https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 21 Jun 2026 15:44:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-your-3-ish-year-old#post-2570223 Sun, 19 Jun 2016 10:29:30 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2570223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. Our oldest didn't do the Terrible Twos, he was so agreeable and mild. Well, right about when he turned three he flipped his tantrum switch. And, I'm sorry to say, it's lasted pretty much the entire year. (I teach preschool and most kids turn the corner around their 4th birthday.) He'll be 4 in a couple months and it seems like things are starting to simmer down. He's finally using the strategies we taught him!! I got him a worry stone the other day and he went to use it this morning during his "I want more TV" tantrum. He couldn't find it (and thus a fresh tantrum) but he tried so I'm taking it as a win. </p> <p>My husband and I just listened to an episode on temper tantrums from the Stuff You Should Know podcast (howstuffworks.com) and it was very interesting!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-your-3-ish-year-old#post-2570196 Sun, 19 Jun 2016 07:35:15 +0000 matador84 2570196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 is definitely harder than 2 for us! Ds is almost 2.5 and ds is almost 4 and we totally got off the hook with the "terrible twos" with him...and now, she is learning from him--so I totally feel like have twins. </p> <p>We are dealing with a lot of not listening when we ask to do something. Also, a lot of whining, crying, forgetting to use manners and being demanding, and acting like a brat. Nonetheless, I am also encountering much more inquisitiveness--lots of whys/hows, constant chatter, protectiveness of LO, newfound independence (wants to do everything himself), and so I've tried to capitalize on this qualities. "Oh, DD is being a good listener and following all my directions. Good job DD." </p> <p>We've had to be really creative with consequences and punishments. I get tired of telling him certain things all day and just can't adult by the end of the day. I really feel like we are turning a corner soon. For DS when he gets mad about whatever, I either immediately go go time out or let him cry out his little fit in his room. Amazingly, when he's done--he usually comes out and is sorry for whatever I put him in there for! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-your-3-ish-year-old#post-2570106 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 19:24:07 +0000 regberadaisy 2570106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sincerest condolences that you have two 3 yos. At the same time. Mine drove me to drink. 😂 seriously. She's just about 2 months last 4 and we're just sometimes seeing some understanding and being able to reign in her epic tantrums. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-your-3-ish-year-old#post-2570082 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 17:55:56 +0000 MoonMoon 2570082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard and different for us, because we've had fairly smooth sailing until now. But now he starts seemingly every sentence with "no no no"and has a really hard time paying attention and listening to what we say/request. He also has more language and logic so he tries to negotiate everything which is fascinating but exhausting. And the whining, did I mention whining? Omg.</p> <p>It's just really dramatic. More dramatic tantrums, defiance, etc, but also more dramatic playing, cuddles, emotions, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-your-3-ish-year-old#post-2570068 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 16:28:38 +0000 Cherrybee 2570068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>E is 3 in a month and, wow, dont we know it! She constantly wants to do everything by herself, but gets frustrated and furious when she struggles. She's forever telling us off - everything is "you pushed me", "you hurt me", "owwww" - I cant even walk past her without getting accused of some wrongdoing. She is constantly pushing boundaries, ignoring our gentle requests to stop (with a glint on her eye), then melting down when we have to be firm. If you have to take something off her (something she shouldn't have, or something she is mis-using, like when she was spraying water in the house earlier and we had to confiscate her spray), its "you snatched off me" and "you're not sharing!". Its exhausting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-your-3-ish-year-old#post-2570060 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 15:47:57 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 2570060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>J turned 3 in March and holy hell the defiance is tough. He was an extremely sweet 2 year old so I guess I had it coming, but suddenly he is dramatically shouting at me about everything that doesn't go his way and I am constantly exasperated. I do find it seems worse if I am visibly annoyed though. If I can grit my teeth and stay unruffled on the outside (even if I'm seething within!) he seems to take a cue from that and moves on quickly. I really try. I really try not to shout and I reserve time-outs and punishments for really bad stuff (pushing little brother, today's color on the wall with Sharpie episode). This is a rough patch for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-your-3-ish-year-old#post-2570059 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 15:33:31 +0000 AprilFool 2570059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD turned 3 in April and I could of written this post. Good times! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-your-3-ish-year-old#post-2570055 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 14:28:55 +0000 charlotte 2570055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son turned 3 in March &amp; we have seen a huge change ... he's very sweet and polite to teachers and people in public but very "aggressive" and bossy with us. Common phrases are:<br /> "MY job"<br /> "WALK AWAY"<br /> "NOT TALK LOUD"<br /> "I'M to do it"</p> <p>He alternates between whining for help &amp; pushing us away. I can definitely see a struggle for independence and finally get what being a threenager is all about. He is also constantly testing limits, ignoring commands, arguing, melting down when there are consequences. He didn't really have full blown tantrums before this.</p> <p>And then on the flip side, he is also funny, smart, silly, and extremely sweet at times. I bought him his own plant to water and he said "oh mommy! thank you so much, I love it." He says his baby sister is "soooo cuteeeee". Haha. In general, we avoid tantrums when we give him lots of jobs to work on...since he gets to feel in control and like the boss of something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-your-3-ish-year-old#post-2570053 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 14:26:30 +0000 MrsRoo 2570053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, we are so in this stage withy daughter. Turned 3 in April, and is the literal "threenager" right now. Super dramatic, super defiant, very frustrating! I have no idea how long it will last, but wanted you to know that you are not alone!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-your-3-ish-year-old#post-2570027 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 11:16:21 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2570027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>C has always had loud dramatic tantrums....i usuually say something along the lines of " you sound like you are really angry that xyz. Would you like a hug?" He almost always says yes and calms right down. He doesnt get his way in these situations, but i think the validation and the comfort help him settle down. Hugs momma....this stage is so tough!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-your-3-ish-year-old#post-2570017 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 10:17:30 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2570017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tell me what your kiddos behavior, personality, etc., was like around three-years old because holy, insane, epically defiant tantrums, Batman.</p> <p>The twins are a few months past turning three. For the most part, it's been a fun age. They're funnier, into doing more things, capable of doing more for themselves...but the last few weeks, we've started experiencing tantrums like I have never seen before. At two, we had plenty of tantrums, but they were more sobbing, limp noodle tantrums that would end within a few minutes if I just took them to their room and told them they couldn't come out until they were calm.</p> <p>The last few weeks, the tantrums have been super defiant, screaming, angry tantrums that go on FOR.EVER. Is this just three? If so, how long did it last?? </p>