https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 27 Jun 2026 20:11:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1643768 Mon, 19 May 2014 06:32:51 +0000 Adira 1643768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: haha, yeah, I was actually already pregnant when we saw everyone at Easter and they asked when we were having #2! I was just really noncommittal about it and didn't confirm or deny anything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1643762 Mon, 19 May 2014 06:28:28 +0000 wonderstruck 1643762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Ugh, hate that, I went to a birthday party when I was about 9 weeks along and totally got asked when we were going to have another! I just said something lame like, "We'll see." If they'd asked if I was pregnant I totally would've accused them of calling me fat, haha. But no one did, I just wore a shirt that had some flow or ruffles to it when I wanted to conceal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1643748 Mon, 19 May 2014 06:17:05 +0000 Adira 1643748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pmrlady: haha, if someone straight up asked me if I was pregnant, I'd probably say "Are you calling me fat?????"</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: That's true. Hopefully no one will actually be scrutinizing me! But we've already gotten questions from my ILs about when we're having baby #2, so I imagine we'll get more questions at the party too! Ugh.</p> <p>@JennyD: That's true! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642886 Sun, 18 May 2014 14:29:20 +0000 JennyD 1642886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: if they do, you can just say you were waiting until xxx weeks so you were sure everything was going smoothly :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642861 Sun, 18 May 2014 14:03:11 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1642861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I know when I was pregnant, I was so sure everyone could tell and that I'd never be able to hide it. But honestly, people are so into their own stuff that most of the time they're not thinking about whether or not you might or might look like you are knocked up. It was like 26-28 weeks before people started noticing with me and I got a lot of "wow, I had no idea" (though second babies are harder to hide!)</p> <p>I'd just go in good faith and deal with any questions privately (which it sounds like you are now planning to do it that way). Just don't be self-conscious of what others are thinking and you'll be fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642857 Sun, 18 May 2014 13:55:54 +0000 pmrlady 1642857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: i know you want to wait until later but do you think you could tell them before the party? I'm just thinking of a situation where someone does notice you look different and straight up asks you if you're pregnant? I know that most people wouldn't ever dare ask a woman that question but some people actually have the balls to ask especially family members. </p> <p>So if someone does ask you, would you say no? </p> <p>That's the only reason I would suggest telling them privately before the party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642450 Sun, 18 May 2014 03:45:42 +0000 Cherrybee 1642450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I'm glad that's all sorted!! I've only just seen this thread and it was a roller coaster of emotions starting with "Noooooo" and ending with "Phew!". :grin: </p> <p>@Adira: I totally understand why you would want to announce then. It's so convenient with everyone together and, like you say, you're already showing..... but I agree with the all-knowing, wise Hive on this one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642393 Sat, 17 May 2014 22:37:43 +0000 autumnlove 1642393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I think waiting a few weeks is a great idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642350 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:47:58 +0000 Adira 1642350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: Yeah, MIL may make it a bigger deal than I intend it to be, which I hadn't really thought about before! Probably to just be safe and ensure I don't hurt anyone's feelings, it would be better if I didn't tell anyone at the party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642349 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:45:39 +0000 birdofafeather 1642349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh, I don't see the issue with telling people in person at a party (except maybe an engagement party!) as long as it wasn't some big announcement, but maybe your MIL would make a big deal of it so it would steal thunder? I feel like with #2, anyone will tell will be in a much more low key way. That's how it's gone with most of my close friends and subsequent babes. Just like, so we're having another baby! And it's like, oh great, congrats. No further questions needed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642344 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:41:52 +0000 Adira 1642344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: hahaha, at least it was a kid! They can get away with saying stuff like that!! I'm worried about adults asking me and implying that I'm fat!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642335 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:35:55 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1642335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I'm 24w and everyone knows. I told my cousins myself.</p> <p>At a Mother's Day picnic my youngest cousin (7) comes up to me and says, "are you havig a baby or something?" and I said yes, and he replied "WHEW. I thought you were getting fat!"</p> <p>which is exactly what his older brother said when I was 18w along with Chloe. What a turd! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642330 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:33:11 +0000 Adira 1642330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: haha, yeah, when we told my grandmother, she made some comment about me looking chubbed out, so she was totally wondering if I was pregnant. Um... thanks grandma...</p> <p>@swedishfish: That's true - I suspect the reaction won't be quite as extreme as the first time around! But I still don't trust her to keep it quiet! She's VERY chatty, so I just can't imagine her not mentioning it if we told her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642324 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:30:44 +0000 swedishfish 1642324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I found my second pregnancy announcement didn't get as big a reaction as my first did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642323 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:29:50 +0000 ALV91711 1642323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Lol!! That is sweet, but not if your trying to be hush. