https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 02:47:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-2014609 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 01:19:51 +0000 anonysquire 2014609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: love that!!! Thank you! I know it's a fine line between tacky and maybe ok :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-2014597 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 00:34:03 +0000 loveisstrange 2014597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Princess Z's royal birthday wish is to bestow the gift of the written word upon Primary Children's Hospital." </p> <p>Something like that?</p> <p>Normally, I say no mention of gifts on an invite, but I think since it's a donation, it's fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-2014590 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 00:23:14 +0000 anonysquire 2014590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok so can I have some wording help? Her theme is royalty and her invitation is chalk full of hear ye's and fancy words. How can I put this more fancy, lol?</p> <p>While we are honored to have your presence at the party, please no gifts! (And then I want to add that they can bring a book for Primary Childrens hospital if they would like to).</p> <p>Anyone? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875241 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 08:06:51 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1875241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not tacky. I like the idea of partying with a purpose.</p> <p>@mrbee: your link is pretty helpful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875211 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 07:48:51 +0000 MrsSCB 1875211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's a really sweet idea! I know etiquette-wise, people think it's "tacky" to make any reference at all to gifts on an invite, but in cases like this, I think it's totally fine! Plus it's not like people would be surprised at the suggestion of bringing a gift to a birthday party ;-) I like @mrbee's wording idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875156 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 06:24:24 +0000 Foodnerd81 1875156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to a bday party this summer where instead of gifts they were collecting books or the bday girls school. I thought it was great, and easier for me, shopping wise, since I wasn't worried about duplicates or whatever. I forget how she worded t but you have good suggestions on here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875134 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 05:37:03 +0000 cmomma17 1875134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: you could say "Z is collecting books for x Charity!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875114 Wed, 24 Sep 2014 03:59:04 +0000 Cherrybee 1875114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its a wonderful idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875092 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 23:34:33 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1875092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The friends that planned my baby shower stated in the invitation that what we wanted as gifts were books to build our child's library, so everyone should bring their favourite book from childhood. Everyone did, and also got us gifts for the most part! So I wouldn't be surprised if people ignore the "instead of"... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875089 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 23:29:19 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1875089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its a nice gesture :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875088 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 23:27:43 +0000 anonysquire 1875088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@singingbee: well the local children's hospital.</p> <p>@mrbee: perfect!!! I love that!</p> <p>@Ginabean3: :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875087 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 23:24:23 +0000 Ginabean3 1875087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's tacky and I like Mr.Bee's wording! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875084 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 23:20:08 +0000 mrbee 1875084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: I don't think it's tacky, although some people would disagree. Maybe you could edit the text though, so that it doesn't presume that people would bring a gift?</p> <p>Might be safer to say: "Please just bring yourself - no gifts, please. If you do wish to bring something, a children's book for [so and so charity] would be a wonderful way to commemorate Z's birthday."</p> <p>The wording was adapted from various articles, including this one which has a number of options you may prefer!</p> <p><a href="http://www.punchbowl.com/p/how-to-host-a-giving-party" rel="nofollow">http://www.punchbowl.com/p/how-to-host-a-giving-party</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875083 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 23:12:05 +0000 singingbee 1875083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you donating it to another organization? I don't think it is tacky and there have been other posts on here that have some wording suggestions. Just be prepared for people to not follow it, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tacky-to-ask-for-this-instead-for-a-b-day-party#post-1875082 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 23:02:02 +0000 anonysquire 1875082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So would I be able to say "instead of gifts, please bring a book to donate to 'such and such place'"? I don't want to be tacky. If it's apropriate, is there a good way to word it? </p>