https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 25 Jun 2026 04:49:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-119299 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 12:10:49 +0000 mynoahbear 119299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't think I could do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-119246 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 11:39:18 +0000 googly-eyes 119246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the context that you described, no.. I would rather endure the weird feelings of carrying another couple's child than the sadness of giving them my own child. But had I been in high school or maybe even in the first couple years of college I always said I'd give the baby up if I ever got pregnant. I don't think you can really ever say for sure til you're in that position though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118887 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 07:25:14 +0000 Grace 118887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I was not in a position to care for a baby, then I'd do adoption. I couldn't do it now, though - I want to be the one to screw up my kid in my own special way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118810 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 23:53:03 +0000 SugarplumsMom 118810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Noway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118809 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 23:50:22 +0000 DigAPony 118809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I got pregnant very young I would have strongly considered it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118799 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 23:27:06 +0000 tequiero21 118799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118762 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 22:09:35 +0000 cyndistar3 118762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely not! I could never give up my babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118758 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 22:05:24 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 118758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I would have ever considered it until I became a part of the adoption triad. It is such a beautiful gift to give to someone. I don't know if I could go through with it-- certainly not at this point in my life, but if I had difficult socio-economic circumstances or was very young I'd like to think I'd consider it.... I am so thankful that our birth mother gave us such an amazing child! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118734 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 21:36:53 +0000 cupcakemama 118734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a chance in h3ll! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118397 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 15:47:36 +0000 Honeybee 118397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could never go through with either adoption or surrogacy; I think both are incredibly selfless acts, but knowing how difficult pregnancy is for me, I could never do go through with it if I didn't have the end result of a baby to look forward to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118358 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 15:24:35 +0000 daniellemybelle 118358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I was in a different life, and it was for the best of the child, I might. For example, if I wasn't married and had no income and no family support. Adoption has come a long way and I would still be able to be in the child's life. But as it stands right now, I just don't understand why I would. I wouldn't have my own biological child that I was capable of rearing just so a loved one could raise it - that seems very odd to me and would probably send mixed messages to the child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118285 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:37:27 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 118285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118283 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:36:46 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 118283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't give my baby up for adoption, but I would like to be surrogate one day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118243 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:07:46 +0000 regberadaisy 118243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I can ever give my child up for adoption no matter how young I was. But I think that's largely because I have a great family support system that I know no matter what would be there for me.</p> <p>Surrogacy....I would consider doing it for siblings. But I don't know. Would we keep it a secret? If we did it won't be fair to the child. How can I look at that child every day and know it's MINE but pretend it's just a niece or nephew? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118239 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:06:05 +0000 chopsuey 118239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could never give my child up.. I could, however, carry someone else's child for them. Well, not just anyone--only my sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118237 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:03:41 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 118237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>surrogacy and adoption are both such selfless acts. It takes a strong, loving person to do either. Both choices are very commendable.</p> <p>That said: Would I ever allow someone to adopt my child on the sole basis that I had one, and they didn't? Absolutely not. But if I was a much younger me and was in a position to not give a child all the love and attention he deserved, then yes -- I would choose adoption. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118231 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:01:36 +0000 LuLu Mom 118231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't think I could do that. Especially with someone you see often, and seeing "your child" being raised as someone else's, I think it would be too much for me handle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118224 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 13:52:26 +0000 Mrsbells 118224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I could never. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118220 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 13:50:05 +0000 mrstilly 118220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was younger, still in college, I was pretty sure that I would chose adoption if I got pregnant unexpectedly. I had a pregnancy scare when I was in grad school and I had been in a serious relationship for over a year at that time, but he was terrified of commitment and I think even then I knew we weren't going to last. We talked about our options as I waited to get my period, and I was pretty positive I would chose adoption at that point. </p> <p>Right now, I would NOT ever consider giving up a child that was mine and my husband's. </p> <p>I would consider being a surrogate though. I love being a mother, and I think under the right circumstances (for a sibling or close friend), I would definitely consider surrogacy. I think it would be extremely hard to carry a child and then hand them over, but I think the joy of giving a child to someone I cared about would be totally worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118159 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 13:09:45 +0000 Alivoo01 118159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I could do it either since you'll be bonding with the LO well before they arrive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118146 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 13:01:09 +0000 banana 118146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I could do it. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118142 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:54:38 +0000 Andrea 118142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@miss-spunkin: i am not sure why they kept it a secret but my friend was in his 20s when he finally found out that he had another brother. they did know each other but they thought they were just cousins. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118133 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:48:21 +0000 Mrs. Pen 118133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: whoa! I don't think we'd keep it a secret... seems drastic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118127 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:45:07 +0000 MamaMoose 118127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I never could. When hubs and I were very young we discussed in advance that we would both be comfortable with an abortion if the unthinkable happened (but I was seriously insane about birth control so luckily we never had to face that decision). As soon as I graduated college and was earning a living I continued to be very vigilant about birth control but we both agreed that if we did get pregnant we would have the baby and keep it. Once I was a responsible adult who was supporting myself I couldn't imagine not taking responsibility for a pregnancy/child... planned or not. So I couldn't even give an unplanned baby up for adoption... nevermind getting pregnant with the intent of giving the baby away. That would be the most selfless gift I could imagine, and I guess I'm just not that selfless of a person! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118124 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:44:13 +0000 heffalump 118124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I'd love to be a surrogate because I would know from the beginning it wasn't my child, I'm just the home for 9 months. But if it were my baby, I want it to stay mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118121 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:42:01 +0000 HabesBabe 118121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be able to give up my own baby (with my egg/my husband's sperm), but I would feel comfortable with being a surrogate... I think the "mine-ness" would prevent me from giving someone else my genetic baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118119 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:40:34 +0000 Andrea 118119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way but I know someone who did. She gave away a son to her sister and they kept it a secret for 20+ years! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118114 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:38:26 +0000 MsMini 118114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I could ever ... I can't imagine not raising my own baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spinoff-would-you-ever-give-your-baby-up-for-adoption#post-118109 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:32:58 +0000 Mrs. Pen 118109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was thinking about this thread earlier about being a surrogate: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88770" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88770</a> </p> <p>And my husband and I were discussing it. We have a family member who was told she can't have children and although I don't even think she'd be open to surrogacy we were having a hypothetical discussion. My husband thinks it's weird and wouldn't be comfortable having someone elses egg/sperm inside my uterus, rightly so, I see where he's coming from, kinda weird if you think about it.</p> <p>But I had made a little joke to my family member that I could just give her one of my babies... so then we started talking about letting her adopt one of our kids... Idk if I could actually do it though! I would want to, because I want her to have this experience of being a mom, but I couldn't imagine giving up my child - especially after going through 9 months of carrying/growing the baby..</p> <p>How about you? </p>