https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 22:38:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624983 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 14:57:16 +0000 yellowbird 2624983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A cold isn't a big deal to me. I would've likely given a heads up but I feel like.... kids are going to get cold regardless! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624982 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 14:54:25 +0000 travelgirl1 2624982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be annoyed. My friends and I would always give each other heads up over sick kids. Often no one would cancel for a cold, but it was nice to be asked. My family don't ever give heads up though. The reason why I think it matters is you just don't know if that other person needs to try and be healthy for some reason. For example, I have an elderly, frail grandparent and if my kids are sick I can't visit him. You can't always prevent your kids getting sick, but sometimes it's avoidable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624942 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 13:55:51 +0000 caterw 2624942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be upset- the parents should have at least asked if it was OK for their sick kid to come over and play with/ infect your kids. I agree not every little sniffly nose is cause for concern, but "medium sick" for a toddler can easily translate to "pretty freaking sick" for a 6 mo baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624744 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 09:29:47 +0000 fancyfunction 2624744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I always say something b/c I'd want someone to do the same for me. Both my kids have colds now so I let our friend know and we've rescheduled our play date. I think a heads up is just common courtesy and its then up to the other person to decide if the illness is a big deal to them or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624738 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 09:13:00 +0000 avivoca 2624738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always let people know if we are under the weather to give them an opportunity to change their plans. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624732 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 09:02:02 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2624732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: that would really annoy me! We get enough crap from dd being in preschool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624702 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 08:20:12 +0000 looch 2624702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In this specific case, knowing you have an infant at home, I would have said something upfront. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624693 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 08:13:03 +0000 catomd00 2624693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably mention it if it was the first day or two of a cold and especially of the person's kids aren't in school/daycare. when we were in daycare, I always felt bad about spreading my kids daycare germs to kids that stayed home lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624673 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 07:42:21 +0000 Iced Tea 2624673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my friends, we automatically avoid contact with anything major and consult each other for anything more minor. We give details (cough but no fever, etc) and ask if the other party wants to reschedule. </p> <p>I don't think it's okay for them to just come over without saying anything (even if you didn't have an infant, I would still think so). </p> <p>Now that it has happened like this, you will have to speak up or else you'll always wonder what sickness they will bring to your kids. I'd probably say that your child is having a rough time of it and you are really afraid of the baby getting it. Ask them to tell you next time anyone is sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624672 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 07:40:48 +0000 Reese 2624672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not cool! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624645 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 06:42:51 +0000 Adira 2624645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uhh... guess I'll go against the grain and say I don't see this as a big deal?</p> <p>When your kids are in daycare, they are pretty much sick all the time. If I kept my kids home when they were sick, we'd never go anywhere or do anything!</p> <p>A heads-up would've been nice, but kids get colds all the time. I don't see it being that big of a deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624624 Wed, 21 Sep 2016 03:47:38 +0000 mrbee 2624624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Yah I agree that colds aren't a huge deal for toddlers... but I wouldn't mess around with a 6mo's health! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624554 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 21:06:19 +0000 sandy 2624554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always let people know before a play date if LO or I are feeling sick - doesn't matter if we're planning to go to their house or they're coming over here. I always give the option to cancel and reschedule for another day. That being said no one has ever decided not to come over or told us not to come over. </p> <p>I know most kids pass germs back and forth and if there's no fever or vomit then these kids would be allowed to go to daycare/school and play areas so in that way I do understand how some people don't really think a cold is a big deal. But I think it's just being courteous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624535 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 20:10:33 +0000 Foodnerd81 2624535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She should have said something, especially since they were coming to your house. BUT I also think colds are just kind of par for the course with the toddler set. If it's just a runny nose I don't worry too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624530 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 20:07:40 +0000 Bao 2624530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not ok!!! I would be livid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624529 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 20:03:33 +0000 wheres_c 2624529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be pissed!!! And give her a piece of my mind! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624528 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 20:01:44 +0000 Beehive 2624528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way, very bad form. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624527 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 20:00:44 +0000 youboots 2624527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624526 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 20:00:09 +0000 mrbee 2624526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She definitely should have mentioned something, and given you a chance to back out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624522 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 19:51:37 +0000 FaithFertility 2624522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope I'd be very upset </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624520 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 19:48:12 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2624520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's SUPER frustrating. I'd have been mad that she didn't mention it, especially knowing that you've got young kids too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624519 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 19:48:03 +0000 jhd 2624519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not wrong! We have had this happen several times with my ILs and it is so frustrating. :bummed: I hope your LO feels better soon and baby doesn't catch it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624514 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 19:44:34 +0000 mfa_lady 2624514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not wrong. That's super frustrating. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/taking-sick-kids-to-play-dates#post-2624504 Tue, 20 Sep 2016 19:20:40 +0000 erinbaderin 2624504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend had asked me to babysit her two kids on Sunday while she and her husband went to an appointment. The first thing the younger one said when she walked in the house was "I'm real real sick." The older one then told me "Mommy and Daddy are sick too, only I'm not sick!" When I later told my friend about the comment she scoffed "she's not really sick....she's medium sick." I have a 2.5 year old and a 6 month old, my toddler is now sick, and I'm so annoyed. Am I wrong? When her daughter got sick should she have made other plans, or at least let me know? It's just a cold but he's miserable, cranky and weepy and can't sleep. And he's constantly all up in the baby's face so I'm sure that he's next. </p>