https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 00:07:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early/page/2#post-624725 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:33:54 +0000 yin 624725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We wanted to wait until 12 weeks to tell family and friends but ended up telling our parents sooner. I had heart issues due to the pregnancy, and I wanted to let them know that everything was okay. We waited until the next major family get together to tell everyone else. I didn't announce on my blog until I was able to tell my closest friends in person. I left my pregnancy and family life off of Facebook. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early/page/2#post-624707 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:30:05 +0000 LuLu Mom 624707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told on FB after about 15 weeks but our family and friends knew sooner. We told our immediate families right away and I told my best friends, but those who aren't as close didn't know until at least 11 weeks. We got the okay at our 10 week U/S from our doctor that we should be in the clear. But of course you just never know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early/page/2#post-624655 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:18:25 +0000 mrsjazz 624655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think there's a "too early" rule. People should tell whenever they feel comfortable saying something. We told our family, close friends, and my co-workers pretty darn early--before my missed period (I took a pregnancy test at work and was freaked out and blabbed). These are all people I would say something to if I had a miscarriage--however I am the kind of person to share information, I don't think there should be a stigma to sharing news about a miscarriage. It's something I feel people should feel free and open to talk about if they'd like to.</p> <p>We shared on FB after we had a good NTscan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early/page/2#post-624620 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:12:47 +0000 sarac 624620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I announced on facebook at 8 weeks after my first ultrasound. I might wait a little longer the next time. I don't like the idea of an 'appropriate' time, because that suggests that it's not ok to talk about having a miscarriage. If I had one, I wouldn't tell the world, because I know that people consider that unacceptable. I think that's not ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early/page/2#post-624017 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 09:12:39 +0000 jetsa 624017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had friends who sent out a mass text the day she peed on a stick and then FB after the 6 wk ultrasound. My hubby and I agreed that was too early for us but her reasoning was that its a part of life and so it wouldn't bother her if she had to share they m/c. They didn't shes now 27 weeks.</p> <p>We found out at 4 weeks, told immediate family at 6 weeks, had an ultrasound at 6.5 weeks and saw the HB, told the rest of our families. Told our close friends between 8-10 weeks. We heard the HB yesterday via doppler at 11.5 weeks and are planning to announce on FB this weekend. We were keeping it to families and are closest friends until yesterday now we'll share the news.</p> <p>Its a personal decision, I do not want to have to share a m/c with people we are not close to. It would kill me so we kept it close to home until after the first trimester. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early/page/2#post-623742 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 05:02:56 +0000 sera_87 623742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A freshly dripping pee stick is too soon. </p> <p>I would (and do) feel comfortable announcing after confirmation of a heartbeat, so 8-12 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early/page/2#post-623722 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 03:48:54 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 623722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told a few select people and my work at 4 weeks when I found out. I had to tell work due to safety concerns. We told family and everybody else all on the same day at 8 weeks. I know it is early but we just couldn't wait and TBH, if things went wrong I would feel weird hiding it from everybody. I would need the support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-623673 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 02:30:35 +0000 sunny 623673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never did an "announcement" on FB. We told our immediate families (parents &amp; siblings) right away. Then we started telling friends around 14 weeks. At some point, someone noticed a picture of me looking quite pregnant on FB and I confirmed it... that was probably around 6+ months :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-623666 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 02:18:44 +0000 MamaMagpie 623666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told immediate family only a few days after our BFP, and then I couldn't help myself from telling my dearest girlfriends not long after that. I was/am in the camp of wanting to tell people who I would need to lean on if something were to go wrong. Our first appointment was at 8w5d and we saw and heard a strong heartbeat, our next appointment is on Monday (can't come soon enough!) and I'll be 12w5d and if everything goes well, I will tell my boss/work and then we'll tell the rest of our friends and family! I'm going to issue death threats (haha?) to everyone about posting anything to FB, though -- I would be SO mad if someone outed us before we were ready! