https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 11 Jun 2026 03:45:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1755999 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 20:14:18 +0000 ladybee 1755999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: huge fan of The Chica Show over here. I don't understand why. It's about chickens and Chica the chick only chirps but whatever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1755990 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 20:09:39 +0000 artsyfartsy 1755990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: We like Jake and the Neverland Pirates. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1755975 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 19:57:53 +0000 ladybee 1755975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: thats how it is for our LO. Most naps end at 3:00 and he passes out the second the bottle touches his lips. :)</p> <p>ETA: don't judge but we let him watch 30 minutes of the Goodnight Show on Sprout from 6:00-6:30 because he is soooo cranky. It makes him happy and I get to breathe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1755972 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 19:54:20 +0000 erinpye 1755972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: wonderful!!! Good job, mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1755904 Sun, 13 Jul 2014 19:07:42 +0000 artsyfartsy 1755904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: The no evening nap has been a miracle. He's seriously cranky in the evenings before bed, but when I nurse him at 6:30pm he relaxed and gets a good meal and PASSES OUT. It's been much better since I cut out his evening nap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1748844 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 21:31:07 +0000 meredithNYC 1748844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: I second @erinpye's advice.</p> <p>I always say that I sleep trained LO around 3 months, but honestly it wasn't really sleep training so much as just getting into a solid routine that LO associated with bedtime. I did read up a bit on baby sleep "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" just to feel informed and also feel like I was doing something/making steps to tackling the sleep issues. I honestly think getting that consistency early worked really well for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1748654 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 19:10:36 +0000 erinpye 1748654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: YESSS! Hope your pumpkin sleeps well tonight :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1748641 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 19:02:08 +0000 artsyfartsy 1748641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: We didn't do a nap after 3:30 today. He went out like a light while nursing at 6:30 and has been asleep ever since! It could just be a good night but I hope that helped! He was definitely ready for bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1748478 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 17:05:04 +0000 mdf106 1748478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stuck to bedtime no matter what, but LO's bedtime was MUCH later, largely because it was hard to get him down early. At 4.5 months LO's bedtime was 9:30, and I went to bed at the same time. He STTN 8-9 hours. Naps were totally on demand until he went to a solid 2 nap schedule at about 8-9 months. The number of naps ranged from 3-5 at 4.5 months depending on length and level of tiredness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1748132 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 14:41:54 +0000 catomd00 1748132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe instead of trying for a set bedtime, you could try to put him to bed at X number of hours after his last nap? My DD is 4.5 months and while she typically is ready for bed every night around 7, sometimes if she gets a late nap in, she will be up a bit longer. Our general rule of thumb is that she isn't awake for any longer than 2 hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1747328 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 09:47:49 +0000 Sammyfab 1747328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My advice is the same as erinpye's. When my LO was 4.5 months, he could only tolerate 2 hours of wake time before bed and he was solidly on 3 naps by then. He preferred a longer wake time in the morning before his first nap, so 2-3-4 never worked for us. What does the rest of the day look like? Is he getting tons of daytime sleep and taking a late afternoon nap? A nighttime schedule is highly dependent on the daytime schedule - and then a solid bedtime will help you guys get in a groove. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1747144 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 08:37:42 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1747144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@IcebergMom: when do you start 2-3-4? DS is 3.5 months but he can't stay up much longer than 2 hours yet. Probably because he only naps for 30 mins at a time still... We currently have 4 naps a day! :shocked:</p> <p>Eta: sorry to thread jack! My son is younger than yours, but so far our routine is the same but start time changes depending I. How tired he is and when he last woke up. We do bath, jammies, bottle of BM, white noise, put him down. No rocking. But we sit with him until he drifts off. Usually takes a couple minutes. Sometimes he cries a bit. Usually the time is around 8pm and he sleeps till 5ish. It's working so far. Fingers crossed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1747124 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 08:31:46 +0000 wonderstruck 1747124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know it's not for everyone, but we Ferberized (basically CIO with checks) shortly after setting a bedtime and routine, and it made a huge difference for us. Our routine always started the same - bottle, book, PJs, song...but then to actually get him to sleep I would be driving myself crazy past that point. We had to struggle through about a half hour of crying the first night, but after like three days he was settling down no problem (a light up soother in the crib also helped a ton with that) and soothing himself to sleep, and within just a few weeks he was almost always acting tired and sleepy by his set bedtime. At that time he was probably about 4.5 months old and his bedtime was (and still is) 8. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746657 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 21:10:14 +0000 artsyfartsy 1746657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: Thanks!