https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 13:20:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-152688 Wed, 09 May 2012 08:53:48 +0000 loveisstrange 152688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a surprise pregnancy. My FIL died at the end of June and we were due to move to the UK at the end of July. I got pregnant the weekend of the 4th. We had only been married for 8 months. I struggled really hard with it for several months. I remember going into my first ultrasound and seeing that little blob and hearing that heartbeat and feeling absolutely nothing. I was angry, I felt guilty, I was depressed and I felt like my life and body were no longer my own. It took me a long time to overcome those feelings and to start to bond with my unborn baby. </p> <p>She's 5 weeks old now and I suffer from PPD and I won't lie and say that there aren't still some days that I wonder what it would have been like if I hadn't got pregnant... but I love my little girl. Life throws us obstacles to make us stronger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-151893 Tue, 08 May 2012 13:54:24 +0000 mrbee 151893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: @volksgirl64: @googly-eyes: @Minnie_Girl: @daniellemybelle: Elgato's first guest blog is up! :-)</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/05/08/surprise-first-time-mother/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/05/08/surprise-first-time-mother/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150687 Mon, 07 May 2012 13:46:23 +0000 daniellemybelle 150687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find the bloggers to be fairly diverse, actually! Some working moms, some stay-at-home moms, one mom with older kids, one mom with a special needs child, one mom that adopted... lots going on there! </p> <p>@elgato: I would love to read a guest blog about an unplanned pregnancy. I hope you do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150557 Mon, 07 May 2012 12:32:10 +0000 Arden 150557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well keep in mind that this site is still new: it will take awhile to attract a crowd of diverse bloggers. I'm sure they will come. I do actually find the current bloggers very interesting, because they are so very different from me! Ha, normal is interesting to people with unusual lives.<br /> That said, I'm really looking forward to hopefully becoming a blogger. I think my lifestyle would be interesting for people to read because it's... weird. :) Plus I just really love to write. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150514 Mon, 07 May 2012 12:10:46 +0000 Mrs. Pen 150514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son was planned... but we didn't put a ton of thought into it, and once i found out I was pregnant, I started freaking out - "what did I get myself into!" I had originally said about 5 years, since I was only 20 when I got married. I wanted to finish school and have a couple years in a career first, saving money, buy a house, etc. But my husband wanted one soo bad that I gave in sooner than I had planned! We have our 10 week old son now, and it is hard being so young and being a mother - but it is fun and rewarding too.</p> <p>I love the bloggers - I think they're so fun to read and I'm excited to see HB grow and see more bloggers.</p> <p>I have considered applying to blog myself... I looove writing and was originally going to go into journalism. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150509 Mon, 07 May 2012 12:08:18 +0000 cyndistar3 150509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first pregnancy was most certainly a surprise one, I got pregnant from my first time ever having sex at the age of 14. Thankfully he truly was the love of my life and now we are married and having our second child that was 100% planned! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150505 Mon, 07 May 2012 12:06:13 +0000 kayakgirl73 150505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love to hear all types of stories surprise pg, planned pg, pg after IF struggles, IF and adoption stories. I think that we can all learn from each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150503 Mon, 07 May 2012 12:05:24 +0000 googly-eyes 150503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I too think that would make the blog more interesting. It's not that the current bloggers are uninteresting, just in the sense that it's a little uniform! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150497 Mon, 07 May 2012 11:57:55 +0000 Mrs. Bee 150497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're always looking to feature a diverse group of bloggers, and I'd love to have a single mom, but I don't think most of them have the time to blog! :)</p> <p>But we accept guest posts and guest series on every ttc/pregnancy/parenting topic, and encourage everyone to submit them.</p> <p>So far all of our applications have been from married women that are ttc, pregnant or a parent, but I'm sure as the site grows we'll have all kinds of different parenting journeys represented! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150294 Mon, 07 May 2012 09:53:35 +0000 Lone Palm 150294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am 5wks and 2 days today. My husband and I were planning to start TTC towards the end of the year but had a slip up on a three day weekend in April. Surprise! We are due in January. While we couldn't be more excited i'm still overwhelmed with all kinds of different thoughts. Some of them being totally selfish but then I just remember that little sweet pea growing inside of me. I came over from weddingbee so i'm super excited to get acquainted with people here and hear some of those surprise stories! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150277 Mon, 07 May 2012 09:45:54 +0000 Minnie_Girl 150277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm also a surprise first time mom (baby will arrive when I'm 24), and I agree. It would be nice to read about a mom who didn't follow a predetermined plan and had to make her way through the pregnancy. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150260 Mon, 07 May 2012 09:33:26 +0000 Mrs. Train 150260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not exactly in a surprise situation where we weren't trying. In fact we tried for awhile then choose adoption. I accepted not having biological children and loved bringing our first son into our lives through adoption. When he was two months old I found out I was pregnant. I was excited at first the same way thehistoryofus described but then I would have some oh my god moments where I thought this is going to be crazy. At my first ultrasound I found out they were twins and promptly freaked out right there in the office. My son would be nine months when our surprise twins would be born. I should tell you I had a lot of what am I doing moments. I also remember thinking what have I done? I had many more ups and downs than my husband. I think some of it is hormonal, some is just differences between men and woman and I think a big difference is that the baby is in you. A woman is constantly thinking or reminded of the child she is carrying. When I was pregnant ever little thing reminded me of the children I would be bringing into this world. Every time I was nauseous or when my clothes wouldn't fit, or farther along the flutters, kicks and hiccups I could feel would bring it back to the front of my mind. </p> <p>When we were having our fourth (she was planned) my husband went with me to one of my last appointments. They did a quick ultra sound and then we scheduled a date for my c section. In the car my husband said "wow this is really starting to feel real". I'm sure I looked at him with daggers in my eyes. At 37 weeks pregnant, with a giant belly, and and aerobic acrobat performing in my gut(she even bruised my ribs) it was getting real for him. He said "I know honey you are the one carrying her and it's already real for you but just remember my prospective, you have known her for nine months but I am still waiting to meet her"</p> <p>So just remember you do deserve your pregnancy. You also are allowed to have whatever emotional journey you may experience during your pregnancy, and so does your husband. A child will change your lives and add some stress, and test you and your husband but coming from a mother of four let me tell you it's worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150193 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:33:12 +0000 mrbee 150193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We'd love to see more applications from people in different places in their lives! If that describes you, please do consider applying!