https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 08:14:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-me-off-my-guilt-ledge-please#post-1301410 Thu, 26 Dec 2013 14:21:04 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1301410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I forgot so much of the early days, but I took a lot of videos and watch those when I'm feeling nostalgic. I also WOH, and I feel guilty about missing so much of her time. But I look at all the positive things that she is getting out of daycare (interaction w/ other kids, learning new things, etc). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-me-off-my-guilt-ledge-please#post-1301296 Thu, 26 Dec 2013 13:12:18 +0000 doodlepoodle 1301296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could've written this post myself. As a family our year has been really crazy (new job, relocation before DH &amp; DS, selling/buying homes, etc) and I know I missed a lot and tried to be as 'present' as possible but it was such a struggle. And still is. You do the best you can with what you've got, you're a great mama and that's the most important thing! My friend told me (when we had a similar conversation) that the mere fact that I was feeling that way showed how much I cared...I try to remember that :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-me-off-my-guilt-ledge-please#post-1301280 Thu, 26 Dec 2013 12:57:47 +0000 Foodnerd81 1301280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>C is less than five months and I am a sahm and I still feel like te early days are a blur. I recall feelings of guilt that I wasn't "enjoying every moment", but now I call BS on that. Lots of the early moments are flat out not enjoyable, but you get through then to get to the enjoyable ones. Doing what is best for your family is nothing to feel guilty about! Cherish your weekends and know you are both better off with a happy mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-me-off-my-guilt-ledge-please#post-1301274 Thu, 26 Dec 2013 12:52:56 +0000 Dandelion 1301274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM, and my son is 6. I can't remember all those little details, either. I don't remember DS's first word and was bad about writing things in a baby book. I know he walked at 14 months, but everything else is a blurr. I know that he went from being an 8 week preemie to being on track with his peers within a year, so that's the only fact I remember.</p> <p>All the years are a haze. I remember a few little memories, and I have taken pictures, but it flew by so fast, and now my kid is so big, I can hardly remember how it was when he was little.</p> <p>So, don't feel bad! It happens to all of us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-me-off-my-guilt-ledge-please#post-1301251 Thu, 26 Dec 2013 12:34:16 +0000 mrbee 1301251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also am forgetting a lot of the early days! Time just flies as a parent... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-me-off-my-guilt-ledge-please#post-1301248 Thu, 26 Dec 2013 12:31:07 +0000 brownie 1301248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are doing what is best for you and your baby. Every family has their priorities and they are all different. To me it is a priority for my kids to see that moms work. It is also a priority in our family for them to have the daycare experience. I occasionally feel sadness that I miss something or that I don't see my son for 13 hours a day on some days. But then again my job allows me to visit him at school at random times. And be there when he has school parties.</p> <p>It is great to feel many feelings about the situation. But guilt is one that we should try to eliminate. That implies that there is something wrong and there isn't anything wrong with working (or formula feeding or many other choices parents make). All your baby needs is love and it sounds like he has it in spades! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-me-off-my-guilt-ledge-please#post-1301238 Thu, 26 Dec 2013 12:24:48 +0000 Beyond2 1301238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a SAHM, but often feel similair feelings of not taking in the early days more. I think no matter where you work, the time just flies. Those early days are such a blur and once it hits you how fast they grow you can't help but think about "what could have been". I'm sure you are a great Momma :-) Try not to think about the time past but just continue to live in the day and soak up each moment you are given!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-me-off-my-guilt-ledge-please#post-1301231 Thu, 26 Dec 2013 12:20:54 +0000 Periwinkle 1301231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am having a rough day and wondering if anyone else has ever felt this way...</p> <p>LO is 13.5 months old and I went back to work when he was 3 months old. While I was not quite ready to return, I really felt that getting back to work helped me to get back on a true schedule postpartum. While I always miss my son while at work, it provides me with a level of consistency that I don't know if I would have found as a SAHM. I love our weekends together as a family, but to be honest, I am often exhausted by the time Sunday night rolls around (extra kudos to the mamas who SAH- you're heroes in my book!). Of course I daydream about being with him while at work, so it seems as if the grass is always greener on the other side!</p> <p>Fast forward to now. While I don't regret my decision to return to work or to send LO to his caregiver (whom he adores!), I am starting to (probably unfairly) chastise myself for the amount of time I am away from him. The early months have become so hazy that I find myself forgetting many of the details of when he was little and kick myself for letting these precious times pass me by while I was at work/focusing on work. Occasionally, when I see my friends who are new mamas or other new mommies out and about, I question whether or not I was as "present" as they seem to be. I know it's easy to judge based on what appears on the surface, but I can't help but feel like I missed out on something everyone else had, even those mamas who WOHM. </p> <p>I know I am probably being hard on myself but I just can't seem to let go of this feeling. </p>