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-620806 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 13:26:20 +0000 googly-eyes 620806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: rooting for you! </p> <p>I think it's whenever the couple feels ready. We didn't fully announce til after our anatomy scan at 19w. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-620600 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 12:30:41 +0000 Foodnerd81 620600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everyone does have a different comfort level with it. I only told my sister and one close friend right away-- people who I would have needed support from if something happened. Our families we told around 9 weeks-- I might have told them a bit sooner if I'd seen them, but 1) I didn't see them, and 2) my little sister got engaged around that time and I wanted to let her have her attention for a while. We did tell one friend around that time because we went out for dinner and I wasn't drinking-- a dead giveaway. I figured if we told them, they wouldn't tell anyone else, but if we didn't say anything or made up an excuse, they'd probably gossip about it with other friends (in a nice way, but still). </p> <p>We started telling the rest of our friends between 12 and 14 weeks after the first ultrasound and getting the 1st trimester screening back, and work at 14 weeks. Still haven't announced on FB but I probably will next week (20 weeks). I just feel surprisingly private about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-620581 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 12:27:56 +0000 fatkid 620581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Miscarriages are super common. If you're ready to deal with the fallout of things going unplanned, then tell people whenever you want to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-620503 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 12:11:37 +0000 JessiBee 620503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told parents and siblings shortly after my BFP. After that, we didn't tell anyone until after the first trimester, when we started telling people at work, locally, and close friends. We didn't put it up on facebook until much later, probably 25-30 weeks, when there were already pics of me clearly pregnant. The facebook delay wasn't particularly strategic, just not our priority. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-620500 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 12:10:34 +0000 littlek 620500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a personal thing. I know people who tell everyone the minute they get a positive test. I waited till the end of the first trimester because I had a lot of spotting during the 1st trimester. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-620445 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:57:39 +0000 Mrs Checkers 620445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, it's funny I think everyone has a different opinion/timeline on this. I had an acquaintance tell me a few weeks ago and I think she was only 8 or 9 weeks along.</p> <p>With my first pregnancy, we told all of our close friends very very early...and then I miscarried.</p> <p>With the second pregnancy, we went ahead and still shared with our family and close friends because I would have wanted them to know anyway if something went wrong, but I was pretty cautious/anxious to get to the 12-week mark. Once I was at the first trimester, I felt comfortable enough to tell my employer and start telling more people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-620219 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:07:44 +0000 Bluebonnet 620219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told immediate family after we saw the heartbeat (7 weeks). We told close friends around 10-11 weeks. I announced at work after my first trimester screen results came back (13 weeks) and we started telling people when we saw them. We didn't put anything on facebook until after 20 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-620202 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:04:13 +0000 cascademom 620202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents had me figured out at 6-7 weeks. We didn't officially announce until 20 weeks on FB. My MIL announced on FB the day before we planned to. For LO #2, I plan on not announcing on FB until the birth. We also won't tell MIL until later too since she blabbed it on FB without our permission. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-620142 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 10:50:33 +0000 Meridian 620142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before we even TTC'd, I always swore that I would want to keep things quiet until after 12 weeks, and my DH never understood why. He always said he wouldn't be able to keep quiet. </p> <p>But when I finally got PG, I realized how hard it was to keep it a secret, especially amongst good friends/family. I wanted to tell people SO. BAD!! So we did end up telling a handful of people... and then had to tell them about our MC a few weeks later. It was really, really hard. </p> <p>So we both agreed that next time, we'll stick to the 12 week rule, at minimum!! Although, we found out about the MC at our 12 week appointment, so that seems like barely the "safe zone". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619829 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:34:38 +0000 Maysprout 619829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think there's an appropriate time to tell. If a woman wants to tell early then good for her. A pregnancy announcement isn't something I'd get offended by. