https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 11:22:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-870177 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 10:17:12 +0000 littleredhairedgrl 870177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi Ladies, thanks to @happygal 's recommendation I've been reading thru some of the posts on A Blog about Love and came across this passage from a post that she wrote about Mother's Day and thought I'd share as it really resonated with me:</p> <p>"Celebrate the beauty of waiting for a child and the time that you will have to heal yourself before you even become a mother. Celebrate the beauty of the preparation, excitement, and hope of having a child...</p> <p>Hold your head high and celebrate birth, in all it's forms, as we transform and become the best women &amp; mothers we can be."</p> <p>Here's hoping and praying that we all stay in a positive place through this tough journey :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-868370 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:43:09 +0000 FaithFertility 868370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: ohhh wow! Yeah, it is truly a journey, I'm thankful to have found this page, nice to chat about it to people who get it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-868363 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:40:58 +0000 swedishfish 868363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: it's the policy of our RE's practice to make sure couples are on the same page emotionally before beginning IVF. You have to choose what to do with extra embryos before the procedure and in case of a divorce/death. It's heady stuff! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-868356 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:39:53 +0000 BSB 868356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleredhairedgrl: You have some great advice here. Hugs!! Hang in there. It's definitely been a rollercoaster of emotions dealing with IF.</p> <p>I got the circle and bloom program during Infertility awareness week. I'm saving it when I start TTC again. </p> <p>Oh, accupuncture is great! I'm on a TTC break and I'm still getting weekly accupuncure appts. It helped me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-868349 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:35:04 +0000 FaithFertility 868349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I don't mean to intrude, but why did you speak with a social worker for IVF, just for future reference? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-868343 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:31:12 +0000 swedishfish 868343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: oh, the fertility yoga idea just made me think of this. DH and I had to meet with a social worker in order to start our IVF cycle and she recommended listening to a cd of positive affirmations. It seemed really silly at first but it did help. I think it's in my car. I'll have to find out the name of it later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-868320 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:23:09 +0000 FaithFertility 868320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: fertility yoga sounds so AMAZING! NOTHING around me but ib think yoga in general would be fantastic! Good idea :)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-867049 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 08:44:00 +0000 Happygal 867049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LittleRedHairedGrl: some of the blog content I could do without, like all of the pictures of themselves and their emails to each other. But the posts on how to be peaceful and happy in life hit home. </p> <p>Acupuncture is expensive, and it's why I only did five sessions. Like many wellness workers, my acupuncturist was willing to work on a sliding scale, letting me pay whatever I could. That's something to consider. But for me, it's wasn't so much the act of acupunture itself, but doing something that focused my thoughts and actions in a positive manner, which is what I'm sure the yoga will do for you as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-866992 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 08:21:01 +0000 littleredhairedgrl 866992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@theswisswifestyle I am not sure the actual % of dh's morphology, but I know it was like on the cusp of being low, so for some doctors it wouldn't have been flagged, but I've found that my ob is very pro-active and thought it should be mentioned. </p> <p>@swedishfish Hoping IUI is the answer for us as I don't think we could really afford IVF and really don't want to go into financial debt before we have the house and family.. so here's hoping it doesn't come to that. But congrats to you on your success! I have a number of friends who were successful with IVF :)</p> <p>@happygal I will def check out that blog. This whole journey has really made me struggle with my faith (Christianity) and wondering why would God allow this to happen to us, but I do believe that it will happen. I thought about acupuncture, but seems pricey -- next week I am going to start with a yoga specialist who does fertility yoga classes, which I hope will help and bring me into another support system. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-866832 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 06:42:19 +0000 Happygal 866832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope HelloBee is a good support for you. </p> <p>I go back and forth between feeling zen, then thinking about my age and wanting to eat Clomid like skittles. We've been trying for 9-10 months now, I'm 34, and I used to think I wanted 3-4 children. My life path has been different than I thought it would be when I was 25!