https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 04 Jun 2026 20:38:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400712 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 00:48:04 +0000 ldh112 2400712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ali-oop: does he take a pacifier? that can also help as a good sleep cue- my daughter didn't like it for the first three months or so but we would try it when she was sleepy and eventually she took to it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400707 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 00:10:07 +0000 sapphire 2400707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Daycare might actually help. Our LO would come home so sleepy that getting her to go to sleep wasn't too hard. At that age, we did mostly rock to sleep. And then if she woke up, usually giving her the paci would help her nod off again. She was in her bassinet until 3.5 months and having us close helped.<br /> When sleep training works, the Ferber method at least says stop after 30 mins of crying...and our LO never got there. She learned fast. To me, hours and hours of crying says LO is not ready yet... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400668 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 22:33:33 +0000 Ali-oop 2400668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well he fought us for 2.5 hours. The last 30-45 minutes he stopped screaming and would randomly let out a little cry. That was actually harder to hear than the screams. Then he actually closed his eyes and I think he's asleep. He did a little hand sucking and is still now. We'll see how long he lasts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400660 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 21:59:03 +0000 hony bologna 2400660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with PPs that 17 weeks is really little and just doing whatever you need to do is probably your best option, though I totally feel your pain! My daughter is also quite high-need and sleep was especially rough for us in the beginning. I ended up holding her in a ring sling or Baby K'tan for all her naps (she also cried a lot while I held her, but it did gradually decrease) until around 5 months, when I was able to start nursing her down (couldn't before then because of reflux). I started out by transferring her to her the crib after she was dead asleep, so after 15-20 minutes, and gradually lessened that length of time. My husband did the same method with rocking her down for naps and bedtime, so gradually putting her down sooner and sooner in her 'falling asleep' process. If she cried, we just picked her up and rocked her some more.</p> <p>By 8-10 months, we could just put her in her crib wide awake and she'd fall asleep without a fuss. If she cries, we pick her up, but she only does that if we got the timing wrong or she's sick/teething. Things are SO much easier now and even though those early days can be excruciating, it WILL get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400652 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 21:45:19 +0000 Kbee 2400652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Where has he been sleeping until now? Co-sleeping? I agree with other posters that for now it may just be best to continue doing what works. The first time we tried the crib with our LO he just wasn't ready for it, but he took much better to it around 5 months. We just kept nursing to sleep and having him sleep in the Rock n Play until then. And the 4-month sleep regression is for sure a real thing and a total nightmare. Trying a crib transition during that time is only going to make it harder, and much more upsetting for you :sad: </p> <p>This is a hard time and I know it seems to drag on forever... It will get easier!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400643 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 21:18:22 +0000 ldh112 2400643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ali-oop: The other option is to just hold/wear them for naps and/or wait to put them down fully asleep. Co-sleep if that's working or move him after he's been asleep for a good bit. Over time you can continue to try alternatives to this, but like others are saying, some babies take longer to be ready. It's definitely a frustrating part of the early months but it really will get better.</p> <p>As far as daycare goes, they have probably seen babies come in with all sorts of sleep needs. :happy: I'm sure there will be an adjustment to a new environment/routine regardless of sleep habits! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400642 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 21:13:51 +0000 ShootingStar 2400642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So here's what we did. We do slept a lot in the beginning because he just wouldn't sleep any other way. Some time around 2-3 months I started nursing him to sleep and waiting until he was in a deep enough sleep, usually around 10-20 minutes. Then I put him in the PnP next to the bed. If he woke up I'd rock and shush him back to sleep, then try again. If it failed 2 or 3 times I'd give up on that segment of sleep and do sleep until he woke up to eat. He always fell asleep nursing, so then I'd try again with the PnP. </p> <p>The earliest part of the night was always the easiest and it would get harder to not co sleep as the night went on. But eventually he got to where he could sleep all night in there. </p> <p>At around 6 months we did CIO. I felt like he was finally ready for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400632 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 20:48:13 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2400632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a personal decision and you've got to go with what you and your partner feel most at peace with, but here is what I would do.</p> <p>17 weeks is little. I would not be okay with my little one crying that much. I would do whatever it was that got him or her to be happy, comfortable, and well rested--whether that was wearing, co sleeping, bed sharing, nursing through the night, etc.</p> <p>I currently have a 14 week old and although I have 2 older kids too, she is mainly held for naps for now. We also bed share. It's survival mode and I'm doing what I can to keep her happy and get the sleep she needs. You can't spoil a baby!</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400631 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 20:43:45 +0000 FliegepilzHut 2400631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ali-oop: I have only read the "nap" book so far, which seems promising...but then again, I haven't made it to the part about solutions yet! I will only try to address nighttime or naptime sleep at any one time... And it sounds like we're in a very similar position...just started co-sleeping in the last week, out of necessity. Ultimately, it just felt crazy to me to induce an adversarial relationship with my otherwise sweet-tempered boy...and I figure he will eventually learn to sleep on his own, just not right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400628 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 20:41:34 +0000 Ali-oop 2400628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, another thing. If he's too young to sleep train, then what now? He stays in bed with us until he's ready? When I read that babies are too young to sleep train, I always wonder then what's the other option? