https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 09:15:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talking-care-of-parents-and-babies-at-the-same-time#post-2928329 Thu, 17 Aug 2023 19:59:42 +0000 ChitownRo 2928329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Each family’s circumstances are so different. But my mom was treated as if she had primary progressive MS (autopsy showed a rare autoimmune condition instead), that caused both physical and cognitive decline. I had always thought I’d have her move in. But it was too hard to care for both toddlers and her. Literally I couldn’t leave her alone at home but also couldn’t manage her plus 2-3 kids at the same time in a parking lot. So she ended up being the youngest in an assisted living at 60 yo (sunrise, is a chain). When she died at 62 yo, my kids were 10 mo, 3 y, 5 yo.<br /> I know I did my best in caring for her, but she needed more than we could safely provide at home. My youngest sister did the most day-to-day bc she lived closest and didn’t have kids yet. But it was hard. And I felt so guilty at the time, less so now in hindsight </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talking-care-of-parents-and-babies-at-the-same-time#post-2928291 Mon, 10 Jul 2023 05:40:35 +0000 pachamama 2928291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@azbaby: I wish I had good advice for you. I think that's really great you have a guesthouse for her! Are there local caregiver's groups you can join? I know they mention being kind to yourself and giving yourself breaks and self-care a lot :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talking-care-of-parents-and-babies-at-the-same-time#post-2928290 Sat, 08 Jul 2023 15:49:11 +0000 azbaby 2928290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It looks like my mom will have to come live with my husband and I very soon. Luckily we will have a small guest house for her to stay in but she's fiercely independent. We've known this was eventually going to happen but we thought wee had a couple more years.<br /> For anyone who has managed this how did it all work? We have a toddler and are hoping to have another baby next year. </p>