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619824 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:33:14 +0000 WALLAROO 619824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think there is a hard and fast rule about when to announce. It is just whenever the couple is ready to share the news. DH and I told our immediate family around 8 weeks but did not tell other family or friends until 14 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619809 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:29:32 +0000 Lozza 619809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like telling people unnecessarily, and I never announce on FB or anything like that, but I've been so sick with all of my pregnancies (I'm on my third pregnancy) that we end up having to tell people. I've always had to tell work early (like after I ran out of an important conference call with several VPs last week to go throw up), we told some friends early because I dropped off the face of the earth and didn't want to do anything but sleep, we told my parents early so we could ask for help w/ LO, and I told my gym early because I'm cutting back on intensity. I feel like we only told people when it was relevant, but that ended up being a fair number of people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619799 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:22:20 +0000 Charm54 619799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our family early - 6 weeks. We wanted their support in case anything happened. We then waited to tell anyone else until we heard the heartbeat at 9 weeks. We had an ultrasound at 10 weeks and heard the heartbeat then so it pretty much became common news by then. The study I read said after 9 weeks and hearing the heartbeat your mc rates go down to 0.5%. I'm 12'weeks now and still not feeling totally out of the woods but I'm starting to show so am glad that everyone knows. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619792 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:18:41 +0000 mrsmacandcheese 619792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have told a small handful of friends (and I guess I'm 'out' online!) but with the caveat that it's very early and things could not turn out. I'd like to see an U/S before telling our parents, and I don't want to tell the general public until the 2nd tri. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619791 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:17:19 +0000 Bao 619791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our parents and siblings around 6 weeks, and then told the world around 10 weeks. We had two ultrasounds at that point, both with good heartbeats and no known issues so we were comfortable doing it 3 weeks early. I wouldn't be comfortable doing it any earlier than that, and next time we will probably wait 12 or 14 weeks just because having a secret is fun ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619756 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:00:36 +0000 ShootingStar 619756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My personal philosophy is to only tell the people early that I would tell if I had a mc. I do kind of hate the fact that you're not supposed to talk about it though. I had an early miscarriage months ago and I feel like its such a taboo topic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619738 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 08:50:55 +0000 anbanan15 619738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone until after 14 weeks and some people we didn't tell until I was well into my 6th month (grandparents, coworkers, basically anyone I was not close with or felt needed to know). We never announced on FB either.</p> <p>One of my good friends from HS posted on FB that they were expecting and I reached out to her (we lost touch in college) assuming she had to be as far along as I was. Her LO is 4 months younger than DS and she was only about 6 weeks when they announced. We her second one she told me again when she was only about 6 weeks. Her 2nd baby is due today! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619723 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 08:46:35 +0000 Bookish 619723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our family pretty soon, at 7 weeks, because they were all coming to our house for Thanksgiving and I knew I couldn't keep it from them! We had planned on waiting to tell work &amp; FB until 12 weeks, which would have been Xmas, but my looovely (and really, he's a lovely man, just this time, UGH) BIL announced for us at 10 weeks on FB, and we were outed. I was seething mad. </p> <p>I really was just too excited to wait anyways :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619707 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 08:34:13 +0000 MrsTiz 619707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: ME TOO! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619705 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 08:33:04 +0000 Smurfette 619705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sadly, I know too many people that went through m/c, so I was really nervous. We told parents, siblings, and close friends at 9 weeks, after we heard the heart beat. Well I told my parents and siblings at 6 weeks. Then we waited till 15 weeks, so I could do in person, to tell the rest of my family. Then work at the same time. We didn't announce on FB until 20 weeks and we knew the gender. </p> <p>It makes me so nervous for the ones that announce so early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spreading-the-news-how-early-is-too-early#post-619671 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 08:12:31 +0000 blackbird 619671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would never announce on FB that early (I waited until 20+ weeks), but I have no problem telling my friends when I'm pregnant, even if it's early on. They have been nothing but sweet and supportive through my past m/c. I don't tell family until after the first trimester, though. That 6 week heartbeat isn't enough for me and the gossip spreads WAY too fast! </p>