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400627 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 20:38:40 +0000 Ali-oop 2400627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've wondered if we're trying to early but I read all sides online. Some say you can't sleep train and teach a baby to self soothe until 6 months. Some say 4-6 months is ideal. I have a friend whose baby has been in the crib since 6 weeks. It's just so confusing. </p> <p>He's been an inconsistent baby since he was born. He fights naps like no other baby I've seen. I can read his sleepy signs and try a bedtime routine but the minute he ends up in that crib he's angry. We're now going on an hour and 45 minutes of him screaming...in the crib or in our arms. And I don't mean just crying or fussing. This is angry, pull up his legs screaming. </p> <p>If we're trying too soon for him that's fine. I don't mind waiting but starting in January he'll be at daycare two days a week. They're going to hate him. 😞 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400600 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 19:24:41 +0000 AggieDaze 2400600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like he is really overtired which can make putting him down even harder. With our first, I found that if he was overtired he would 1) take forever to go to sleep 2) wake up right at the sleep cycle and/or wake up as soon as tried to set him down 3) get so upset at nap time. </p> <p>How long is he going between nap times? Does he have any signs that you're noticing re: when he's ready for sleep? What kind of routine do you have before naps? Before bed? Routine became huge for us right around 4 months...</p> <p>I read every book I could when ours suddenly majorly regressed at 4 months. Ultimately, after 3 months, a couple of teeth, 2 rounds of ear infections and overnight visitors during the holidays, we sleep trained at 7 months. Best thing we ever did, but I do believe he was ready for it. Who knows if it would have worked at 4 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400597 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 19:17:41 +0000 sapphire 2400597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely couldn't get my LO to nap in the crib at that age! Her naps were all in the Swing, carrier, stroller, held. We did have our LO sleeping at night in the crib around 3.5 months. It was hard sometimes to get her down and took a lot of reassurance and checks. Im a big fan of sleep training but you are likely still early for it. I would do what you have to do through this phase and try some sleep training in the future. We did it at 5.5 months and it went very well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400595 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 19:12:53 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2400595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>17 weeks is still really little. My girls weren't in their cribs until they were five months old. I tried before then to no avail. Magically at five months they were OK with it.<br /> Give him some more time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400590 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 19:07:31 +0000 Ali-oop 2400590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: I read the No Cry Sleep Solution and was kind of underwhelmed. I'm willing to stick to a plan but that book didn't really give me one. And we're cosleeping as well and I never thought I'd do that either! But we were so desperate for sleep, we tried it one night and the little stinker slept! But part of me thinks him being so close to me is why he's waking to eat 2-3 times at his age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400576 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 18:38:27 +0000 ldh112 2400576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby is 6 months and we just started the drowsy but awake thing. It wouldn't work earlier for her so I just sucked it up and rocked her to sleep for naps and bed time. It's tough because babies are so different when it comes to sleep issues. I'd say it's definitely possible it's too soon for your baby to self-sooth to sleep or do CIO. Sleep training is ideal after 5.5 months from the books I've looked through. But like I said, babies are all over the spectrum on this. I'd say until then, do whatever keeps you guys sane! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400546 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 17:24:57 +0000 FliegepilzHut 2400546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your baby sounds a lot like our DS, who is just a few weeks older. For us, the struggle seemed (at this point) just totally not worth it. :bummed: 4 month olds (ours at least) are just so aware...and there is a notorious "sleep regression" at this age that will make *your* sleep hell, almost no matter what! I am in the process of reading the no-cry nap solution (Pantley) as well as Sweet Sleep (from LLL). In the meantime, we are doing whatever it takes to get by, which in our case, is safe(!) co-sleeping (never thought I would) and revisiting nap training in a couple of weeks as baby will tolerate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400541 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 17:16:08 +0000 LindsayLou 2400541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following, because we are in a very similar situation. Extremely similar. My kiddo is 17 weeks, wants to be held for all naps, and has yet to sleep in her crib for more than 5 minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400531 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 16:46:18 +0000 FaithFertility 2400531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am sorry! For us at this age DD was still in PNP in our room and I nursed her to sleep or whatever it took!<br /> I did what we had to do! She never went down drowsy and still at 12months needs a little TLC to go to sleep, but it works for us!<br /> Her naps were all over the place then too! Some days hours some days 20-30minutes!</p> <p>I had a 1 nap a day is good enough rule for myself I focused on trying one nap a day in crib at first!<br /> I also rolled up a blanket under her sheet so she felt secure!</p> <p>I say do what you need to to get by he is still young!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-get-17-week-old-in-crib#post-2400526 Sat, 26 Dec 2015 16:30:50 +0000 Ali-oop 2400526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is what I would describe as a high needs baby. He has always preferred to be held and would scream when put down. In the past few weeks or so he has started getting better at being put down during the day and is finally extending his feeding times to 2 to 3 hours. Prior to this he was still eating every hour and a half to two hours so I couldn't even fathom trying to sleep train him or get him in his crib. </p> <p> But now the time has come and he needs to start sleeping and napping in his crib. At night we've tried drowsy but awake and it never works so we rock him to sleep. As soon as we bend over to put him in his crib he wakes up and starts screaming. Not just crying, screaming. A few nights ago he cried on and off for three hours straight. DH and I alternated between checking on him and picking him up to sooth him. By the last hour he was screaming whether he was in the crib or in our arms. The poor guy ended up throwing up and sweating through his sleeper. I felt awful and we threw the towel in. At his age how long are we supposed to keep going? I'd rather not CIO at this point so I'm not really sure what to do. He's such a sensitive and over reactive baby so I'd like to do something gentle with him but I'm just not sure what that is. Does anyone have any suggestions that worked for their babies that escalate when put in the crib? And any tips on naps? Sometimes I fight him for an hour for a 20 or 30 minute nap! Any tips or similar experiences would be great to hear! </p>