https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 15:59:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stupid-vent#post-1953317 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 17:49:12 +0000 Cherrybee 1953317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aaw, I'm sorry. </p> <p>My DH does the helping but not helping-me thing too. Like the other day I was putting a very hysterical E down for the night when he started stripping our bed, exclaiming that the sheets hadn't been changed for two weeks. Um, yeah, thanks for doing that but a little help here would be nice!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stupid-vent#post-1953278 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 17:28:19 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1953278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I just had this argument w/ my DH a couple nights ago. I don't SAH, but I feel like I still do all the kid-rearing. He helps by going to the store, but he's never helping around the house AND watching both kids. </p> <p>Have you talked to him about it... when you're not about to break? I know that's my biggest downfall - I wait until I'm about to explode and it comes out all wrong and puts him on the offensive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stupid-vent#post-1953200 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 16:48:54 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1953200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH can be like this too - most of the time I think they are just unaware! When I do bring it to DH's attention, he doesn't mind at all giving me the downtime I need. Have you brought it up to him? He might not even realize that you need more than he's been giving! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/stupid-vent#post-1953174 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 16:34:14 +0000 jedeve 1953174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, I know I am being unfair, but sometimes this really bugs me.</p> <p>I'm staying at home, and working part time in the afternoons. I've got two under two. I've been sick (and the kids and DH) for over a week now. It's been sub zero temps all last week and below freezing temps all this week. I've hardly left the house. I need a flipping break.</p> <p>DH is home unexpectedly from work this week. Yay! I always think it will be so much easier when he is here. Like, we can go do something in the morning. Or I can sleep in. Or I can get work done without having to worry about the kids. </p> <p>But it never is. He just kind of does his own thing. And not in a bad way - he is helping around the house. But I want him to help with the kids. And if he does, he will just help with one. So I'm still on duty the whole time. </p> <p>Like he is at the grocery store right now. Which is great, and a big help. But I'm never like "oh hey I'm just gonna go somewhere, be back in an hour." Maybe I should. So now I'm trying to work while entertaining a baby like I do every afternoon.</p> <p>And I can't complain because he is helping. But I just wish he could take over my job as a SAHM completely for a few hours one day. Like, instead of helping cook dinner while watching the kids, cook dinner AND watch the kids like I have to. Or fold laundry and watch the kids. Or go to the grocery store and watch the kids. </p> <p>And sometimes the help just isn't that helpful. He spent the morning sorting laundry into piles that still need folded. Or he held the baby during his nap while I got the toddler lunch and down for his nap. Then I went back to the living room and told DH I was going to do some work. He was like, "well, can I eat lunch??" Yes! Just put the baby down!!</p> <p>Gah. I know I'm being ungrateful. </p>