https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 01:33:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2668449 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 22:11:53 +0000 Bernieboo 2668449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know at least three people who have had or were post vasectomy babies. I think it's better now, but you really have to keep up with the sperm testing. DH would totally get one... After seeing me carry and birth one kid, by the time we're done, I've totally paid my dues and he'd take one for the team. But I have terrible endometriosis. So, when we decide we're done, I'll have a c section and a hysterectomy for the last baby. I'm really, really looking forward to this and hoping I can basically stay nursing and/ or pregnant until that happens. Endometriosis is no joke! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2668259 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 15:49:55 +0000 ShootingStar 2668259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got a tubal with my 2nd c-section. I am 1000% ok with never being pregnant again. Also, I lean heavily on DH. I had no interest in him being out of commission for a few days for recovery. The tubal took an extra 5 minutes, and I may have had a tiny bit more soreness this time. Totally worth it for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2668236 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 15:26:51 +0000 oscarthegoon 2668236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: I agree 100% </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2668188 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 14:45:48 +0000 ValentineMommy 2668188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: Really for the same reason as @lilteacherbee mentioned. While I'm not as young as she is, I always thought I wanted 4. I'm 99% sure we're done with this 3rd one, but hubby says he's 100% done. Which I'm ok with....but if he's the one that's really DONE, he's the one that should make it so. I've put my body through hell for my children and sacrificed through enough changes. He can do this one thing now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2668173 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 14:34:05 +0000 alphagam84 2668173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It will definitely be my hubby's turn when we are done having children. If I have to be pregnant and give birth then he can surely deal with a shot and snip down there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667888 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 09:37:01 +0000 Mamaof2 2667888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: my point was that your already cut open so why not? But yes, not as easy to reverse! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667878 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 09:16:58 +0000 lilteacherbee 2667878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH volunteered for a vasectomy after our third is born and I'm glad! After going through a m/c, D&amp;C, pregnancy and c-sections (x3), I feel like it's his turn. Plus, I was the one on birth control (the pill) all those years before babies.</p> <p>@ValentineMommy: @Mamaof2: My OB asked me if I wanted a tubal during my third c-section. I was actually leaning towards yes, but then I thought more about it. I'm only 27, so while I'm pretty confident that this is our last, things could change down the road. She said there is only one doctor within 200 miles of us who will do a tubal reversal and it's often much more expensive, not to mention more invasive, than a vasectomy reversal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667871 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 08:59:44 +0000 ValentineMommy 2667871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: I read that....it's more of the principle of the thing really. My body has been through enough. I've had more than a dozen surgeries since my 20's. It's time for hubby to do something! Plus, his is reversible, right? Whereas the tubal is not (or at least, not as easy to reverse)? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667858 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 08:32:27 +0000 Mamaof2 2667858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: just as a thought if your having a c/s a tubal takes an additional 3 mins - that's what I did , so easy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667849 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 07:19:45 +0000 ValentineMommy 2667849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I brought this up to DH a few weeks ago and he looked at me like I had just asked him to cut his legs off. I really don't understand why men can be so freaked out about it. </p> <p>I don't know if he expected me to have it done (which I'm not going to do), or what he was thinking really. He probably wasn't thinking long term, in all honesty.</p> <p>But yea, even though I'm having a csection (and it'll be my third one), I think I've done and gone through enough. It's up to him to have it done. Or deal with condoms. Lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667755 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 21:37:25 +0000 skipra 2667755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't even consider it so it's 100% up to him. I feel like it's going to be one of those things that DH just ignores until there is either another pregnancy, a scare, or is no longer an issue. I am open to one more so the ball is totally in his court on this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667710 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 20:35:09 +0000 ShootingStar 2667710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: Someone in our august '16 group did. But I can't remember her screen name off hand. </p> <p>I also worked with a guy a long time ago who had an extreme surprise. Apparently he'd lost one testicle in Vietnam and has a vasectomy for the other. And his wife still got pregnant 😂. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667705 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 20:27:39 +0000 azjax 2667705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH would be willing to get a vas once we had completed our family. He feels it would be his way to do his share considering the uneven burden of pregnancy/nursing on me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667696 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 20:00:11 +0000 erinbaderin 2667696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: I have a friend who got pregnant after her husband had a vasectomy. When she told him she was pregnant he freaked out and assumed she'd been sleeping with somebody else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667688 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 19:34:02 +0000 littlejoy 2667688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think there will be a smoke trail (to the urologist) right after baby two is born. No convincing my husband - we are both very on-board with only two kids. BUT I have a fear one sperm will sneak through ... I'd hate to have a tubal though. I wonder if anyone on here has had a child after a Vas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667600 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 16:25:56 +0000 MamaG 2667600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got a tubal. Two was always my maximum based on my age. And since I was having a RCS, I told my OB at the first appointment with my second pregnancy to note my file that I'd be having a RCS with tubal. We continued to talk about the decision at every appt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667599 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 16:25:03 +0000 sarac 2667599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine had it done on a friday, took it easy over the weekend, and stayed off his bike for 7 days. On that 8th day, he went and rode 50 miles, and he was fine. We had to be careful about our older daughter jumping on him for a few weeks, but that was about it. Minimal pain after the first few days, and nothing terrible at any point. </p> <p>He was not thrilled to have it done, but he totally agreed that I had paid my dues, and it was his turn. Now that it's all done with we're both thrilled. