https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 29 Jun 2026 09:38:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324614 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 10:09:39 +0000 avivoca 1324614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1) It's hard, but she's going to make so many friends and have such a good time!</p> <p>2) E will definitely know you are her mummy, and the smile that lights up her face when she sees you will melt your heart.</p> <p>3) I worried about this too, but H shifted her bedtime back so to compensate.</p> <p>4) I can't answer this one, as H has only been going two days.</p> <p>5) H is much sleepier after daycare days.</p> <p>Seeing how happy H is at daycare and that her teachers love her makes it easier to leave her, though my mommy heart aches to be with her. But bills have to get paid, so it will be okay in the end. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324557 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 09:58:12 +0000 Bookish 1324557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw hun!</p> <p>1) She will have tons of new buddies and teachers to keep her company all day! I know G absolutely loves to just sit and watch all the action, and she gets way more stimulation at daycare than at home!</p> <p>2) Not even a little will she forget who you are!! G smiles so big for me now when I pick her up, and she definitely knows who her mommy and daddy are. We get the big-time love!</p> <p>3) The early wakeup is going to be an adjustment, I won't lie, but you will all eventually adapt. And she will sleep differently for sure, because daycare will wear her little butt out! You may find that she sleeps better/deeper at night and doesn't need quite as long.</p> <p>4) Well, lucky for you she's starting at the tail end of sick season! Plus she's much older than G was when she started, and yes, G is sick constantly, but it has never been anything serious, and I expect it to get much better in the next couple months</p> <p>5) I really do suspect that her sleep will condense. G is SO much more sleepy after daycare days and sleeps so well! On days where we don't have as much going on, she is much more restless.</p> <p>All that to say, you will be ok! I will also add that my PPD was quite a bit lessened when I got back to work and into a routine. You know you can wall me anytime to vent or chat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324472 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 09:33:24 +0000 blackbird 1324472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1) She's going to love playing with her new friends and teachers!</p> <p>2) She's totally going to know who her mom is and will be so excited to see you!</p> <p>3) She will do well on a schedule, even if it involves waking up early. She's waking up on a schedule. She will adjust to waking up at 7 or whatever and start going to bed earlier (mine does 730-630 now)</p> <p>4) She is only in the nursery 2x/week. She may not get as sick as you think she will--I know mine hasn't! We've never even had to take her to the pediatrician yet. </p> <p>5) All that playtime will exhaust her and make her sleep better at night :)</p> <p>I love daycare. My kid freaking thrives in it. She loves it. She squeals when I drop her off and smiles and shakes when I give her to T. And has the best time with her little friends. I know she loves spending time with me, too, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324452 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 09:26:48 +0000 Alivoo01 1324452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Girl, you know my story about DS's horrible sleep and the constant wake up! I've been back at work since October, and like you, I had the same concerns! For me, I had to focus on the fact that sending him to school meant social interaction and development that I can't provide at home. </p> <p>Like @Adira:, DS has gotten sick twice since starting school, and has always passed it onto me. Thankfully, DS was an awesome trooper and being sick didn't affect him at all other than heavy congestion. Meanwhile, the pedi said being sick sucks BUT it does build up the kiddos immune system so there's that plus if you're looking for a silver lining in being sick - ha!</p> <p>As for forgetting who mommy is, this was my BIGGEST fear!! But like many bees have already mentioned, and many others have already told me, they somehow just know who mommy is. I'm hoping this is true as DS is still small and doesn't have stranger danger yet. Plus, he started school super early. Meanwhile, your LO probably already recognizes you!</p> <p>As for waking up early, maybe after a couple weeks, she'll adjust to the new schedule? For me, what works is I gently wake DS and let him stretch out. Then I talk to him till he sees my face and smiles before I start changing his diaper and getting him ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324418 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 09:10:06 +0000 Revel 1324418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You will make it! It's just hard in the beginning, any way you slice it. I found the time leading up to leaving and the first few days were the worst part, and then it got better. I had all of your fears, and we've survived, and you will too! </p> <p>It will take time to adjust but in my experience LO just goes with the changes. And there is no way she won't know that you're her mama. Hang in there, because it is really hard, but absolutely you can handle it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324322 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 07:52:33 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1324322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thats amazing she sleeps from 6pm - 8am! We never had that problem (she was up around 6:30 am anyways). </p> <p>Now is actually a great time for her to start here are a few positives: </p> <p>1. February is almost past the sick winter season<br /> 2. She's old enough to be mobile and sit up right which helped a ton in letting colds settle for my daughter<br /> 3. Its before the big separation anxiety hits<br /> 4. She's old enough to play and learn with other kids<br /> 5. Its only two days a week </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324316 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 07:43:52 +0000 Smurfette 1324316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Well maybe she will be so tired she will start sleeping better at night!