https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 21:22:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194372 Sat, 30 May 2015 19:22:54 +0000 Foodnerd81 2194372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artsyfartsy: yes C started doing that around that age too! She would walk around and point to the things she wasn't supposed to touch or climb and say, no no no! </p> <p>@Jess1483: on the plus side, she also mimics nice things I say. Tonight she picked up a pair of shoes and said, oh thank you! I was confused why she would pick up shoes and say that, but then she walked over and put them on the mat near the door where we keep shoes and I starts to say, oh thank you! In the exact same voice she did it. I didn't even realize I say it like that- it was really funny. So she's picking up good habits too at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194348 Sat, 30 May 2015 17:37:40 +0000 Jess1483 2194348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: DS put himself in time out all the time, and then would throw an epic fit. I had no idea how to handle that--like, if you don't want to be in time out, walk away. You aren't even really in time out.</p> <p>@Cherrybee: My little guy held up his hand the other day and said "mommy frustrated little bit." It's so funny/terrifying to hear yourself echoed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194344 Sat, 30 May 2015 17:21:19 +0000 artsyfartsy 2194344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 15 month old is learning what isn't okay to touch. He tried to reach for an electrical outlet today (it's got plastic plugs but I still teach him not to touch) and I told him "No we don't touch those". Now he points to an outlet and says NO NO NO!</p> <p>@Cole: That's really good advice!! I'm going to have to remember that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194264 Sat, 30 May 2015 12:56:33 +0000 deerylou 2194264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, yeah. I will often get a swat to the face, followed by, "no hit, yuh lady (no hitting, young lady)!" OK, kid. We implement time out/time in, and she goes anyway, regardless of calling herself out. </p> <p>My favorite is when she brushes her stuffed animal's teeth and furrows her brow like I probably do and says, "stay still, peeeeeeeeas!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194242 Sat, 30 May 2015 12:05:22 +0000 Foodnerd81 2194242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: :grin: thanks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194134 Sat, 30 May 2015 08:20:46 +0000 MenagerieMama 2194134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Just to add (LO is only 8 mo so I have no practical advise!) but I bet you sound like a rock star mom and not an idiot at the park. This mom that was often with her LOs at the dog park when I would go last summer when I was pregnant was awesome about verbalizing things with her littles and validating emotions and talking through their actions and rules, etc and it was just so great to see her be so wonderful with her kiddos and it showed. I told her so! She said she felt silly for talking all the time so appreciated the feedback! So I bet you just come across as a super thoughtful parent and not a crazy one :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194124 Sat, 30 May 2015 08:04:39 +0000 Cole 2194124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: it's crazy hard! And yes, I start to feel like a lunatic sometimes too! Toddlers sure make life interesting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194116 Sat, 30 May 2015 07:54:37 +0000 travellingbee 2194116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: yes that's why they say you should say, "walk please" instead of "don't run". Tell them what you want them to do instead of what you don't want them to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194108 Sat, 30 May 2015 07:43:10 +0000 Truth Bombs 2194108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always call my LO by her full name when I catch her being naughty, so now she says her full name when she's doing something she's not supposed to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194105 Sat, 30 May 2015 07:30:43 +0000 Foodnerd81 2194105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: that's a good point about don't run and hearing Run! I've been trying to calmly ignore it (unless it's dangerous) and then focusing on when she does what I want (oh good job sitting on the bench. Look, mommy is sitting on The bench and you are sitting on the bench, because benches are for sitting. Great job!) (I sound like an idiot at the park). </p> <p>But some days I am patient. Some days it's a lot harder... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194099 Sat, 30 May 2015 07:18:27 +0000 Cole 2194099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>These stories are adorable! I can totally see why it's frustrating though! Aside from the fact that "this too is a phase" the one suggestion I can offer is try rephrasing to what they can/should do. For example, the couch is for sitting, please walk, books are for reading etc. One step further is if she is throwing take the item away and say "you want to throw! Let's get a ball!" Or you want to bang, let's get a drum/pot etc. </p> <p>There have been studies showing young kids see in pictures so if you say " don't run " they basically hear "run!" So don't jump on the couch doesn't mean the same thing to her as it does to you. </p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194083 Sat, 30 May 2015 06:20:26 +0000 Foodnerd81 2194083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: oh my god, that's adorable. And frightening. These kids are too smart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194081 Sat, 30 May 2015 06:19:05 +0000 Cherrybee 2194081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Hahahaha! I love it when kids echo what their parents say. I'm not a shouter but I do this "weary" voice I wish I could stop doing. I hear myself saying "oh, for the love of God, Elliott".... and the other day, she held her head in her hands dramatically and wearily said (to the dog) "Just..... stop!". I was mortified! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194078 Sat, 30 May 2015 06:13:47 +0000 Foodnerd81 2194078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: same- she is absolutely looking for the reaction. So now I try not to react or very calmly agree with her on the rule. Then when she does what she is supposed to I praise her. Maybe it's helping? </p> <p>She has also started shouting the things I yell at her, like, "C! Sit! Down!" Good reminder that I'm yelling too much... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194060 Sat, 30 May 2015 05:13:09 +0000 Cherrybee 2194060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Oh, E definitely understands what it means! Her eyes shine as she does it and if I ignore her she repeats "no..... nooo.... get down (or whatever)...." until I look and then does the forbidden act when I'm looking. She likes the reaction! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194054 Sat, 30 May 2015 03:56:04 +0000 regberadaisy 2194054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOL yup. It's maddening! It's mostly because they don't even really understand what it means yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194051 Sat, 30 May 2015 03:22:31 +0000 Cherrybee 2194051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes!!! E does this all the time! It drives me mad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194048 Sat, 30 May 2015 03:11:36 +0000 sorrycharlie 2194048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup.. My daughter did that around the same age. I think it's part of the whole learning cause and affect (if I do this, mom will do what?) but gosh is it frustrating lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2194039 Sat, 30 May 2015 01:25:53 +0000 birdofafeather 2194039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>R said she needed a time out the other day when she was getting too excited (she had been getting TOs for kicking and hitting) so i thought she was learning that she needed a break. I told her she could go over there if she wanted and she started walking over to the TO spot and cried. I had to talk her down from the ledge and get her out of (her self enforced) time out. Ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2192942 Fri, 29 May 2015 00:58:04 +0000 Woolly Mammoth 2192942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha. Yeah, my 20-month-old likes to say "nono!" while shaking his head and doing something he's not supposed to be doing. He always makes eye contact with me first too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/staying-the-rules-during-the-act-of-breaking-them#post-2192855 Thu, 28 May 2015 21:40:31 +0000 Foodnerd81 2192855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone else's also do this? C is 22 months old, becoming more verbal, generally pretty good, but lately she has been doing this thing where she knowingly breaks the rule while looking at me and saying the rule. As in, she will stand up in the couch and say, "no standing on the couch!" It's very annoying, but also adorable because she doesn't really use sentences yet, other than mimicking full sentences that I say a lot (like no standing in the couch). She also says "take it away" after we went through a phase where she would bang toys and we would say, stop banging that or we have to take it away. Now she bangs it and holds it out to us and says "take it away" </p> <p>Ugh. Toddlers. I don't think I'm really getting my point across to her. </p>