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667573 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 15:33:27 +0000 brownepiano 2667573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: Oh it is definitely less invasive! I'm glad it was easier on him. </p> <p>@runnerd: he was really sore and tender for the weekend (had it on a Thursday, took Friday off). He took almost 4 days off and I mostly took care of everything. It's been a week now and he's starting to get back to normal but still being careful. He's been able to watch the kids (he had to starting on Monday) but just has to be careful about how he holds the baby and not roughhousing with the older one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667569 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 15:27:38 +0000 erinbaderin 2667569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownepiano: It can be - my husband took two Advil before the procedure, used peas as an ice pack for the afternoon, and was fine by the next morning. Obviously everybody is different but there's no arguing that it is a much less invasive procedure than a tubal ligation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667568 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 15:27:22 +0000 runnerd 2667568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownepiano: tell me more about recovery! Our ILs are going to keep our oldest the weekend he has procedure (scheduled for a Friday), so I'll be taking care of LO #2, but wondered how he'd feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667563 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 15:18:52 +0000 brownepiano 2667563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband volunteered because he doesn't like me on birth control and doesn't want more kids. I was shocked at first but now I'm really glad we went for it. The recovery has been more than 24 hours though. It's not as simple as some people make it sound. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667499 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 14:13:40 +0000 erinbaderin 2667499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My doctor asked me like three times before my c section whether I wanted a tubal while she was in there but we hadn't had the discussion yet so I declined. A few months later we decided we were done and my husband volunteered to have a vasectomy. I'm always so shocked when husbands refuse (my neighbour's husband said "it would just be easier" if she did it) - it just seems so selfish, being unwilling to deal with 24 hours of pain in favour of leaving it to the woman to deal with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667494 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 14:09:04 +0000 nana87 2667494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the only way I'd get a tubal would be if I were having a planned c-section and already on the table. But that's a hypothetical-- I'm not going to be ready to make that decision after lo2 is born this winter, and we aren't planning on a c-section anyway (lo1 was vaginal...). I think we'll use non-permanent birth control for awhile after lo2 is born, but then if we decide we're really done, he'll get a vasectomy. In between lo1 and lo2, we used condoms since I was nursing and had supply worries anyway, and being perfectly honest, the condoms were more of a drag for him than me, so it'll be his choice ;) Maaaybe I'll go back on hormonal bcp after lo2, depending on how long I nurse (I nursed until 22 months with lo1) and if I have supply issues again, but honestly I'm kind of done with being the one who has to deal with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667493 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 14:07:11 +0000 josina 2667493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: lol that he would change his mind when you say you're doing it. ;)<br /> My DH is also very against a VAS but is also the one who wants to be done with our 2 (he has 3). So far I've told him that if he wants to be done, he needs to ensure it doesn't happen again. But once we are 100% sure we're done, we'll obviously have the serious conversation.</p> <p>A friend of mine got her tubes tide over the Vasectomy because her insurance covered it 100%, where the Vas wasn't covered. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667491 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 14:02:07 +0000 LuLu Mom 2667491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If we have a third I'll get a tubal while completing my C-section (my doctor made it pretty clear that 3 C-section is all my body can handle due to scar tissue.) If we decide we are complete at 2 then he will have to go in and get it done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667457 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 13:28:37 +0000 runnerd 2667457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH goes in less than a month for his vas. I am so excited to close the child-bearing chapter!! I too have made the decision I never want to be pregnant again, and almost want to get a tubal in addition - totally get when you say that's a separate decision you've made for yourself. We made the decision that if for some reason I needed a c-section, with our last I'd get a tubal, but otherwise it's his turn after I've given birth twice, had a D&amp;C, and a medicated natural m/c. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667456 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 13:26:49 +0000 Smurfette 2667456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH happily said he is getting sniped. We don't want an oops. He would go now but I told him no snip till she is here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667455 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 13:22:42 +0000 Anagram 2667455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband keeps saying he doesn't want to get snipped--but he also doesn't want a 3rd bio kid, so I might start hinting at wanting more kids and see if that gets him to reconsider the vasectomy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667451 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 13:20:36 +0000 birdofafeather 2667451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my DH surprised me by saying he would get snipped after we had our third and we were sure we are done. but he was like, i have to lay in bed for a whole week, whatever the doctor orders! 🙄🙄🙄 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sterilization-for-male-or-female-spouse#post-2667443 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 13:13:33 +0000 LulaBee 2667443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: I'm glad he did! My husband suggested I get a tubal during my last C-section. NOPE. </p>