https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 09:35:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stay-at-home-mom-article-i-found-interesting#post-1450446 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 10:41:23 +0000 Jenn23 1450446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: I hate having to ask (and yes, sometimes beg) for help, too. I want him to WANT to do these things, but that just ain't happening. </p> <p>For the rest of you that said your husband's help automatically, did you have to initially ask them to clean bathrooms, etc. or did they just always do it? I've asked so many times in the past, but he never just does it on his own. And truthfully, I know he feels since I am the one home all day, I should do it. Even though he had said while dating that he believes in the whole gender equality, etc. and no clear gender roles, I don't buy that for a sec anymore. He thinks since I stay at home, that I should do those things more than him. Sometimes I think that is true since I DO have the time to do those things. But most of me thinks that is a load of crap. I am so busy during the day taking care of our toddler and would love the help when he's home. Even on weekends, I have to tell him when to feed our son, or ask him to do it. He never initiates anything. I still feel like it is my full-time job on the weekend taking care of our son. </p> <p>I loved all of you who said when your husbands are home, the work is divided 50/50. Did they always do that, before kids? DId you have to ask them to contribute? Ours is not. But he will gladly do anything I ask him to do as I said. But never, ever volunteer to do it. I actually left our vacuum in the upstairs hallway many months ago to see if he'd vacuum (I know that is passive aggressive) because I'd asked before if he would do the vacuuming weekly. The vacuum sat for over a week! Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stay-at-home-mom-article-i-found-interesting#post-1448028 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 11:15:03 +0000 pinkcupcake 1448028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jenn23: Oy, sounds like a tough week! Good luck! </p> <p>DH usually asks what he can do to help me out more - I tell him just watching LO so I can get some stuff done around the house is the most help to me. Sometimes he feels bad because he doesn't consider that helping since he would rather spend time w/her than do anything else, but I think that's the biggest thing he could do :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stay-at-home-mom-article-i-found-interesting#post-1448014 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 11:08:50 +0000 mrskc 1448014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's really great about helping. He probably does more cleaning than I do. Every weekend he vacuums and mops the floors and he sometimes does the dishes during the week and will help with making dinners too. Usually whoever cooks, the other does the dishes. He does bath time and bedtime every night too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stay-at-home-mom-article-i-found-interesting#post-1448008 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 11:06:49 +0000 JerricaBenton 1448008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is like the man in the article, too. I'm definitely lucky because even though we have more traditional gender roles in our relationship (both of our preference) once he's home he'd never balk at helping with the dishes or anything to make our time go more smoothly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stay-at-home-mom-article-i-found-interesting#post-1448001 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 11:05:42 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1448001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband doesn't do anything unless I beg him or I've had such a hard day/night that I'm sobbing. Sometimes I wish it didn't take so much to get him to be helpful but he also has a REALLY low cleanliness threshold (whereas mine is very high), and an extremely high sleep need. As long as I cook dinner he rarely notices if anything else is amiss. I recently started implementing him doing bath time when he isn't working overtime &amp; Sunday mornings I wake him up, change LO's diaper, hand her over &amp; catch a little more sleep myself. I wish I didn't have to make him cause it makes me feel mean but he doesn't complain so I figure that's just how it needs to be. We're happy (usually lol) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stay-at-home-mom-article-i-found-interesting#post-1447996 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 11:05:10 +0000 Jenn23 1447996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's great that all of your husbands are so helpful! Mine really is, but doesn't volunteer to do things as I said before except dishes, trash, etc. </p> <p>@pinkcupcake: That's what my husband does when he gets home from work. he plays with J while I get dinner started and he does the bedtime routine. So I get my "break" as soon as he gets home. </p> <p>My husband is away for a week right now for work, so there isn't a break. First time he's been gone more than just a few days since our son was born. It's definitely harder and makes me appreciate what it would be like to be a single mom. It's tough! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stay-at-home-mom-article-i-found-interesting#post-1447984 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 10:58:58 +0000 Ra 1447984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is really particular so he helps clean a lot. It actually makes me feel a little guilty because he will get to things before I have the chance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stay-at-home-mom-article-i-found-interesting#post-1447982 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 10:57:55 +0000 pinkcupcake 1447982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband sounds like the guy in the article. During the day, we have our respective jobs- his outside of the home and mine at home w/LO. But as soon as he gets home, we start tag-teaming - he usually scoops up lo and plays with her while I do dinner, chores, etc and then he takes over bedtime while I clean, feed the dogs, and finish up the chores. He also helps out with chores as much as he can. I feel very fortunate to have a so who puts in 110% outside and inside the home!:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stay-at-home-mom-article-i-found-interesting#post-1447972 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 10:54:49 +0000 twinmama 1447972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our house is far from spotless, but dh is awesome about helping.....doing dishes in the evening if I can't get to it, taking out the trash/recycle, cooking meals a few times a week, doing his own laundry, and scrubbing the bathrooms about once a month on the weekends. We kind of each have an unspoken list that we take care of, but help each other out if we can tell the other is tired or busy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stay-at-home-mom-article-i-found-interesting#post-1447961 Tue, 25 Feb 2014 10:47:44 +0000 Jenn23 1447961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jill-krause/i-want-to-say-this-to-stay-at-home-moms_b_4844453.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jill-krause/i-want-to-say-this-to-stay-at-home-moms_b_4844453.html</a></p> <p>How many of your husbands or partners help with the housework when they are home? Just curious! My husband helps, but I do have to ask most of the time. He will offer to help here and there and he does do dishes most nights and always takes care of the trash duties. But he never just jumps in and does any vacumming, mopping, etc. That is one of my fantasies...that he'll just say one day, "Honey, I'm going to go scrub the bathrooms and mop all the floors". That would be amazing. :) </p>