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746635 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 20:54:02 +0000 erinpye 1746635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok so you know my 2nd DD is your baby's age, and this is what worked for both of mine: wake times between naps during the day of no more than 2 hours at this age, bedtime at 6 or 6:30. Don't put baby down for a nap past about 3:30 PM. Keep the simple routine the same every night (bath, pjs, nursing for us), and baby *should* adapt. Earlier bedtimes seem to work better and allow for sounder sleep, but initially it may take a couple nights of rocking for quite a while, or having to go back in and rock more/ replace a binky. I hope your LO starts accepting a schedule that works for all of you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746565 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 20:22:13 +0000 ladybee 1746565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: another thing that helped was that we stuck to a schedule no matter what. At 6:30 we did bath every night (washed every other night) and at 7:00 we did bed time bottle. If he didn't fall asleep eating then we laid him in his crib where he watched his Baby Einstein crib soother (greatest thing ever) till he fell asleep. Don't get me wrong, some nights it worked, some nights it didn't. There is nothing selfish about wanting predictability and a schedule so you can be you! Having that will make you the best mommy you can be, I know it does for me. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746381 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 19:06:13 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1746381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, because our sleep was crazy around here until we sleep trained around 6 months. But I really hope things settle down for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746378 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 19:04:55 +0000 birdofafeather 1746378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: at that stage, R did too. we had been rocking, nursing, swaddling to sleep for months without issue. then she found her hands, she didn't want to be swaddled and one day she looked at me like "why are you rocking me, crazy lady?!" and i put her down in her cosleeper and she put herself to sleep. it was all around the 4-5 month mark. those kids change it up every day around that age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746367 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 19:01:41 +0000 artsyfartsy 1746367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: Maybe. He goes to an in home daycare where he's just usually one of two babies there. I'd say she would be willing to try it for me!!</p> <p>@birdofafeather: Thank you! I know everyone is going to have fluke nights but it seems like T wants something different to go to sleep every night! I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing. Haha. Thanks for the support. HB helps screw my head back on when it starts to fall off from all this mommy hood craziness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746362 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 19:00:42 +0000 IcebergMom 1746362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: yes! 2,3,4 is working for us. :) but even so we are starting and ending a later later than Id like. My 2 yo goes to bed 2 hrs before my 4 month old! HAha<br /> @Danizaur: try the 2,3,4 thing! It's great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746359 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:57:05 +0000 birdofafeather 1746359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: it's not selfish to try to want some control! the infant stage is tough. but i'm going to be honest and say that we didn't have any definitive bedtime until 6+ months and even then, it was loose. even now (at 18 months) DD has random nights where it's just not working and she's having a tough time. those nights, we give her a pass and chalk it up to having a rough night like all people do. babies just have more of them!</p> <p>hang in there mama! this too shall pass! you're doing great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746354 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:53:59 +0000 ladybee 1746354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could your daycare start it? It seems like his internal clock has set to this schedule and if I'm even 10 minutes late he starts letting me know. I think starting it on a weekend (or a long weekend like Labor Day) would be helpful and then daycare could follow through? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746349 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:52:37 +0000 artsyfartsy 1746349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: Interesting! I won't be able to be in charge of his schedule though until November at the earliest though. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746341 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:49:25 +0000 ladybee 1746341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: I need a schedule to function so I get it. The best thing I did was start 2-3-4 sleep schedule. 2 hours after M wakes up he takes his first nap. 3 hours after he wakes up from that nap he takes his next nap and 4 hours after he wakes up from that nap he goes to bed. I didn't start this till 8 months when I started summer vacation and was in charge and NEEDED a schedule. I love it and wish I would have started it sooner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746314 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:35:15 +0000 artsyfartsy 1746314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm just so frustrated. I guess I'm being selfish with trying to get LO on a schedule. My life is a chaotic mess and I can't quite accept it. I know that's just how motherhood is but I'm grasping at straws for some control again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746297 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:22:39 +0000 autumnlove 1746297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tried a 7 bedtime and it just didn't happen until LO 1 was 6-7 months. She usually slept at 8:30 or 9. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746279 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:13:28 +0000 sorrycharlie 1746279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think he's probably kind of young to have a totally set routine. my LO didnt' fall into a routine until past 6 months I don't think! but I can't remember. </p> <p>even these days, some days she'll go in her bed at 6 and pass out in 5 min. some days she rolls around for over an hour. if she isn't screaming I just let her be..she generally has a solid bedtime of 615-645 depending on the day, I put her to bed and let her do her thing :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sticking-to-a-bed-time-when-lo-just-wont-go-to-sleep#post-1746266 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:07:47 +0000 artsyfartsy 1746266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Title explains itself. I do the same thing every night, except nursing to sleep worked last night, but not tonight so I rock him. Rocking doesn't work the next night and he just wants to be laid down and puts himself to sleep. Or it's definitely sleep time but he just WONT go down. He fights until we give up and let him stay up.</p> <p>We start quiet time/bed time routine at 6 and aim to have him asleep at 7 every night. Some nights it works and some nights it takes us til 9 to negotiate him to sleep. </p> <p>How do I stick to a bed time and bedtime routine when he just isn't consistent?</p> <p>He's 4.5 months. </p>