https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 01 Jun 2026 17:58:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-how-do-you-respond#post-466310 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 11:31:25 +0000 brownie 466310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It really depends. If I know it is because he is hungry, tired or has another need. I work to meet that need (which may include CIO for naps). If he is having a hard time getting a desire met because of limited language skills, I try to work on that, but I tell him I can't understand him. When he is ready to tell me I will help him. If he just wants negative attention, I ignore him. There was an interesting article about kids just crying and how you should be close but not necessarily interfering. So I may try moving in that direction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-how-do-you-respond#post-466209 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 10:52:25 +0000 mrs. wagon 466209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here's a post I wrote about dealing with tantrums!!</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/04/02/from-devil-to-angel-tinas-no/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/04/02/from-devil-to-angel-tinas-no/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-how-do-you-respond#post-466199 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 10:44:11 +0000 theknest 466199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like we'll have to do some trial and error. I've been mostly going with the comfort route - but I think I am only making it worse. I keep thinking he's still my little baby and when he's upset I need to comfort him.....but he is a toddler indeed. :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-how-do-you-respond#post-466196 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 10:41:52 +0000 mrstilly 466196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 21 months old. DH does more to try to comfort/soothe DS when he's tantruming. I tend to ignore him, since he usually refuses every effort to calm/soothe him. He definitely knows that he gets attention when he is tantruming, and usually calms down sooner when we ignore him. Once he's calmer, I pick him up, give him his sippy cup, blanket, etc... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-how-do-you-respond#post-466126 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:44:44 +0000 pelikila 466126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We play each one by ear. If we try to comfort or offer something that usually calms our son down and he shakes his head no or just gets worse/louder, we walk away. If we walk away for a few minutes we first tell him calmly that if he doesn't want XYZ (the toy, a hug, whatever was offered), then he is welcome to come to us when he is calm. We will try again in 5-10 minutes depending on if he continues to escalate or starts to calm but doesn't fully get out of it. By then usually he is more amenable to whatever we offered and will calm down. Sometimes it is not a tantrum per se (though it seems like one) but is him telling us he hurts but can't communicate it. Popsicles have calmed him down when absolutely nothing else would, likely because of teething pain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-how-do-you-respond#post-466121 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 09:41:29 +0000 theknest 466121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DS is 15 months and has started throwing tantrums this week - I'm blaming the holidays - off of his schedule. How do you as parents respond to these tantrums? I've read conflicting opinions - leave them alone, hold and comfort them, or ?</p> <p>Last night we had one that lasted way too long! </p>