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642322 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:29:17 +0000 sorrycharlie 1642322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: if it makes you feel any better, I agree that sometimes people just like to feel part of it - I told my mom today and she said "that's why you've been so emotional!!" ...uh, say what? I missed my period today! Lol. I HAVE been emotional, but not that she knew - I've only talked about it with a friend. Oh well - lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642319 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:28:05 +0000 Adira 1642319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ALV91711: haha, there's NO way my MIL could keep it quiet!!!! Last time she sobbed like a baby, haha. Which was totally sweet, but also in private! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642317 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:26:48 +0000 ALV91711 1642317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I don't get why you can't just quietly tell your MIL while you are there and tell her to keep it quiet since you won't be seeing her in person for quite some time. </p> <p>Personally I'd rather tell people in person than on the phone, it is more exciting to me that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642312 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:25:01 +0000 Adira 1642312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: haha, seriously! Last time, we didn't tell until 14 weeks, so we had a couple opportunities where we saw family and I didn't have a drink or something and then they apparently just gossiped about me for weeks until we finally came clean! I think THAT'S what annoyed me the most - knowing that they were talking about me like that!</p> <p>@swedishfish: Really???? Maybe I'm taking "I knew it" too literally??? I could see saying something like "Yay!!! I was hoping that you were!" or something like that, but saying "I knew it" seems like you're saying I look pregnant or you've been watching my every move and scrutinizing it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642305 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:21:37 +0000 swedishfish 1642305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I think people just like to feel included and close to you and that's where the "I knew it" comments come from. They don't mean you look fat or anything else. They come from a place of love and excitement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642304 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:20:59 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1642304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I didn't like the "I knew it" comments either! Usually because they came from people who were always guessing I was pregnant for months before I was. Once I was actually pregnant and they said it sometimes I wanted to say back "anyone with half a brain could have guessed... Good job!" Hahaha :silly: </p> <p>Also agree just tell them after :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642298 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:16:47 +0000 Adira 1642298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Well, if I'm going to tell them over the phone anyway, I'm going to do it when we originally planned to tell people, at 14ish weeks. The only reason I was even considering telling people this early is because we were going to see them in person! So if not at the party, we won't tell them at all until later!</p> <p>And I'll TRY to take the "I knew it" comments lovingly, but it will be hard!! I feel like those comments are just validating that I either look fat or people have been gossiping about me for not eating the lunch meat or something!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642287 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:12:15 +0000 yoursilverlining 1642287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Why not take the "I knew it!!" comments in a loving way, meant with their excitement for your bebe #2? Some family members will say "I knew it" to any announcement for anyone of child-bearing age :silly: </p> <p>I don't see any issue with telling them before the party if you want, it's just "an announcement *at* a party" that I think most people are saying to shy away from. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642283 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:08:17 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1642283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: @Adira: well, I guess the "I knew it!!!" remarks don't actually matter but they are kind of annoying? But really, regardless of when or how you announce there's always that one person who totally called it but really had absolutely no idea you were having baby making sex. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642282 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:08:03 +0000 Adira 1642282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: @littlek: True! It's just annoying!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642280 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:04:56 +0000 littlek 1642280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: so true! And who cares if they do? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642278 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:03:40 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1642278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: they're going to say "I knew it!" no matter when you announce! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642275 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:02:20 +0000 Adira 1642275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: Not sure I have anything loose and flowy enough, but I'll scrounge my wardrobe!! :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642270 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:00:11 +0000 littlek 1642270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: just wear something flowy and loose or call them before the party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stealing-attention-from-birthday-to-announce/page/2#post-1642267 Sat, 17 May 2014 20:55:46 +0000 cmomma17 1642267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I second the call for a bump photo :) </p>