https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 22:13:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626523 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 09:30:08 +0000 pastemoo 626523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: :) Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626518 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 09:26:24 +0000 Cherrybee 626518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like he's being a normal baby to me... but your step grandma would know better, after all she has met him once and I've not met him at all!! </p> <p>Please don't let her comments get to you. She doesn't know what she's talking about.... once you find a daycare provider your LO clicks with he'll be toddling off to play without a glance back, while you sniffle at the gate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626480 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 09:04:51 +0000 pastemoo 626480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the love. I am reading and re-reading everything and feel a bit better. :)</p> <p>@Kemma: Yes, they do. I am thinking it is a little bit of his regular personality, too.<br /> @babyjmama: That's great that your mom can take care of him! Please keep me updated if/when you transition to regular daycare. Good luck! :D<br /> @sunny: Just to clarify, the daycare mom did not say he was spoiled--and she even said one of her own kids was like that when she was a baby--she just said my little guy was too much for her now and she can't keep him. My step-grandma said he's spoiled when I told her that my son got fired from daycare.<br /> @banana: "I do it!" Hahah, I wonder what that will be like. He does that with food now--if I try to spoon feed him, he grabs the spoon!<br /> @zippylef: Thank you. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626322 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 04:10:21 +0000 loveisstrange 626322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: Honestly, I do think that 9 months is a rough age too. They have so much going on that even the most independent, low-maintenance kids need a little extra. C is extremely independent and she went through a massive clingy, grumpy phase at that age. </p> <p>Hopefully you can find a provider who is a better fit soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626235 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 01:12:00 +0000 banana 626235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He got "fired" after just 3 days the first time? I wouldn't say your baby is spoiled at all. The daycare provider just wasn't able to handle him. My son went to daycare when he was 2 and for a whole week he cried and wouldn't nap. She never once mentioned anything about it. She basically told me that "he'll get used to it" and that she has handled things like this before. </p> <p>I think it's great that your LO is attached to his mama. That's what babywearing is all about! The bond between mama and baby is just precious. And trust me, once he hits the toddler stage, all you'll be hearing is "I do it! I do it!". :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626221 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 00:43:01 +0000 Mrs. Pen 626221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I "know" you and G a little better than most bees here and I know how much you babywear but I do not believe G is spoiled or manipulative... You and I both recognize the benefits of babywearing esp in the early months but for me, I know the moment J started showing more independence I def let up on babywearing. I wasn't babywearing to spoil him and definitely wanted to encourage independence. But I don't believe that leaving a child crying in a chair/swing/etc is better than wearing them for fear of spoiling :)</p> <p>I do think G is a very high maintenance child. That's not necessarily a bad thing and YOU did nothing to make him that way, it's personality. My sister has a son who is high maintenance and that's actually the reason she started babywearing! So I know that baby wearing isn't the culprit. </p> <p>Anyway... I understand from the daycare providers POV that as a small daycare she couldn't handle a very high string child with other children to care for, but I also agree with others that a better daycare might fit his personal needs better. I don't think you should feel you need to compromise his personal needs: meaning if he's the type of baby who does best being held 90% of the time, try to find a center that can accommodate that! </p> <p>I know money is a factor so easier said than done! Good luck :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626182 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 00:04:49 +0000 sunny 626182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with what @Kemma said above... its ok that its not a good fit between the provider and baby, but to blame it on the baby for being "spoiled" is awful! I hope you find someone awesome soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626154 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 23:37:24 +0000 doodlepoodle 626154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: We haven't had to try "real" daycare yet, J is still at my mom's but he's 9 months and will be the death of the daycare if/when he goes. He's the SAME way. He is just a needy baby, always has been. I don't think it's anything I did specifically, we don't totally coddle him and he does play independently, but on the days he's fussy/needy? Oh gah. You betta watch out. Since he's with my mom for now it's not an issue, but when the time comes for daycare it really will be difficult. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626096 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:57:21 +0000 Kemma 626096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just a thought but don't babies usually go through some separation anxiety at that age?</p> <p>And blaming a wee babe for being "spoiled" is a pretty shitty thing for a daycare provider to do, it's one thing to say "hey, this isn't working and I'm not the right provider for your child" but to make a parent feel bad is not cool! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626094 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:55:17 +0000 pastemoo 626094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: :) Good luck to you too! Leaving LO at daycare is tougher than I thought it would be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626088 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:52:18 +0000 Freckles 626088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oops, i just re-read my comment and hope it didn't come off as sounding that wearing him is a bad habit. My LO (11 months) started daycare this week and it's been really rough. She was super needy and crying a lot the first couple of days. If daycares fired babies based on the first week, there would be tons of babies without childcare!!</p> <p>I babywear my LO quite often, and i don't consider herself spoiled. I hope you're feeling better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626028 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:32:39 +0000 pastemoo 626028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: the first firing happened after 3 days<br /> also he got his first tooth last week--I didn't notice anything but that might be part of it?<br /> Thank you for sharing your story with me. That really helps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625991 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:13:35 +0000 yoursilverlining 625991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>your LO only went to daycare for 4 weeks before they "fired" him??? That is totally on the daycare, mama, and not on you or your baby!</p> <p>When my LO started daycare, she wouldn't sleep at all unless she was rocked to sleep and held until she was completely asleep. She would SCREAM otherwise and completely melt down. She started daycare at 12/13 weeks and this continued until just about a month ago...at over 7 months old. They dealt, even though it was more difficult than a baby they could put down in a crib to sleep. Even now, she sometimes needs to be held and rocked to sleep. They have never once complained about it, because different baby needs are totally normal.