https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 07:01:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107672 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 12:31:30 +0000 banana 1107672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YESSSS. She's 14 months and her tantrums are epic! Just this morning, I tried changing her diaper and she was screaming like I was torturing her. Then she wanted her milk bottle and I couldn't pour the milk fast enough. Then her milk bottle fell on the ground and she start wailing. And this is all happening at 5:45am. So yes.....tantrums at 12 months sound very very normal to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107664 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 12:29:13 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1107664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A few days shy of 12 months here and he just threw a major tantrum with me trying to get his shoes on. And forget diaper changes. They're hell on earth for us right now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107565 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 11:58:11 +0000 littlek 1107565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I do the same thing. I also encourage B to use his words to tell Mommy why he's upset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107562 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 11:56:10 +0000 MsLipGloss 1107562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: FWIW, I carry my LO all the time (she is almost 13 months). She can walk--when she wants to--but she doesn't always choose to do it (especially on hardwood floors . . . not that I can blame her). I also try to not react to my LO when she throws a fit . . . I just respond calmly and redirect (or if it is activity related, i.e., diaper/clothes change, clipping nails,I calmly explain that I am sorry she is upset but that mama has to do X to take good care of her. She probably doesn't have a clue what I'm saying, but it's the best I've got right now!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107542 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 11:50:23 +0000 cascademom 1107542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Thanks for the love. I definitely think that this is normal. LO is carried very little. When I get him out of the bath or when we're going to the car are the few times we carry him. DH and I are trying to get him express himself and ask what he wants or feels in addition to the ignoring when he melts down. Ugh, just not how I wanted to start my morning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107536 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 11:46:53 +0000 MsLipGloss 1107536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: That's exactly what I was going to say . . . time out for a 12 month old? WTF?</p> <p>@cascademom: My LO is 12 months and has definitely started throwing mini tantrums. Based on the previous responses, I would say your son is exhibiting normal behavior! It sounds to me like he is just trying to express himself and that like everything else, it is a phase.</p> <p>And there are plenty of kids who don't walk until well after 12 months!</p> <p>I am so sorry you have had such a rough morning! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107516 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 11:39:00 +0000 cascademom 1107516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: Yep, she called him "a spoiled brat." I agree that he doesn't understand what a time out is at 13 months. I think ignoring is the best way. She said that he thrives off of the spoken attention of DH and I. That makes sense to me, so ignoring is the way to go or stop behaviors like throwing food during dinner. I thought that we were doing a decent job. Also, my nephews and niece didn't walk full time until 14 months, so him not walking to walk all the time is right around the same time as his cousins. My nephews and niece are equally stubborn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107492 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 11:30:33 +0000 littlek 1107492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: Are you serious? I would be livid the director said that. And FYI, daycare director, at this age, they don't know what "time out" is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107365 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 10:40:50 +0000 cascademom 1107365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: She pointed out that he should be tantrum-ing later at 2 years old, not 1 year. She kind of made it seem like he's not fitting into the mold of other kids. We generally like the daycare, but this morning was so crappy. LO's testing wills which is what he does at home. She basically said that we're letting him run the show. When he pushes his food around at dinner, I stop dinner. The way she said everything this morning makes it sound like I'm not parenting at all in this situtations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107349 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 10:38:02 +0000 sorrycharlie 1107349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: OMG I am so sorry they said that to you. That is so awful. Why do they care when he walks 24/7 anyway? Geesh...I may be making assumptions but I doubt they're a building of "certified child experts who know everything about babies and yours should be doing this too." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107348 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 10:37:52 +0000 cascademom 1107348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: I don't disagree that what she said was inappropriate. She could have phrased it better. I get what she's saying. I just feel like a crap parent. We had a tantrum where he didn't want to walk from the hall to the highchair. We walked away. He eventually came around. He's so stubborn. I think we just need to be more hardcore about them. Ugh, great morning here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107338 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 10:34:14 +0000 HabesBabe 1107338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: WTF, the daycare person called your kid a spoiled brat? That's completely unprofessional and uncalled for!</p> <p>LO is 14 months and has mini-tantrums... she lies on the ground and kicks her feet/waves her arms around. Luckily, they don't seem to last long and we just ignore her (they haven't happened outside the house yet!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-1107290 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 10:17:33 +0000 cascademom 1107290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad that I found this thread. I went to the daycare this morning and got lectured about this. We've known that LO is stubborn, smart, and knows what's going on. His daycare owner called him a "spoiled brat." I feel like the worst parent right now since he's tantrum-ing and not walking full time. He knows how to walk, walks well, but doesn't want to walk.