https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Apr 2026 17:25:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1869774 Fri, 19 Sep 2014 08:42:00 +0000 irene 1869774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry to hear that.... I think it is the new school / environment... Poor little girl she doesn't understand what's going on...</p> <p>I wonder if it would help with some positive reinforcement? Say, go pick out some really beautiful glittery stickers and explain to your DD,that if she behaves well throughout the day, listens to the teachers while not pushing / biting others, then she gets a glittery sticker a day? Also explain to her that she is a big girl now and big girls need to go to a new school ....etc.</p> <p>Good luck to you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1868644 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 15:09:04 +0000 brownie 1868644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: He was acting out a bit at home (nothing like hitting etc but he wasn't his normal self). He is now back to just being his amazing smart little self. </p> <p>Saw him today at school and he waited patiently (told his teachers he was waiting) for lunch that ended up being 30 minutes late (bad mommy). Then after eating, he asked me if he could "go sleep with my friends". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1868617 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 14:55:39 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1868617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: Thanks for sharing that - that's definitely something that crossed my mind. I think we're going to try it out for just a little longer. If things don't go well, we'll switch her back to the old daycare. How was your son when he was at home? Was he only acting up at school or was it at home, too? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1866696 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 16:18:20 +0000 brownie 1866696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: I would like to share my experience which may or may not be helpful. </p> <p>We just moved to a new town and a new preschool. My son has always had transition issues to his schools but we have worked through it well and he has loved school and NEVER had any issues. </p> <p>At this new school, they started telling us that he was hitting kids, pulling hair, etc. These are behaviors we have never seen from him or had any issues with before. The teachers were never there when we picked him up (or dropped him off). So their solution was to move him into the younger kid class and it just got worse. We moved him.</p> <p>He started at another new school and it is night and day difference. They can't believe he ever hit kids. We have no transition issues and he just goes in and LOVES school. It is so much better for him and I am glad we made the move. It was the best thing we could do for him and I wish we could have moved him sooner (not an option).</p> <p>The only explanation we have is that he was bullied at the old school. I think there were a lot of kids that hit and everything and he was the only one that got caught. After this experience, I do truly believe that the school environment was just bad. I feel horrible for keeping him there as long as we did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1866669 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 16:04:46 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1866669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: it sounds like the problems preceded the bonk given that an interaction with another child precipitated it. Closed head injury can certainly result in personality changed too, but I'm not sure how we tease out the causal factors or what we would do differently knowing it was the injury? Good question, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1866599 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 15:28:37 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1866599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: @Mama Bird: My husband just picked her up and talked to her teacher. We think there's a few things working here. </p> <p>1. The switch to a new school (although she usually adapts very well)<br /> 2. One week after moving to the new school, they moved her up to the older class since she was so advanced from the other kids her age. She went from having 15 to 25 kids in her class<br /> 3. She has some trouble with transitions if she doesn't know what to expect. We always have to talk to her, give her a heads up and explain what's going to happen next. In this room she's in, they split into groups each day and switch between computer, library and PE. The groups are different each day, and, because of the large class size, the teachers can't spend the one-on-one time w/ her that she needs in order to prepare for the next thing they do.<br /> 4. We took away the paci at nap time a couple months ago (which she is heavily dependent on....). But, I think we're going to give it back in order to help her calm down and sleep at school. </p> <p>I feel awful because she's having such a hard time. But I think we're going to work with the teachers more on ways to work through this. </p> <p>@Mama Bird: moving her back to the old school did cross my mind, but we paid 8 months in advance for this school already and just bought uniforms (that we can't return), so I want to try it a little longer before making that switch (and potentially upsetting her all over again) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1866490 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 14:41:34 +0000 Mama Bird 1866490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds terrible! I'm sorry you're having a tough time with the day care. When did this start - as soon as she changed day cares, or later? Do you think she might want to go back to the old day care, and her sister and friends? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1866477 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 14:37:05 +0000 mrbee 1866477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: I wonder if there's a conflict with another kid that the teachers aren't picking up on. That might explain why she stayed in the potty, was trying to climb the fence, and doesn't want you guys to leave...</p> <p>Is it possible for you (or BabyBoecksDad) to observe her at the daycare for a morning or afternoon? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1866422 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 14:11:39 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1866422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: her 1st few days were great! But it's been getting worse every day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1866397 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 14:05:30 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1866397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: you don't think it could be from hitting her head on Thursday? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1866378 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 13:56:44 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1866378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm guessing you guys tried to talk through the transition with her, visited and explained why she was going to a different program prior to the switch? </p> <p>She's obviously having a tough transition. Hopefully the new program has ideas on how to help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1866376 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 13:54:36 +0000 mrbee 1866376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: Oh no!!</p> <p>Has she had any good days at the new daycare? Or has it been getting progressively worse over time... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1866369 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 13:51:18 +0000 BandDmommy 1866369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to guess it's due to the new daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sudden-change-in-25-yr-old-behavior-help#post-1866332 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 13:39:55 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1866332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD1 is 2.5 yrs old. She's always been more advanced in terms of maturity and the youngest kid in her class. A few weeks ago, we moved her from a daycare that she liked (and that DD2 went to), to a great daycare (that we had been on the waitlist for 2 yrs, but DD2 isn't there). </p> <p>Since she has been at this new school, she has been acting out - BAD. Instead of just saying "bye" and going to play when we drop her off, she clings to us and throws a massive tantrum when we leave. She's also getting more physical - last Thursday, she and another girl were pushing each other in the bathroom, where my DD fell back and landed w/ her head on a stool (cue ER visit...). </p> <p>Yesterday, we were told she had to be brought to the office twice because 1) she refused to nap and was waking up the other kids and 2) she BIT the TEACHER while on the playground because the teacher removed her from the fence she was repeatedly trying to climb. </p> <p>Today's call has me really concerned though.... They said that she won't listen at all and keeps throwing tantrums in which she won't even let the teachers touch her. After she went potty, she wouldn't get off toilet - they said that her legs were getting red from sitting on so long, but she still wouldn't get off and would kick and scream when they took her off. It's nap time again today and she is trying to wake the kids up. </p> <p>I'm at a loss! I don't know what to do! Her listening is a little worse at home, but I figured it just had to do w/ being almost 3. I'm concerned that it might have to do w/ her fall from Thursday.... or is it because we took her away from her sister (whom she absolutely adores)??</p> <p>Please - anyone have any ideas on how to turn this around?? </p>