https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 14:08:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754525 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:41:09 +0000 Ra 754525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good idea on the gift card ladies! I'm definitely going to go that route. Sad thing is, I don't even know if it really is their 25th anniversary. Haha. I was so young when they got married I don't remember what year it was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754522 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:36:53 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 754522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: that's a great idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754488 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:20:33 +0000 avivoca 754488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would take a gift, since 25 years is a pretty big anniversary. I like @.twist.'s idea of a gift card, along with a really nice card and/or flowers. If it is a baby shower for you, perhaps you could gift the flowers to the host(s)?</p> <p>As a side note, I think it's neat that you help out at schools in rural Appalachia. My husband is from rural East KY (practically WV, his parents live right across the river from WV), and both of us went to school there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754486 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:20:14 +0000 bunnylove08 754486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would get a present for your aunt even if its a cover up. They would get a kick out of it thinking they got you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754485 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:20:08 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 754485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: +3 or 4 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754474 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:15:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 754474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: My sister did want a surprise, but she gave me an outfit to bring in case she showed up in an outfit she didn't want to wear at her shower. She ended up looking lovely and not needing to change, but it was funny. </p> <p>My non-work one really can't be a surprise, since it's a 4 hour drive away from me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754453 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:08:37 +0000 Foodnerd81 754453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I like that idea! </p> <p>I'm not really a big fan of the surprise baby shower anyway-- I think it's a bad idea to really surprise a very pregnant woman! But my coworkers are totally into it and we successfully surprised one pregnant coworker, and another one totally figured it out and put me on the spot directly asking me if it was that day. I kind of stammered some vague answer, but she knew and we should have just let it go. </p> <p>So.... yeah, pretend to be a little surprised, I guess, but I'd cancel your trip and get the gift card. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754452 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:08:35 +0000 Modern Daisy 754452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you ask your DH to find out for you? Do you think your family would tell him? </p> <p>I told my DH early on that I did NOT want a surprise shower because I knew I'd be not looking or feelign my best and would at least want to prepare for it mentally and pick out a nice outfit. I knew anyone who was planning a surprise for me would have to go through him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754448 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:07:14 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 754448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: agree! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754446 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:06:38 +0000 ShootingStar 754446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could ask if gifts are appropriate, and she'll probably tell you no, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754444 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:05:41 +0000 MamaMoose 754444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: this exactly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754441 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:05:01 +0000 runsyellowlites 754441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would still get them a gift.. even if there is no anniversary party I think 25 years is gift worthy! I love how your aunt "just wanted to let you know" so conveniently the same day you told your mom your plans though. lol Maybe it is the anniversary party, idk, but I think it's great that your mom is trying to surprise you nevertheless.. super sweet! =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754437 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:04:10 +0000 .twist. 754437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would get a card with a gift card to somewhere for something you could use (like dinner to a nice restaraunt). haha that way, when you go, it could TOTALLY be something they would use, but if you don't need it, it's not a waste of money either!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-baby-shower-predicament#post-754431 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:02:05 +0000 Ra 754431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom has been set on throwing me a surprise baby shower and I am 99% sure I have figured out when it is. Every couple months, I go to a poor, rural area of Appalachia (about 7 hours away) to help out a school there. I planned on going back mid-May and told my mom about it in passing yesterday. When I told her, she got really weird and tried to talk me out of it in case I went into early labor or something. </p> <p>Then, later on that night, I got a FB message from my aunt saying that they were throwing a surprise 25th anniversary party for my other aunt and uncle on the SAME DAY I planned on leaving for Appalachia. In the message, she said she wasn't sending out invites but was just letting everyone know via FB and by phone. However, the message was directed towards me and no one else was included (you would think it would be a mass message if it were truly an invite).</p> <p>Anyway, I can cancel my trip without issue. I am pretty sure it is a shower for me though. My question is, do I still buy an anniversary gift for my aunt/uncle?! What if it really is their party? Or if I show up empty handed, it will look like I knew (which would hurt my mom) or that I am a brat who goes to a party empty handed!</p> <p>If I do get something, what should I get? I've never been to a 25th wedding anniversary party before! </p>