</p> <p>I was told to ignore the tantrums, stop carrying him, and do timeouts. So, I have more mornings of tantrums which will probably wake up DH. Ugh, I feel like the worst parent today. I don't want my dude to be a "spoiled brat." He's just over 13 months old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-980986 Thu, 01 Aug 2013 11:24:07 +0000 LulaBee 980986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daugther turned one today!! And earlier in the week started throwing tantrums like you wouldn't believe. I'm glad other parents have experienced this. I want to just ignore her (after making sure all is okay) because she doesn't understand discipline, but my husband wants to discipline her (although he can't say how, just that we need to nip it in the bud). I think it's just her age... I will let him know that this is more common than not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-835996 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 12:40:18 +0000 lavender 835996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes at 14 mths my daughter knows how I shake her head no, cross her arms and stamp her feet...seriously. No advice...just commiserating </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-835856 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 12:08:39 +0000 littlek 835856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is definitely more stubborn. For example: If I won't let him bang a toy on the window, cabinet, dog, etc he will arch his back and flail. He usually chills out a minute later, so I just kinda ignore it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-835798 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 11:53:06 +0000 kiddosc 835798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my gosh... I was just googling this. It's like he turned one and someone flipped some sort of demonic switch. I thought it was teething at first, because he screams like he must surely be in immense pain. But if you distract him he is instantly happy and so obviously not hurt in any way. BTW, google is full of other mom's who've experienced the same thing. </p> <p>We're trying to ignore that he's tantrumming and talk him through it, with varying levels of success. Distraction is always good now too. DH makes paper airplanes and pretty much plays fetch with E. It's hilarious, but it works and it's his new favorite games. Taking him outside and walking around letting him touch leaves and whatnot is also pretty effective. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-835759 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 11:42:33 +0000 skibobrown 835759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! The sad part is, it's too early for real discipline, so it's not entirely clear what to do for these pre-toddler tantrums. </p> <p>Some strategies I use...<br /> - Say no firmly. If they learn that they're *never* allowed to do something, maybe they'll get used to it and stop throwing fits about it eventually?<br /> - Ignore it.<br /> - Distract, distract, distract.<br /> - Make sure they get enough sleep. When they're not tired they're less likely to tantrum.<br /> - Vary their scenery. I've found that DD is much less likely to throw a tantrum if we mix up her toys, go outside, and do a variety of activities throughout the day. When she feels bored, then she throws tantrums. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-835689 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 11:31:08 +0000 luckypenny 835689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup! That's when they started for us too. I just wait for her to finish and talk to her calmly. I don't really discipline them, I just watch her so she knows she's not ignored but also learns it won't get her anything. She is just trying to communicate and express her frustration. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-835624 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 11:12:46 +0000 doodlepoodle 835624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. I can't offer advice, just able to relate....:( Jake is 1 on Saturday and does that way too often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-835359 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 10:11:52 +0000 Weagle 835359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. I think it's just due to them not being able to coordinate their mental and physical growth. We talk calmly to her, make sure she isn't hurting herself, and just ignore it for the most part. We don't discipline for tantrums right now, because I don't think she really understands what is going on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-835067 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 08:46:20 +0000 BananaPancakes 835067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, my LO started at 12 months exactly. Luckily, at the moment they are super quick (like 30 seconds) and he's easily distracted. It happens when he doesn't get his way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-835026 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 08:39:56 +0000 Springtime 835026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man my son threw the biggest tantrum last night, he is 13.5 months. He screamed and cried and threw things, and I could not calm him down. He always does this when he doesn't get things that he wants. I hope it gets better soon, I feel for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-835015 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 08:37:22 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 835015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's about the age mine started throwing tantrums. She would collapse on the floor like the world had ended for Every. Little. Thing. I don't have a lot of advice except to know that most of the time it's because they can't communicate what they need or want and crying is their outlet. We just make sure to talk to her and explain things - she may not be able to talk, but she definitely understands what we're saying. It takes a while, but it gets better... but it definitely doesn't go away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-834976 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 08:29:45 +0000 Kiki 834976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no advice but my daughter started them around the same age. She full on does foot stomping tantrums at 13 months and started them just before she turned 1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-at-12m#post-834880 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 08:00:13 +0000 babynumber1 834880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our sweet little girl has turned into a major tantrum thrower overnight! She just turned 1 year last week. Out of no where she is just starting to rage on us. </p> <p>Ex.<br /> Her cup is empty, she will throw it and start screaming.<br /> We are eating dinner, she is screaming, even though she just ate.<br /> The dog is laying on her pillow. Cue major tantrum. </p> <p>I really thought it was too early for this! Any ideas on how to help? I started taking her in her room and sitting her in her rocking chair to calm down. </p> <p>Any other suggestions? Anyone else see tantrums this early? </p>