https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 05:31:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178715 Thu, 14 May 2015 16:09:19 +0000 birdofafeather 2178715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>0-1 was easy for us and we had a much harder time 16-20 months ish. now she's my buddy at 2y4m, even with her tantrums. there's an ebb and flow for me and i think for everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178682 Thu, 14 May 2015 15:46:24 +0000 Jass 2178682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone for advice and reassurance...I am bit sentimental about her upcoming first birthday and this behavior change has made things worse and I just want to turn clock backwards. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178296 Thu, 14 May 2015 13:10:45 +0000 NurseDMB 2178296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally normal. But I have to say, that was probably one of my least favorite ages -- I found 12-15 months to be difficult. My son is 21 months now and he definitely is challenging at times but it's so much fun most days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178255 Thu, 14 May 2015 12:50:54 +0000 Corduroy 2178255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We struggled at that age too. I wasn't anticipating it with a 12 month old but she was a real handful. Everything comes in phases and some are pretty difficult. </p> <p>I'll admit I took my super cranky/tantrum-y 2 year old to the doctor this week hoping that there was an ear infection or something to blame for her behavior - nope. It's just another phase. The good news is that the phases will phase you less over time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178166 Thu, 14 May 2015 12:16:22 +0000 Maysprout 2178166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find that age the most challenging. They're old enough to be destructive but don't respond or communicate well. My older one is almost 4 and youngest is 18 months and I still think that stretch around 14 months is the most difficult. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178145 Thu, 14 May 2015 12:08:11 +0000 Mamasig 2178145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS2 turned one this week and he has similar behavior. Everything is a fit! But I'm trying to remind myself he can't communicate his needs yet and with a bunch of teeth coming in, he must hurt. </p> <p>It'll get better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178066 Thu, 14 May 2015 11:26:33 +0000 Tanjowen 2178066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was in the same boat. I had a sweetheart on my hands until about 11 months, and then molars and a regression came along, and it was tough till about 14 months. Now, at 17 months and with him understanding more and more each day, it's going so much better. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178060 Thu, 14 May 2015 11:19:54 +0000 regberadaisy 2178060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hang in there! There'll be good patches and bad patches. But as they get older the good patches are really good. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178057 Thu, 14 May 2015 11:16:53 +0000 ShootingStar 2178057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Clothes are a daily struggle with us too (At 18m). Sometimes it helps if I have him eat breakfast first. Sometimes I just need to distract him and make him laugh. And sometimes he screams through getting his diaper changed and clothes put on. Unfortunately I don't really have the choice to not dress him every day, since I WOHM.</p> <p>As for food, another mom from my birth month group recently mentioned that she puts down a towel under the high chair and then just picks it up and shakes it out. I would also recommend just giving her a few pieces of food at a time to feed herself, and if she throws something or does some other undesirable behavior, have absolutely no reaction. I've learned with DS that he does a lot of things like this for the reaction. So I either immediately turn away from him, or I make no reaction at all. We used to have a huge issue with him throwing his cup and it was making me crazy. But complete ignoring resolved it in a few days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178050 Thu, 14 May 2015 11:11:22 +0000 catlady 2178050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hang in there! It will get better...then worse, then better, you get my drift. It's totally normal behavior. My toddler goes through phases where she's super difficult (often coincides with development, like language explosion), but then we get a reprieve for awhile and she becomes an easy kid again. We're pretty easy going in the discipline area, so I usually try to figure out the source of the behavior and respond accordingly. Like, if it is for attention, I ignore it, or if it is just for fun, I either try distracting or remove her from situation if she is doing something dangerous. DH and I try to have a very small number of firm rules that we are consistent about and she is good at not trying to bend those (like no touching the fireplace or standing in the tub). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178030 Thu, 14 May 2015 10:57:56 +0000 catomd00 2178030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Empathy goes a long way! I try to remember that she doesn't know any better, can't comprehend things the way we can and can't communicate. Consistency and repition also helps. When my 15 month old started throwing food, I would say please keep your food on the table. When she did it again I repeated myself and said that tells me you're all done. Third time it got removed. She gets it now! I find reserving the word no for serious, dangerous situations helps and try to frame everything positively a instead of saying don't touch that, I redirect her and tell her what she can touch as an alternative. It's not easy but they really just don't understand yet!</p> <p>At 11 months, she should be able to reasonably feed herself so I wouldn't battle that. She obvioislu wants independence. Let her try and then after a little bit ask if you can help. Or, let her have a spoon and in between her own bites offer your spoon. </p> <p>It's definitely a little shock when thry change so drastically but you'll find what works for her. Patience and empathy are key! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178022 Thu, 14 May 2015 10:55:29 +0000 skipper2010 2178022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That was a tough age for us too! It truly does get better once they can communicate more effectively. Each age has its challenges, but things are so much more FUN now that he's almost two. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2178020 Thu, 14 May 2015 10:54:13 +0000 Bluebonnet 2178020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As @Adira: mentioned - this is normal at this age. LO wants to express herself, but doesn't have the communication skills to convey what she wants.</p> <p>Have you tried teaching her a few basic signs to communicate what she wants (milk, more, all done, etc)? That really helped us. </p> <p>When LO started talking more, things got a lot better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2177956 Thu, 14 May 2015 10:26:28 +0000 Adira 2177956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sooooo normal. As soon as Xander turned one, he suddenly started throwing tantrums and having BIG EMOTIONS that he didn't know how to deal with! It definitely gets easier as they start being able to communicate better. Though I'm just barely into the twos and apparently the threes are even worse...</p> <p>I don't have a ton of advice, but around one is when we started doing timeouts, ignoring tantrums, giving options (of two things), and transition warnings. You kind of figure it out as you go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/struggling-with-parenting#post-2177924 Thu, 14 May 2015 10:12:39 +0000 Jass 2177924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is going to be 1 in a week. And I am finding toddler hood very challenging. She was easy baby till 11 months. Now everything is a struggle :diaper and cloth change are on top of the list followed by food. She throws food on floor and refuses to let us spoon feed. She has started screaming on top of her lungs when she doesn't get what she wants. I thought this was supposed to be terrible twos but I am really struggling how to deal with such behavior. </p>