</p> <p>Don't take this to heart, your baby is NOT spoiled in a bad way. Some babies need certain things to fall asleep, others don't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625954 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 21:55:24 +0000 pastemoo 625954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LittleGBee: :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625940 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 21:50:47 +0000 LittleGBee 625940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: No doubting your momskillz! I'm sure they are mad awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625926 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 21:43:16 +0000 pastemoo 625926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I think she's a little gun-shy. She is a very young grandmother (has a 10 month old grand baby plus 3 other babies in her home)--and two of her kids are still in school (high school).<br /> She said my son is like one of her (now teen) daughters used to be as an infant.<br /> My take is that I think she's remembering something and that has a lot to do with it.<br /> Thanks for saying he's not spoiled. :)</p> <p>@sarac: :) That is very sweet. Thank you.<br /> @LittleGBee: There is. I understand her, it's just sad. And it makes me doubt my momskillz.<br /> I think you're right. Every time one of her (older) kids is home and holding him, everyone is happy. I think it's just before they get home from school--maybe he doesn't like her? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625853 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 21:10:03 +0000 Freckles 625853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's awful! I agree with the above...sounds like the caregiver is super lazy! Even if a baby comes to the daycare with bad habits, they are usually able to break them. Ugh, i feel so bad for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625832 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 21:04:02 +0000 LittleGBee 625832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Man, this sucks! I'm sorry. As a former childcare provider there IS something to having the right personality match between provider and child, and I hope you find that match soon. </p> <p>I don't think you're spoiling him by wearing him, which is something that a childcare provider could/should realistically do. I think it's great that you're encouraging him to play independently, but if he's not feeling totally comfortable at a new place he might not be willing to do that. </p> <p>For what it's worth, I once watched this 6 month old for an entire month before I had to say no more. He wouldn't stop screaming when he was with me and nothing I did (aside from stepping outside, which wasn't always possible) made it any better. I was in tears most days and after I quit they found someone that he absolutely loved and was happy to be with. I don't know what it was about me, but we just didn't jive! I was happy that they found someone and I was happy to move on from the crummy situation. I hope you find something that fits everyone's needs soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625746 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 20:32:12 +0000 travelgirl1 625746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally I think he's too young to be spoiled. I agree with the pp who said it seems like the daycare is afraid of hard work. I'm so sorry this is happening. So many babies are worn a lot and they turn out just fine so try not to worry. Hope you can find an alternative daycare and big hugs to you and your little one (who I'm sure is not spoiled at all). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625725 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 20:24:30 +0000 sarac 625725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't personally think that a baby who craves contact and a lot of attention is spoiled, I think they're normal. Sure, some babies want less, and some babies get less and are just fine with it. But you certainly have not spoiled your baby. You've just raised him lovingly and closely in your own way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625723 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 20:22:57 +0000 mediagirl 625723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: I really think your daycare provider is incapable of managing more than just one or two children at a time. It's not your child, it's the daycare provider. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625702 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 20:15:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 625702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: Sounds more like a lazy day care than a spoiled baby to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625683 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 20:06:24 +0000 T.H.O.U. 625683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my. I'm so sorry. Sounds like you need a better fit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625627 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 19:48:31 +0000 brownie 625627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: I don't envy you. I lost child care a couple of weeks ago and the search was horrible. In my area, there isn't enough child care so, Every place I called was full and had a wait list. We ended up with only 1 week of no child care but it was emotionally difficult. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625617 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 19:46:10 +0000 meredithNYC 625617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't speak to whether your LO is spoiled or not, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry you're having a crappy day. I'm sure it is very stressful to be told that your LO is no longer welcome at day care and then have to find a new place :(</p> <p>On the bright side, hopefully you will find that your new place is a better fit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625602 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 19:41:20 +0000 pastemoo 625602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: Ok. I'm looking into new ones again. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625580 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 19:32:46 +0000 brownie 625580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: I don't think it has to do with cheap I just think it has to do with that one. There are many options. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625555 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 19:21:52 +0000 pastemoo 625555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: Yeah, I went for an in home day care so it's probably my fault for picking something too cheap.<br /> My old gym was like that, too and they were super sweet when they had to come get us from our workout. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625538 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 19:14:37 +0000 brownie 625538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This sounds mostly like a daycare that doesn't want to put in any hard work to me personally. So I think that it is a good thing that he got "fired" it doesn't sound like it was a good fit. Find a place that is willing to help you. My son is a hard baby but he is in no way spoiled. It just takes him a LONG time to warm up. It took 3 months for him to not cry the whole time at preschool. They never "fired" him.</p> <p>Now, the daycare at the gym I workout at will only let him fuss for 10 minutes before calling me. But they aren't professionals and they have a million kids usually. So I understand that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625533 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 19:11:09 +0000 pastemoo 625533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Please excuse my being so defensive. I really appreciate all your input. :) </p>