https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 12:16:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding/page/2#post-551552 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:32:11 +0000 Anagram 551552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mommy friends already warned me about "sprays" during the Big O, so I thought that was normal for everyone and I'm not nervous about it happening. My husband isn't the type to care, either.</p> <p>The only reason I would keep the girls "off limits" is if they are really sore (which has happened at times during pregnancy). Then, I'm not into them being touched, because it hurts.</p> <p>For the "off limits" moms: Is it more because your boobs are hurting and sore, or because spraying during sex makes you feel gross?</p> <p>Also, is there a correlation between couples who don't have sex during AF and those who keep the girls off limits because of sprays? Meaning....those of you that don't have sex during AF, do you also keep the girls off-limits, and those of you that used to get down during AF, do you care less?</p> <p>So many questions, I know. But this issue is going to be coming up in the near future for me, so I'm curious! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding/page/2#post-551538 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:15:21 +0000 maybebaby 551538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumn865: This is really beautiful. I already feel so much closer to him during the pregnancy, I can't imagine what it will be like when our baby is here.<br /> @Arden: WOW, these are gorgeous!<br /> @sarac: yep! He is 100% supportive of breastfeeding and is not fazed by the idea of any "mishaps" when it comes to sex and the boobs. I think I am more nervous about it. He jokes that just once in his life, he would love for me to offer him milk with his coffee and just squeeze some right in there...haha! I can't tell what percentage he is joking about that...<br /> @Amelieisme: I think that is how I may feel...already with baby starting to move around a lot more and my belly getting bigger, I am having a bit of a mental block about my body being the baby's in general. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-551533 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:07:49 +0000 travelgirl1 551533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell him to stay off them but he doesn't listen, lol. It does make me anxious though as I'm struggling with supply right now and don't want to waste a drop but telling 'honey, just give me a second to shove a milk collector under these' would spoil the moment. We did have an incident with him on top where milk got everywhere, but since then we've been okay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-551484 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 05:19:48 +0000 autumn865 551484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with previous posters who said sex got hotter post baby even while EBF. After we got through the initial discomfort PP we just use some extra lube when I'm drier. I don't wear a nursing bra during. DH generally knows (or can see which side is more full and doesn't suck or touch that one as much. We had one funny incident where he got caught up in the moment and got a taste but we just laughed about it. We have had times where I leaked but DH has never been put off by it. For me there was just something in having a child with him, having him be a part of the blood, sweat.and tears (literally) of childbirth that really brought the intimacy of our relationship to a new level that carries over into the bedroom too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-551435 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 00:39:59 +0000 Arden 551435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@maybebaby: HOT MILK. They make sexy nursing bras, nice ones. <a href="http://www.hotmilklingerie.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hotmilklingerie.com/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-551428 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 00:28:12 +0000 SlightFigureOfSpeech 551428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband likes that they sometimes leak on him. He doesn't really suck on them, but does squeeze my nipples sometimes to get them to spray a little. It doesn't do anything for me, but he likes it. </p> <p>He is very supportive of breastfeeding because it is natural and what is best for the baby. We both tried my milk, out of curiousity, but the only person in this household that drinks it is the baby! It is nicely moisturizing on the skin though, and has antibacterial properties. Leaking breast milk on your partner is not for everyone, but for me/us, it's not a big deal. </p> <p>Our sex life has always been rather vanilla. I don't think a little boob play is a big deal. I was always small chested and not into boob play, so it's nice to finally have something sizeable to play with, and he's enjoying my letting him play with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-551114 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 20:19:47 +0000 Lozza 551114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is incredibly hard to freak out with that kind of stuff, so he never cared. My boobs probably got a little less attention (like the oral kind) than before but it wasn't anything we really consciously thought about. But then I also never really had leakage problems so maybe that would have changed things. I still feel like DH wouldn't have cared. I just asked DH if breastfeeding affected our sex life and he said no but I also think he can't remember back that far :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-551099 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 20:10:29 +0000 sarac 551099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you asked your husband how he feels or expects to feel about it? I've always known that my husband finds pregnancy and Breastfeeding beautiful and sexy, which really helped my confidence about it. If he has weird feelings, you may be able to work them out in advance, or at least work out coping strategies. </p> <p>And do take heart - lots of women have great sex while Breastfeeding, even though difficulty is common too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550652 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 14:31:25 +0000 plantains 550652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Well I am 7.5 month pp and still drier than I used to be before baby but not as dry as I was right after I gave birth. So I would say that it is slowly getting better, but I think it might still be somewhat of an issue until I wean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550632 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 14:18:49 +0000 Amelieisme 550632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, I don't like them being handled as much now that I"m BF'ing. My nipples are sensitive (in a bad way) and mentally its just weird to me now. I will let him handle them, but ask that he not touch or lick my nipples. He doesn't mind the potential milk thing and he loves them because they are a lot bigger, but to me they are a "mom" item right now so it kinda makes them not so sexy in my mind! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550625 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 14:17:10 +0000 mrsjyw 550625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hasn't been an issue for us yet.. just pump or nurse before! Im 11 wks pp tom </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550617 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 14:12:11 +0000 kiddosc 550617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: I get a little paranoid that milk will come out, but I figure that's more his problem and he knows the risks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550555 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 13:40:55 +0000 Bao 550555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wear my regular nursing bra (so sexy I know ;) so that we have no milk leakage mishaps. It doesn't affect DH, there are other areas he can tend to in the mean time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550537 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 13:33:10 +0000 maybebaby 550537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, thanks for all the responses!! It sounds like people have had very different experiences...so like with all things a baby brings, expect the unexpected :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550530 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 13:30:22 +0000 hilsy85 550530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Boobies are pretty much off limits....they were FOR SURE off limits for the first 8-10 wks--it hurt if someone even looked at them the wrong way. Now things are better (15wks) but rough handling is still not appreciated.<br /> @plantains: how long did that last for you?? hoping it goes away soon for me... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550524 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 13:27:58 +0000 HabesBabe 550524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: @MsMini: LUCKY! no sucking for me :( I think I'm too freaked out in case any milk comes out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550496 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 13:12:50 +0000 littlebittyhouse 550496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains yes! this! in the beginning i would have a glass of wine first so i wouldnt be so tensed up about the pain! it was like the first time, every time. thankfully not anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550493 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 13:11:40 +0000 MsMini 550493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't changed how my breasts/nipples get handled at all during sex. My DH was a little intimidated by them the first 1-2 times out, but by about 7 weeks PP (1 week of sexy time) we were back to doing everything we normally do (sucking included). As long my breasts are empty there is no real risk of spraying, and if he has gotten the odd drop he has never said anything about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550465 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 12:58:30 +0000 plantains 550465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't had any milk to the face issues at all. What we have had though is extreme dryness which I wasn't even expecting. I didn't realise how painful it would be even having had a c-section. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550460 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 12:55:38 +0000 sarac 550460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Breastfeeding kicked my libido into high gear for whatever reason, and I have also found post ban sex to be the best of my life. When I'm awake, haha. I've rarely had issues with leaking or letdown during sex, and they're by no means off limits, sucking included. My husband doesn't mind even when it did happen, so we'd just laugh about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550445 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 12:43:42 +0000 Mrs.B 550445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>BFing has really weakened my libido. I very rarely am in the mood but when we do get frisky my breast are a big part of it. So far no accidents but DH understands it could happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550434 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 12:34:56 +0000 kiddosc 550434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't really had any issues and I'm still breastfeeding at 8.5 months. There haven't been any milk to the face incidents and they do still get sucked on, which hasn't been an issue as far as I know. Sometimes they're a little more sensitive, but sometimes that can be a good thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550424 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 12:28:40 +0000 maybebaby 550424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LivsMama: Hahaha literally laughed out loud at my desk at work :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550422 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 12:28:04 +0000 LivsMama 550422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@maybebaby: lol I was thinking "hmmm this might be TMI buuut Im gonna say it." Yeah. I mean, dont have him latch on and suck lol. But playing and gentle stuff is ok. It really wasnt a big deal for us </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550420 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 12:25:27 +0000 maybebaby 550420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LivsMama: Thank you for addressing the sucking situation--haha, this was specifically what I was most curious about but too shy to ask! Sigh, I will miss that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550415 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 12:22:48 +0000 Beebug 550415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Off limits! I'm in a bra and tight fitting tee during sexytime! I don't want anything from them to wreck that time together, so we will do without until weaned! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550408 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 12:18:55 +0000 LivsMama 550408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didnt have any issues. We handled them differently...you know...no sucking on them, but he definitely still handled them a lot (And I BFed until 18 months....) No milk in the face situations. Occasional drops here and there (and one unfortunate incident when I was weaning and SUPER engorged,,,,) but nothing that bothered either of us. Also I didnt wear a bra during</p> <p>And like @littlebittyhouse: our sex life is SO MUCH better now! I cant speak for the lube situation as I had a c-sec (still hurt like a MFer after those 6 weeks though...) but its totally hotter now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550387 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 12:08:30 +0000 T.H.O.U. 550387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They aren't part of it for us, but I don't typically wear a bra anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550366 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 11:59:54 +0000 maybebaby 550366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good to hear that if you feed or pump soon before that can help offset some possible issues!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sex-and-breastfeeding#post-550359 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 11:58:56 +0000 HLK208 550359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I nurse DD at night before she goes to bed and sexy time is usually an hour after that so we have had any incidents either. </p>