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324311 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 07:38:50 +0000 Adira 1324311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Xander started at 12 weeks and I was soooooooooo scared he would forget who I am! But he hasn't!! And he definitely still loves me! If anything, our time apart just makes us cherish our time together even more now. And Xander LOVES daycare!! He has so much fun playing with his friends and teachers there! And then when I show up to pick him up and he gives me a huge smile, it just makes my entire day!</p> <p>As far as illnesses go though, I think we've gotten the worst of it! Xander's been sick almost every week since he started, and he's gotten ME sick with almost everything he's had! And I always have it worse than him!!! I'm just hoping that next year will be better, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324293 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 07:11:06 +0000 looch 1324293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is an adjustment for the whole family, there will be days when it goes off smoothly and you are high fiving yourself for making the decision. Then there are days where it goes so awfully wrong you just want to get in bed and not come out again.</p> <p>My advice is to give it three months. Sounds like a long time, but it will be a different ball game. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324275 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 06:50:35 +0000 Cherrybee 1324275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: She already goes to bed before 6pm most nights!! We wont be getting in with her until about that time!! Humph!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324271 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 06:36:07 +0000 Anagram 1324271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: it's hard but you get used to it, I promise. We just started daycare ourselves so I'm no expert but it hasn't been as hard as I was anticipating. She's not napping well at daycare yet (they said it takes a couple of weeks for them to get used to a new environment) so she mainly is completely worn out when I pick her up, but otherwise she seems fine and the same as she ever was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324260 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 06:17:09 +0000 Smurfette 1324260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She knows who you are!!! R started at 12 weeks and never not knew who I am. It is so hard leaving her still but the smile I get when I pick her up is so amazing!! She crawls right over to me. I. know she loves day care. They get to play all day with other kids and are with teachers that love them. She has gotten colds this year, but knock on wood, she hasn't been that sick. She will adjust to getting up earlier. If anything she will just move her bedtime to a little earlier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324255 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 06:00:30 +0000 Cherrybee 1324255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Thank you. How old were they when they started?</p> <p>So many of the parents on here go back to work when their baby is young.... We are entitled to a year's maternity leave here but the statutory pay is awful and, now my company pay has run out, we can't afford for me to take any more time off. I know I have been really, really lucky to have 7 months off but that's compared to the parents on this site - here int he UK, most people take the full year off. I don't know anyone who has put a baby as young as mine in daycare (of course loads of people here must do but I don't know of anyone!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324254 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 05:44:26 +0000 mrbee 1324254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She will definitely not be confused about who her parents are!! Babies just know... it's actually kind of amazing how they just know!</p> <p>Our kids loved daycare. Bee and I were just talking about how it's one of the best decisions we've made on the parenting front! They got so much out of it... the director of the program is so loving and awesome too.</p> <p>Our kids did get sick a fair amount, but that stopped after a while! I'm sure your daughter will do great!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-leaving-your-baby-to-go-back-to-ft-work#post-1324248 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 05:33:24 +0000 Cherrybee 1324248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm trying to be a big brave girl about this but it's so, so hard! I am going back to work full time on 17th February. I really, really don't want to go back - especially part time - but needs must. I am the main earner in our house and... you know the rest. </p> <p>My daughter will be 6.5 months old when I go back. She will be going to my inlaws' house three days a week and then going to nursery 2 days per week. </p> <p>My big worries: </p> <p>1) She's going to be scared and feel abandoned when I leave her at nursery. </p> <p>2) She's not going to know who her mummy is. </p> <p>She's going to spend more awake time with my MIL than she does me and DH. :sad:</p> <p>3) She will struggle with being woken up early. </p> <p>DD wakes at 8.30am every morning, unless she is woken earlier by DH's alarm, hairdryer or front door slamming antics. If she is woken too early, she is so miserable. It's just not fair that she has to be woken up before she's ready just because we have to go to stupid work. </p> <p>4) She will be ill all the time. </p> <p>I hate it when DD is ill - poor little thing. </p> <p>5) She will wake me up 10 times a night (especially if she's ill) and then I will die on the motorway while trying to commute. :sad: </p> <p>Please, please tell me it's going to be okay. Tell me some great stories, please! It's hanging over my head like a huge cloud. </p>