myself. I made the mistake of hanging some of them in his home office. He came home from work and FREAKED OUT. He didn't want me moving his stuff and invading his space without asking him first. So I asked him if I could hang them, and he said no. Which caused me to FREAK OUT.<br /> SOOO dumb! In the end, I just moved them downstairs to our "common living space" and it was a non-issue. I think it was more of an adjustment to sharing a home because we had both owned our own homes and lived independently for so long. We've got it figured out now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47219 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:33:56 +0000 mrs. wagon 47219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: good job with your ex. That's such a crazy red flag! Haha. </p> <p>Poor Rob Sr. insisted all along the way that I was his first priority... but after he realized it was hard-coded into his soul to put his mom first, he's been a LOT better. Many many fights and threats from me to leave him (very serious threats, I never really meant them, but it seemed to be the only way to get through to him) have started to re-program his reflexes. Also, it helps that my relationship with his mom has improved. It brings down his auto-defenses a bit. </p> <p>Man, am I saying too much? ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47209 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:30:55 +0000 chopsuey 47209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tina: Shiz. DH and I would totally fight if he prioritized his family over me and our LO. DH was raised by white folk and isn't a mama's boy. My ex.. always put his family before me. He told me that his family would ALWAYS come first. Even if we were to get married and have kids. Kicked his a$$ to the curb. </p> <p>Glad your DH finally has his priorities straight! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47200 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:27:18 +0000 chopsuey 47200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HAHA.<br /> DH and I haven't gotten into any big fights. I'm a pretty chill and laid back person and he's the same. I nag only if he doesn't respond/listen when I've asked him to do something a couple of times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47197 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:25:42 +0000 mrs. wagon 47197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Clementine: yaaaay, I'm not alone ;) the merging of families has got to be the most difficult thing in marriage. It's like the day of the wedding everyone automatically loves each other as family, but they're practically strangers. Then you have to learn about each other and figure out how to manage your relationship with them over the years. I think this is why most people can't stand their in-laws. The expectations to love each other and get along perfectly start WAY too high and too early.</p> <p>I feel like I could write a book ;)</p> <p>Even with my parents, I'm very independent from them and they're pretty easy to get along with, and I have a great relationship with them, but we still run into snags, especially around holiday time. I don't care who you are or how nice you are... there will always be issues!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47181 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:15:08 +0000 Clementine 47181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ Tina, I hear you! I think all our biggest fights are about our families. I can't blame him exclusively. We're both fiercely loyal to our families and do not like to hear the other complain or critique them. I also think it's because our family dynamics are different, so it's hard to understand why X in my family is like this or Y in his family is like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47165 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:01:16 +0000 mrs. wagon 47165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We fight all the time (mostly me nagging Rob Sr.) but our major fights have all been about family, mostly him prioritizing his mom over me. It was pretty much years 3 and 4 of our marriage. He is extremely protective over his mom and this has caused some major issues. This is something that I don't believe will ever be fully solved (he prioritized her for 24 years before marrying me, after all) but rather worked on every day for the rest of our lives. I made the mistake of thinking that once we had a baby, he'd automatically prioritize us over his mom, but old habits die hard. I know his priorities are straight now, but sometimes he reverts back and his reflex is to protect his mom in all circumstances. I also made the mistake of thinking it has to be all or nothing-- every time he slipped, I'd accuse him of loving her more than me. Like most other things in marriage, this is something that can only be improved slowly over time with a lot of work. I used to see it as a betrayal every time it happened, but now I just see it as an old bad habit and one of his many idiosyncrasies. It used to be devastating but now it's just annoying. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47158 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 12:54:44 +0000 tequiero21 47158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i can't recall a specific fight that was really bad. there were a handful of fights that were really bad. usually, it had to do with him finally blowing up about our messy house and i'd blow up back about how he's the one making the mess! or about cooking. i think he'll lay off now that we have a cleaner haha. and my ny resolution is to start cooking more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47118 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 12:28:19 +0000 BabyLove 47118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a rough 2007. We fought over everything. Every.single.thing. So I can't really recall any one topic that was particularly explosive.</p> <p>This morning we had a pretty heated blow out over the concept of a pre-moistened wipe. I'm just sayin'- they're moist wipes, why can't he just close the darn lid so they remain moist? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47110 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 12:20:36 +0000 cyneswith 47110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was over "No, I'm not moving to California with my BOYFRIEND. I'll move somewhere with my fiance, or husband, but you can't expect me to drop everything in the off chance you decide to commit." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47091 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 12:04:21 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 47091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can only remember one fight we had, and I can't remember what it was even about. We were in Germany at Oktoberfest, and we were both really drunk, so who knows! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47081 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 11:57:38 +0000 Modern Daisy 47081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our most serious fight was about getting engaged. Obviously it worked out for the best, lol! And our most intense fight was over our thanksgiving plans this year. We were both to blame for that, it was the result of a huge lack of communication and I definitely didn't say what I felt from the start, which started a snowball effect of plans going awry. It ended up hurting everyone in the process, both sets of parents included. </p> <p>In the future, we made a pact to NEVER discuss holiday plans with parents until we have had a chance to discuss them together in private and in person first and reach an agreement we are both comfortable with. In this case, DH was traveling on business when we spoke about it, I thought we were still discussing it and he thought we had decided so he went ahead and announced to his Dad we were coming. Meanwhile, my parents had been counting on us visiting them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47065 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 11:40:58 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 47065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We argued about whether being Confirmed and being Saved are the same thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-47006 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:54:28 +0000 Mrs Sorbet 47006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's funny, I was just thinking about this last night! </p> <p>At first I couldn't even remember a fight that seemed any bigger than the usual, petty ones. but then I remembered ONE time that I stormed out of the house and drove off without telling him where I was going. I turned my phone off and just drove around for a couple of hours to cool off. When I got home he was worried to death, and I've never done that again. I was probably 19 at the time.</p> <p>I can't even remotely remember what that fight was about, haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-46991 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:42:36 +0000 Adira 46991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I don't even remember what the fight was about! The biggest fight that I can remember was when we were still new in our relationship (under 1 year) and we almost broke up! I remember that we were doing homework in his dorm room, and I think we were arguing about <i>something</i> homework-related, although maybe not. And then I remember that he was mad because I was "argumentative" and he hated to argue (I think I thought we were debating...). Then all I remember was some yelling and crying before the apologizing set in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-what-was-the-biggest-fight-youve-ever-had-with-your-so#post-46985 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:36:40 +0000 mrbee 46985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SO is on Hellobee, so I can't tell you haha.</p> <p>But if you're willing to share, please do! What was the biggest fight you've ever had with your SO? Also, who won? :-) </p>