https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Jul 2026 12:47:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407705 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 13:52:26 +0000 pinkcupcake 2407705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daughter has always been good about sharing (almost too good ... She has a hard time saying no when someone takes something), so she's been fine with us saying things like, when the baby is here, it'll be so fun to share your toys. She says she's actually looking forward to it because she gets bored playing alone :( There are a few "special" toys that she loves that she has mentioned she would not like to share (like her Anna dolls) and I've told her that's ok, can the baby play with Elsa instead. And she's been good about saying yes. </p> <p>We also recently put away a bunch of her baby toys and talked about how we will bring them out for the new baby to play with, since she's a big girl. i know my daughter loves to be told she's a big girl so maybe you can really play up that?? </p> <p>I also plan on reinforcing that our toys and books are "family" property, for all of us to use. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407704 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 13:49:44 +0000 skipra 2407704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are only 20 months apart so they like to play with a lot of the same things. They each have their special bedtime friends and that's it. The rest they do have to share. We have always had that expectation and they do really well with it. The toys live in the playrooms and not in their rooms, so maybe that helps. Books are just not an issue at all. Most of the time we all read together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407700 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 13:45:43 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2407700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also on the other thread we do a lot of trades. If you want something the baby has, go get baby a different stuffed animal or whatever </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407698 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 13:44:32 +0000 Andrea 2407698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: we do the same </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407695 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 13:43:14 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2407695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We let them have one or two special toys and the rest is family stuff. We correct when they use term "mine". It's mom and dads and if you can't share it will be taken away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407685 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 13:16:20 +0000 Foodnerd81 2407685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: so far our biggest problem is C wants G's things- like her pacifier and blankets (since she's 2.5 weeks old and that's all she has!). Then she says things like "it's MYYYY pacifier!" Yet we talk about how when G gets bigger she will get to share her toys with her little sister and C will teach G how to use them. No idea how it will go but like others said, for now the baby can't use anything anyway. </p> <p>Most of the toys are in the living room since C's bedroom is so small anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407656 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 12:17:39 +0000 Cherrybee 2407656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Yes, you're right. I'm sure I will grow with them and, perhaps, sharing will seem obvious to me by the time LO2 is old enough to want to play! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407649 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 12:12:43 +0000 mrbee 2407649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: We put a lot of stuff in our living room as our youngest got older...</p> <p>But honestly, none of this was an issue for a long time! She wasn't able to get to any of his toys before she could crawl... and by then, we had changed up our toys to emphasize building toys (which kept our son occupied for hours). The biggest issue for us was that she kept destroying the towers he would build! But that only happened after a year or so, so there was plenty of time to adjust the kids!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407644 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 12:05:15 +0000 Cherrybee 2407644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Do you keep the communal toys in a communal place? Currently, all toys have a home in DD's room and we bring them downstairs (stored in Ikea cube storage in the living room) on a rotation. There is very little room for toys in the nursery. I'm just thinking perhaps I should rehome the "communal" books and toys now in preparation? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407639 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 12:00:29 +0000 mrbee 2407639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids are 22 months apart, and my eldest had lost interest in many of "his" toys by the time his sister was interested in them. Once she came along, we started to emphasize communal toys like blocks, Magna-tiles, etc.</p> <p>If a particular toy caused intense attachment and fights, then we would move it out of rotation for a while so it wasn't an issue. We discovered that our son was a lot more willing to share the toys he was not as attached to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407637 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 11:55:24 +0000 regberadaisy 2407637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With stuff like books and animals they do each have their "own" that live in their bedrooms. That's when teaching to share is important. It hasn't been a big deal for us because she naturally wants to play with some of her sister stuff. So that's a good opportunity to teach "sharing". Baby sister will share her anima with you. You have to share yours.</p> <p>Before baby was born I also moved a lot of the baby books out of dd1's bookcase and into the nursery. She caught me on a few and moved them back into her room. 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-sharing-with-a-sibling#post-2407631 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 11:49:12 +0000 Cherrybee 2407631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was an only child so this concept is all new to me! </p> <p>E said something very perceptive today. She said "baby sister cant have my toys". I said she will need to share because its more fun playing together, blah blah. But it got me to thinking..... how does this work? E has a lot of toys but also a LOT of books and they are all "hers". They live in her bedroom. I was just presuming they would share the books and also the toys once #2 is big enough, but is that realistic? </p> <p>I also have a box of baby books I purged from E's collection before Christmas. Is she going to wig out when she sees her books in the baby's room? Do I help her to deal with it, or will it cause too much resentment and suspicion? </p> <p>Ideas and advice welcome! How did it pan out for you? Did you do anything special to ease the transition? </p>