https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 22:37:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stranger-danger-1#post-2439079 Wed, 27 Jan 2016 15:25:13 +0000 littlejoy 2439079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlebug: Ha! My husband was like, "How do you physically do this?!" - it's not like the kids make it easy! ;) </p> <p>And yes, God forbid WE try to poop in peace. Parenting!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stranger-danger-1#post-2439078 Wed, 27 Jan 2016 15:23:39 +0000 littlebug 2439078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: It's funny, he's started asking to have me change his diaper standing, because that's how the girls at daycare usually do it (they put the diaper back on him after trying/using the potty). But I am physically incapable of diapering a standing child. It just does NOT work for me!</p> <p>We do use the correct anatomical names with him - it was important to me to use that instead of a word like "pee pee," because a) I have read similar things with regards to empowerment, and b) I thought using the word pee-pee for his penis and for urine would be confusing. </p> <p>He does now tell us we have to wait outside the bathroom when he goes in to use the potty (which is hilarious/frustrating because he absolutely throws a fit if I dare try to poop in peace). I'm not sure it's about privacy more than it's about him doing it himself, though. </p> <p>I will continue the conversation from time to time, though, now that the doctor mentioned it. It is important, and I like @MUI831: ped's suggestion to talk about telling Mommy and Daddy if someone else touches there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stranger-danger-1#post-2438946 Wed, 27 Jan 2016 13:55:51 +0000 Mommy Finger 2438946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our ped had a similar conversation at DS's 3 yo well visit. It's one of the reasons why I love our ped. He took it a step farther to say that only mommy and daddy can touch there and if anyone else does, he needs to tell mommy and daddy. He made a production of asking me in front of DS if it was ok. This was after he asked DS if it was ok. </p> <p>We are still pretty lax about it but I do bring it up from time to time just to get the conversation started. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stranger-danger-1#post-2438844 Wed, 27 Jan 2016 12:52:16 +0000 littlejoy 2438844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've always talked to LO about what we're doing ... "I'm washing your back. Can you lean forward, so I can wash your butt?" - If she protests, we ask her to do it by herself. </p> <p>When she's at the doctor, the doctor will say, "I'm doing to look at your vulva now. Remember, only mommy, daddy, and Dr. K can touch here". - We reinforce that at home when we think about it, but we are pretty relaxed about the stranger danger aspect. </p> <p>We do use the anatomical words for her anatomy (though, I say "vagina" instead of "vulva"), as there are studies that show it's empowering to children, and can potentially protect them in regards to child predators. </p> <p>In regards to diapering - you could have your 3 y/o stand up for changes (minus poop), which can be a respectful/more engaged way of changing them. </p> <p>I wouldn't look at it as a loss of innocence. I don't think anyone would suggest telling their LO what kind of horrible people exist in the world ... but rather, it's important to empower them to be confident and comfortable in their own bodies, and know what's appropriate from other people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stranger-danger-1#post-2438772 Wed, 27 Jan 2016 12:05:53 +0000 Kimberlybee 2438772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been telling DD since we started potty training at 2 years old. She is very verbal so it made sense to mention it. She is 2.5 now and uses the phrases on me sometimes, she will say things like "no I wipe by myself" (for peeing), "you wait outside", "no looking or touching". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stranger-danger-1#post-2438752 Wed, 27 Jan 2016 11:54:42 +0000 littlebug 2438752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What age did you start talking to your kids about stranger danger and - specifically - about their "privates?" At D's 3-year well visit, when the pediatrician was examining his penis, he told D that only Mommies, Daddies, and doctors should ever touch that because it's private. He then encouraged us to start having similar conversations with him, but nothing more elaborate than that because he won't get it. D's still in diapers, so his daycare teachers, grandparents, etc, are still all up in there. It caught me so off-guard in the appointment that I didn't think of it, but I'm not sure how to make the point right now since so many people are still changing his diapers. Maybe just say only when someone is changing your diaper, or Mommy, Daddy, or Dr? </p> <p>It also is just like, "Ugh, really!?" I'm not ready for this! I know it's totally necessary, and the conversation will only get harder as he ages, but... Even though he doesn't really "get" the implication of WHY it should only be those people, it still feels a little bit like a loss of innocence. </p> <p>When did/will you start having this talk with your LOs? </p>