https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 23:19:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children/page/2#post-312538 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 08:50:12 +0000 dc yoga bee 312538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: Wow. I like this approach! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-312455 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 08:02:34 +0000 regberadaisy 312455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the camp of no spanking but my husband is for times when they have done something that can/has put themselves or others in danger. As he did when he was a kid!</p> <p>We will have to wait and see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-312427 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 07:40:35 +0000 heffalump 312427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There will be no spanking in our house. DH and I weren't spanked, and our kids won't be either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-312419 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 07:33:50 +0000 kml636 312419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I were both spanked. To me, there just has to be a better way. I'm not a parent yet though, so I'm sure in the heat of the moment, it's tempting. </p> <p>But I have seen with my oppositional nephew, spanking doesn't do anything but make him scream. Time out is the only thing that actually works. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-312312 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 03:53:54 +0000 looch 312312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, spanking is a swat on the hand when my son is about to touch the hot stove. He's not of the age where he understands going to a time out for something like that and there's no reasoning with him about what "hot" means, so that's how I deal with it for now.</p> <p>For larger transgressions, there are other methods, yes, but it also depends on the age, maturity and understanding the child has. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-312300 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 02:47:53 +0000 Rosie Girl 312300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. DH and I both are pro spanking. Its more of a swat on the butt than a spank though. We both were spanked growing up too. I would not be happy if someone else spanked our children though, other than our parents maybe... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-312180 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 21:30:52 +0000 googly-eyes 312180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. While I was spanked as a child and it wasn't the end of the world, I am hoping other methods will be more effective. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-312171 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 21:26:41 +0000 Beebug 312171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not meaning to spinoff, but I'm not brave enough to start my own thread, this is something that has always worried me.</p> <p>I was spanked as a kid, at times too hard, the line was definitely crossed at times by both my Mom and 1st Step Father. </p> <p>Children's Aid Society involved at one point "too hard".</p> <p>After many years of help for that "stuff" and other things as well, I find myself about to be a parent and while I know it's still a time away until LO is old enough to be spanking age, know that I really want to make good habits as a parent myself and after a few discussions with DH have said that because of my past (and how I feel I might "slip" to what I knew growing up and fear hurting my own children) that he will need to be the disciplinary. But let's face it, there are going to be times I need to do things on my own if DH isn't around. Does anyone else have similar fears? I feel like spanking or any physical contact from me to our children will be bad or could lead to be -it's an honest fear and while I think spanking has its place, I don't think it has a place with me as a parent, so I will need to learn to employ other tactics and not let myself slip to what I feel like will seem "natural", you know? *sigh* sorry OP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-312011 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 19:38:12 +0000 Silva 312011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, neither my husband nor I believes in using physical violence to discipline. We weren't spanked as children, either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311978 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 19:19:38 +0000 prettylizy 311978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was spanked maybe 4 or 5 times in my life. I don't think we will spank LO, there are so many others ways to discipline that don't involve hitting at our disposal I don't find it necessary. I also find it difficult to say to my child "No hitting" then turn around and spank them as a form of punishment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311969 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 19:16:46 +0000 anonysquire 311969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I was spanked when I was especially bad (pouring nail polish on my moms carpet, scratching my brothers eyeball, scratching my brothers back, throwing the picture frames) I am not scared of my parents or anything. It worked well for us. I don't think it is for everyone, but I don't think of it as a bad thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311778 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 17:07:33 +0000 littlebug 311778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was spanked on VERY rare occasions - probably 2 or 3 times in my life. It was only when I was in direct violation of a rule that my parents had set for my own safety. And only when I was caught in the act. If it was something I did at daycare and they heard about it, then I got a stern talking-to and punished (probably sent to my room), but I don't feel like that was quite as effective as a quick smack to the bum, because obviously I repeated the behavior at some point to get the spanking.</p> <p>Hubs and his brothers, on the other hand, were spanked and hit with a belt. He was terrified of his parents; his dad in particular. They were hit for small infractions - talking in church, spitting out their gum on the sidewalk, burping at the dinner table, etc. That is not ok.</p> <p>Hubs and I agree to do what my parents did - only spank if we catch LO in the act of directly violating a rule we put in place for his safety. Otherwise, we'll handle it in other, more efficient, ways.</p> <p>ETA: If anyone else dare lay a hand on our child, look out! It is for US to decide how and when to physically discipline him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311772 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 17:03:37 +0000 HLK208 311772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I said we wouldn't but there were two times that we did and DS did not respond well to it (became more angry/violent) besides it felt HORRIBLE for us even though we were calm when it happened. He does much better with a time out.