</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/apply-to-blog/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/apply-to-blog/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150190 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:31:33 +0000 mediagirl 150190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: @elgato: I bet as the site gets more viewers and more people start reading the blog/chat boards, we'll see more and more people from different situations. With Hellobee being so young, I think it's still in it's early stages where a lot of first or second time parents are coming over from Weddingbee to join in the fun. </p> <p>Weddingbee is actually a good example of a site that has grown as it found more readers. They have a wide range of diverse bloggers on that site that has probably grown as their site has grown. That site has been around longer and has attracted a more diverse crowd along the way. I bet the same thing will happen with Hellobee.</p> <p>@elgato: I love that you spoke up about this and even though I'm not in that situation, I would love to hear your story, especially how you handled everything when you found out! Even if you didn't want to become a full-time blogger, I think it would be great to have you or any other blogger in that situation maybe do a special series on the topic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150189 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:31:29 +0000 Mrs. Cat in the Cradle 150189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Yeah. It is a little difficult to write about my life. Work, home, pets, clean, dinner, sleep, and repeat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150188 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:29:22 +0000 Mrs. Cat in the Cradle 150188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I do apologize - I certainly do not want that to be the impression this post leaves. I also know that this blog is in the process of growing, and ladies and gents with different situations will (or hopefully will) apply to be bloggers and/or participate in the forums. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150187 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:29:16 +0000 looch 150187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry, not intended to offend. My life isn't even interesting enough to blog about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150183 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:25:08 +0000 mrbee 150183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey guys... please remember that our bloggers are real life people too! Think of how it must sting to read that someone finds you "kind of uninteresting." Ouch! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150181 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:21:18 +0000 Mrs. Cat in the Cradle 150181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Agree. My husband was rasied by just his mother, and I don't even know how she made it through at times. I really admire her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150179 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:18:58 +0000 looch 150179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would be great to hear from all kinds of mothers and fathers, single, divorced, with step families, etc. Right now, it kind of seems like all the bloggers are following the same mold, which makes the blog kind of uninteresting (at least for me, right now). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150178 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:18:25 +0000 Mrs. Cat in the Cradle 150178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thehistoryofus That is how we are. Farther into our marriage, but parenting was not a path we were expecting currently. I honestly think I've had more up and down days than my husband. He worries, of course, but I know I've had more "WHAT AM I DOING?!??!" moments than he has. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150177 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:15:47 +0000 Mrs. Cat in the Cradle 150177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I will certainly consider. Thanks Mr. Bee! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150174 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:14:21 +0000 heffalump 150174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@elgato: hope you decide to blog, I'd love to hear more of your story! Lo was planned, but it's always interesting to hear what others go through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150169 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:07:23 +0000 volksgirl64 150169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree. DH &amp; I weren't married or even living in the same state when we found out about DD. We'd been dating for all of 6 months. Now, I know that these stories don't necessarily have happy endings, but we are fortunate that everything worked out and I can't imagine my life any other way.<br /> The majority of stories on here are traditional path: dating, marriage, then babies and I sometimes hesitate to comment because I think I'm in the minority. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150164 Mon, 07 May 2012 08:02:00 +0000 mrbee 150164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@elgato: Please do submit a guest blog! We've found that even a single post may attract other bloggers interested in posting on that same subject. :-)</p> <p>Or if you're up for it, we'd love to see you apply to blog yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150150 Mon, 07 May 2012 07:44:58 +0000 T.H.O.U. 150150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will be completely honest that about 6 months into our marriage we found out we were pregnant. We both 100% were sure we wanted a family and I thought I was ready and had started asking him when he would be ready. Realistically, if we had planned things out, it probably would have been 2 years into our marriage before we tried to start a family. I had finished college, we owned a home, and had decent jobs. </p> <p>When we found out, we both took the news in our own way. I was happy at first and after a few weeks started freaking out, while he freaked out right away and after a few weeks started to get excited. </p> <p>In the end, the saying really is true that you are never going to be 100% ready for a baby. Its a huge lifestyle change no matter what. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/surprise-first-time-mothers#post-150140 Mon, 07 May 2012 07:27:46 +0000 Mrs. Cat in the Cradle 150140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love reading about the various paths that the current set of Hellobee bloggers take to motherhood. It would be nice to see a blogger or a guest post by a woman like myself, though. I came to this journey one day completely out of the blue. One second a baby is a maybe in two years, and then I was told to expect our LO at the end of this July. The range of the emotions, plus not having that time to prepare important aspects like family finances, has made for an interesting journey thus far.</p> <p>On some other sites you are made to feel like you don't "deserve" the pregnancy. Obviously, that is not the situation on Hellobee, but I do feel like I'm in the minority. Just a thought - that tends to happen from time to time. :-) </p>