</p> <p>I recently was searching for recommendations for natural skin care products, and it led me to a blog called A Blog About Love. This woman is faced with infertility, and she's gone through other hardships as well. But she speaks about how her faith (Mormon) allows her to have peace and happiness. My religious beliefs differ from hers, but her message still really speaks to me and has helped me enormously. I also did 5 sessions of acupuncture and loved it, not just for the needles part, but for the discussions I had with the acupuncturist as well. It felt like a very pro-active and loving thing to do for myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-866789 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 05:42:40 +0000 swedishfish 866789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleredhairedgrl: we also have both male and female factor infertility. DH has low morphology, low motility, and something else that I can't recall at the moment. I was diagnosed as annovulatory -on the cusp of PCOS. IUI didn't work for us but IVF did on our first try. I am currently overdue with our first child. </p> <p>It was really hard to stay positive but I relied on my DH and family. I also had a coworker going through a similar situation at the same time so that helped. The ladies here are great too! Good luck! If you need to talk, I'm here to listen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-866762 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 04:20:12 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 866762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleredhairedgrl: It's so hard to stay positive, I know! But you have the new RE to look forward to, and I hope you have success in August! One good thing is that you have a diagnosis, so at least you and your docs know what you're working with, and how best to treat it. </p> <p>You don't have to answer if you don't want to, but I was just curious, what is your DH's morph percentage? Wondering what "low" is. </p> <p>Like what @TheReelDeal: said, when I get bummed out I try to think about all the awesome things going on right now in my life, some of which wouldn't be possible if I were pregnant. (Of course I'd rather be pg!!) </p> <p>Hugs, and best of luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-866686 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 22:53:12 +0000 MrsLilybugg 866686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleredhairedgrl: good luck!!! You will get your BFP. I used to think that didn't exist in my world, so I totally get how you feel. ( I bought my DH gnc fertility blend and he tried it and his SA three months later was "normal" vs 1%. Just my experience I know everyone's different!!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-866515 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 20:35:20 +0000 littleredhairedgrl 866515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrslilybugg thanks :) for low morphology IUI was recommended which is what we will be discussing with the re next month. fx!</p> <p>@faithfertility good luck to you during your procedure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-866443 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 20:03:45 +0000 MrsLilybugg 866443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleredhairedgrl: the one-year TTC mark is so terrifying. Like others have said, posting on Hellobee was a great help. Also, knowing I could have a margarita do.wallow in my pity party!<br /> can I ask what steps if any have been taken for low morphology? I ask because our issue was low morphology , as well as slightly elevated thyroid on my part. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-866138 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 17:01:44 +0000 FaithFertility 866138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleredhairedgrl: You sound a lot like me! I was shocked when we could not get pregnant, and then I thing for sure clomid would work, nope and I was sooo taking back about seeing an RE and doing IUI, well I'm about a day or two away from the first procedure and over the moon excited but still nervous! Keep positive, and relax, so hard to do, but know rhay it WILL happen!!!! I just joined this page and feel the love already!! Good luck and keep me posted!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865720 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 14:26:15 +0000 kentuckygirl 865720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleredhairedgrl: As others have said, the IF threads have been an amazing resource for me! The support &amp; encouragement have helped me through some tough times. Please vent to us anytime! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865376 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 12:40:52 +0000 littleredhairedgrl 865376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>thanks @dagret i am hopeful about the re appointment :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865348 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 12:30:29 +0000 dagret 865348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleredhairedgrl: I don't have any advice that you haven't received already, but just wanted to tell you to hang in there. My son was born after 23 cycles and 2 early miscarriages with the help of an RE and IUI. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865345 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 12:29:30 +0000 Bao 865345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending hugs and good thoughts your way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865333 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 12:26:44 +0000 littleredhairedgrl 865333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thereeldeal hahahah the cankle comment cracked me up!</p> <p>@mrscb i was actually doing monitored cycles with my obgyn and hcg triffers and timed intercourse, and each time she was so positive about how everything looked. but with 3 unsuccessful cycles she had to pass me on to an re and we will do iui in august most likely.