https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 17:16:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/supporting-friends-struggling-ttc#post-1256516 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 14:21:01 +0000 HazelEyes 1256516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. 64: Thanks. Its tough to balance celebrating my own milestones with being sensitive to how frustrating I just know their situations are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/supporting-friends-struggling-ttc#post-1254638 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 18:12:06 +0000 mrs. 64 1254638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great suggestion @2PeasinaPod. Personally, I would love for my friends to ask me how things are going, but I know a lot of people are quite the opposite. I think this gives people a chance to state their preference.</p> <p>@HazelEyes: You sound like a very thoughtful friend and I'm sure your friends are thankful to have you. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/supporting-friends-struggling-ttc#post-1254536 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 17:16:17 +0000 HazelEyes 1254536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. tictactoe: @2PeasinaPod: @pui: @Littlebit: ok. That's where I was going but thought this would be a good place to ask. Thanks ladies </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/supporting-friends-struggling-ttc#post-1254303 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 15:48:36 +0000 Littlebit 1254303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: I think this is an excellent suggestion! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/supporting-friends-struggling-ttc#post-1254280 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 15:40:33 +0000 pui 1254280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: This is solid advice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/supporting-friends-struggling-ttc#post-1254279 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 15:39:51 +0000 pui 1254279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if they're pulling away, you should give them the space they need.</p> <p>Also, I wouldn't bring it up, but instead just remind them that they can talk to you about anything and that you are there for them whenever they may need it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/supporting-friends-struggling-ttc#post-1254276 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 15:38:32 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1254276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've also been on both ends of this. I think just letting them know every once in a while that you're there for them is really nice. You can talk to a friend initially and just say, "Listen...I don't want to bring things up that might be unnecessarily painful for you, but I want to ask how you're doing every once in a while. I really care about you and want to make sure you know that I'm here for you. If you prefer me not to ask, I'll never ask again...but just know you can bring it up to me whenever you want."</p> <p>I found that helped with one friend who WANTED me to ask, and another who never wanted me to ask, but would bring it up to me when she needed to just vent. Coming out with both options lets your friend decide which type of person she is and how to broach the subject. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/supporting-friends-struggling-ttc#post-1254264 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 15:34:12 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1254264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is so tough. I have been on both ends. I struggled getting pregnant with my son and had a really hard time when friends were pregnant, then I finally got pregnant and felt so bad for friends who were struggling. Now I'm struggling again and I'm back on the other side. I really don't think there is anything you can do, other than to let them know you're there for them and give them space if they need it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/supporting-friends-struggling-ttc#post-1254233 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 15:20:55 +0000 HazelEyes 1254233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have several friends who are TTC right now, a few that it has been over a year. I want to be a support for them, knowing how bananas the whole rollercoaster is, but I am currently 23 weeks and feel like they might be--understandably-- pulling away. </p> <p>I make an effort not to push and let them bring it up if/when they want to talk about it, but would love for them to know I"m still there for them. Any advice? </p>