</p> <p>So no, we won't ever be spanking again. And we won't allow anyone else to spank our children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311757 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 16:55:58 +0000 Arden 311757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both grew up in spanking homes, but we've decided that we will NOT be spanking our kids.<br /> Grandparents on both sides think we'll be raising spoiled children, but they don't seem to understand that discipline and spanking are not mutually exclusive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311690 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 16:00:01 +0000 pinkcupcake 311690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't think so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311683 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:56:57 +0000 DigAPony 311683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Ha! Word.</p> <p>We won't spank our kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311659 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:42:14 +0000 MaisyMay 311659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up in a pro-spanking household; Hubs did not. I remember being paddled (not too hard) only once or twice, probably deserved it more.<br /> We talked about this before we got married and reached the conclusion that only if no other form of discipline is being effective, and only in a very serious situation would spanking be used, and even then it would only be by one of us and only on the bum. It's definitely not a first resort form of discipline or the only form of discipline to use. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311636 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:29:46 +0000 JessicaMcB 311636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me and DH came from spanking households and are pro-spanking ourselves. Neither one of us is "scarred by the "violence"." we learned there were REAL consequences to being little jerks. I only ever had to be spanked once at three for tantruming in a mall- it never had to happen again for any reason because I had the fear of God (and my mom!) put into me right then and there. </p> <p>While I respect other peoples' parenting choices I wish more people spanked their children. While it definitely isn't necessary for a lot of people, some kids are just never going to respond to the "Now precious, please don't hit that little girl, it's not nice." approach and will continue to be little terrors due to their ineffectual parenting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311613 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:16:10 +0000 plaidpants 311613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: That is exactly how I feel. I think of discipline as a teaching moment. Hitting is not a behavior we want our LO to learn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311593 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:01:12 +0000 yoursilverlining 311593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think we will because I don't see what value spanking adds that wouldn't be added by something else that isn't an act of physical violence (like, time out, loss of privileges, etc.). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311586 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:58:06 +0000 fairefaire 311586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never. Absolutely never. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311581 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:55:51 +0000 Mrs. Pen 311581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: I don't think that that's how most spanking households deal with it - that sounds more like abuse to me.</p> <p>I would spank my children if his behavior warranted it. I've seen it done very tastefully. I do think it's important to never spank out of anger or when there are high emotions involved. It's very important to spank when the child understands why they are being spanked and can verbalize it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311578 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:53:45 +0000 Mrsbells 311578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted yes by DH and I only. I dont think anyone else should raise a hand against my child. I will only do it in certain situations, somtimes a little smack on the wrist works, but I cant control the level of force that other people might use. I dont feel comfortable smacking or spanking other peoples kids so no one should do it to mine </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311574 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:48:50 +0000 SugarplumsMom 311574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, it's illegal in Sweden. But I was spanked as a child. I wouldn't feel 100% comfortable spanking my child even if we didn't live here, even with just slight pats on the backside. But I'm definitely not against others doing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311557 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:33:27 +0000 immabeetoo 311557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Neither of us grew up that way so it really hasn't ever been a question. To me, it doesn't make sense to tell kids they shouldn't use physical means to respond/react/punish and then do it yourself. </p> <p>With that being said, I don't judge anyone else who does - whatever works for each family. Although it does make me uncomfortable when it is being done in public with an element of "shaming" involved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311554 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:32:26 +0000 mrbee 311554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a mIllion ways to pwn my kids without having to hit them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311533 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:17:35 +0000 wahine08 311533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up in a spanking family and I think we will when necessary (also in private) Spanking only happened when we were old enough to definitely know we were being disobedient and we were always warned multiple times before. This never caused my siblings and I to be aggressive. We never got into physical altercations with other children or each other!</p> <p>I will say that I will absolutely exhaust all other methods of discipline before getting there and hopefully I won't ever have to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311525 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:14:32 +0000 Boogs 311525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't a spanking family. I would be really upset if another family member or school went against our at home practices. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311520 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:11:47 +0000 meredithNYC 311520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't plan on doing it often, but should a situation that I think warrants such action arise, I definitely would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-will-youdo-you-spank-your-children#post-311480 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 13:51:40 +0000 Crisark 311480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes we have and will when necessary. </p>