</p> <p>i am happy that i have an amazing man by my side and i know in my heart that it will happen for us, it's just been a tough road and as someone who suffers from depression and anxiety, it makes it all the more tough.</p> <p>thanks so much for all the support ladies, i am lucky to have found this site :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865195 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 11:32:33 +0000 raintreebee 865195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another plug for Circle + Bloom. I also found a local support group on the Resolve website and went to a Yoga for Fertility class every week. I met some great women and felt much less alone. </p> <p>I think what saved me from falling into depression was the resolution that infertility would not take away my whole life. I wanted to be strong for me and for my marriage. Was I bubbling with positivity? Absolutely not. But until I exhausted all of my resources and options, I did maintain some hope. And really that's all that can be expected. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865194 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 11:32:13 +0000 ShootingStar 865194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleredhairedgrl: I'm assuming since you weren't with an RE before, you were doing unmonitored cycles with Clomid? As much as they're a pain, the monitoring is SO helpful. Clomid worked very inconsistently for me, and without the monitoring I don't think I would've known that. The monitoring also helps with knowing the best timing, therefore making your chances for conceiving better. And if you need it, IUI can be a big help for male factor issues. </p> <p>I ended up with a sticky baby (so far at 17 weeks!) thanks to monitored cycles with Femara + a few days of Gonal-F injections, and timed intercourse. There were times when I really didn't think any of it was going to work. I have PCOS and I thought we were going to exhaust every option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865174 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 11:25:28 +0000 TheReelDeal 865174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wallow sometimes because I should be able to. No one talks about the emotional ups and downs of TTC and the dents it makes in your self esteem and your relationship. After I'm done with my pity party though I do try to focus on all the other good stuff. In my journal last night I wrote, "because I'm not pregnant right now I don't have cankles." Silly, but there are some good things to not being KU.</p> <p>I would also suggest Circle + Bloom, such a pimp of that product :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865165 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 11:22:30 +0000 luckypenny 865165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>just want to send some hugs &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865153 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 11:18:50 +0000 Mrs.Someone 865153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry to hear you're feeling this way! I was in the same place when we hit a year of trying. Its really rough emotionally, and you never expect it to be YOU that has the hard time getting pregnant. The one thing that helped me to become more positive was trying the Circle + Bloom meditations (they have free one to try out). I was skeptical, but it really put me in a better head space, especially that first month. Other than that, talking to friends who understand and/or are supportive helps. Hope you feel better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865144 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 11:14:47 +0000 Shutterbug 865144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleredhairedgrl: hugs! I'm on my second cycle with Clomid (16th overall) and my DH also has borderline low morphology. Right now our plan is to add IUI next cycle, and emotionally I'm in a similar place to you. I definitely lean on the HB community for support (our weekly IF check-in threads!). There are a few good threads and posts about staying positive. Check out Mrs. Polish's posts on the blog, if you haven't already. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865131 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 11:10:44 +0000 MK0180 865131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is very hard at times and then there are other times where you have hope - it's all very up and down emotionally. Acknowledge your feelings and know that you're not alone in the struggle. I read more than I post on these boards but I find the Hellobee infertility boards a place of comfort, especially when I'm having bad day. </p> <p>I was also apprehensive about seeing the RE but after talking to her and knowing there was someone that wanted to help us conceive I felt much better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865129 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 11:09:06 +0000 Vegmama 865129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was only when we got to the emotional state that you're in now, that I was able to think more positively about it. That probably sounds sad, but I just think (for me personally), I had given up hope that we'd ever conceive ... and eventually, the pressure of the situation lifted. We remembered that we'd still have a happy life/marriage if we couldn't have our own children, and that was a big soother for me. Thinking of you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-to-stay-positive#post-865068 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 10:45:35 +0000 littleredhairedgrl 865068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>thanks @sweetooth and @mrspolish</p> <p>it's been a tough journey so far, and sometimes hard for friends/family to understand what it means to be going thru something like this without saying the proverbial "just relax" or even "have you considered adoption" (?!!)</p> <p>i am glad that i've found this community of very positive and supportive women because keeping things to myself and dh is hard. :) </p>