https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 01 Jun 2026 09:43:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1946277 Sun, 16 Nov 2014 03:56:44 +0000 jaguar 1946277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NurseDMB: Yes! She hates the stroller for long periods.... and she loves to walk, but gets tired easily. She also refuses to get back in the pram again, if I let her out - so I have to time our outings pretty well now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1946221 Sat, 15 Nov 2014 22:27:11 +0000 erinpye 1946221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>18 months to pretty much now, 2.5 years, have been exceedingly and increasingly difficult for us. Suddenly, it's getting a liiiitle better, but we have to be very consistent with rules, consequences, rewards, discipline, etc. A lot of people say 3 is worse, and a lot of my friends say their kids got so much better by 3, so I think it just varies. One thing I've learned really helps, is to really praise good behavior, warn before a consequence (we use 2 minute time outs, or if we're out, we go home), and follow through with the consequence you warned, if the behavior is repeated. Basically, say what you mean, and mean what you say. Once we started doing that consistently- HUGE difference. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1946117 Sat, 15 Nov 2014 19:33:49 +0000 NurseDMB 1946117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice here, just sympathy. My DS is 15.5 months but has been doing this for months now. He is very strong willed and stubborn so it's pretty much impossible to redirect him sometimes. Especially in public because he just wants to run around. I made the mistake of letting him out of the stroller at the mall last week and it was a nightmare. He also does the back arching thing and now he's taken up the lovely habit of pounding his head on the floor when I won't let him do something. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1945638 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 20:27:06 +0000 Smurfette 1945638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Going through this as well. 20 months so much fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1945472 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 17:20:41 +0000 jaguar 1945472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you SO much guys. I'm so glad it's not just us!</p> <p>I need to pick one strategy and deal with it - I know it's me, I just get so flustered when they're public ones. I'm also jabbing for an IVF cycle too, so I know I'm more hormonal than normal.... so while I know it's her frustration acting out, I need to focus on ME.</p> <p>I can't wait until she is able to express a bit more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944545 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 10:11:20 +0000 loveisstrange 1944545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>18-24 months was honestly WAY worse than 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944510 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 09:52:06 +0000 Mama Bird 1944510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally normal! We had this going on around 19 months too. On top of that, I hadn't been well and I think B was picking up on it and getting upset. It slowly got better and in a few months, the tantrums were much easier to defuse. I hope this is a short phase for you... hang in there :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944441 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 09:20:40 +0000 lilyann 1944441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>18-24 months was rough, but after that, it got so much better for us :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944437 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 09:18:38 +0000 autumnlove 1944437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, sounds normal. My almost 19 month year old is pretty feisty these days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944286 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 07:53:34 +0000 swurlygurl 1944286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely normal!! L is getting sooo much better at 22 months. DH and I actually talked about it last night, how we were shocked that she's been so chill lately! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944251 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 07:29:58 +0000 HappyBaker 1944251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>18-22ish months was definitely the worst time for us so far- my DD sounds very similar to yours, very stubborn / just would get sooo worked up over things and become a demon child. </p> <p>I just wanted to let you know, for us at least it has gotten SO much better now that she can talk / tell us what she wants. She also now understands timeouts so if she is throwing a fit we can discipline her, whereas when she was younger she just didn't understand what was going on. She's 26 months now and it is like night and day and we actually enjoy her again :happy: Hang in there, toddlers are just crazy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944249 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 07:25:24 +0000 travellingbee 1944249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: same here. He learned to say help so that improved things a LITTLE but I'm sure it'll get worse again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944234 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 07:12:56 +0000 blackbird 1944234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're there too :) it was worse a month ago, we seem to be in a better phase right now, and then I'm expecting it to get bad again soon </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944233 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 07:11:25 +0000 hilsy85 1944233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So normal! That stage when they have VERY strong desires but their communication skills are still not extensive is really tough. I would try maybe singing songs to help her through transitions--that has helped a lot for us (if she watches Daniel Tiger, they have songs about everything!). I just tried really hard not to respond to tantrums--I would tell him I was here when he calmed down and I would sit somewhere else in the room. They really decreased as his language exploded. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944184 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 03:28:50 +0000 gracecat 1944184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I highly recommend reading a book on how to deal with toddler tantrums. Though there's little time you can get some great tips even from blog posts on the web. I started just counting to ten and repeatedly reminding her that at 10 we are going home or whatever it is and after a while it made transitions sooooo much easier. Just one or two tools like this that work for your kid can make life much easier tho it doesn't always work 100%. Also I found that her tantrums were worse at that age and have lessened only a few months later now she can communicate slightly better. Of course it's not permanent and every baby is different but don't lose hope! Also with DD I find the word "no" is a trigger and it's better for her if I tell her what we need to do next instead of telling her no she can't do that anymore. "No" puts her in stand off mode/battle ready, so I try to avoid it unless its absolutely necessary like she is about to do something unsafe. Hope u find some relief soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944182 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 03:20:49 +0000 Kemma 1944182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jaguar: I'm not sure if this helps or not but I'm trying really hard to deal with A's tantrums by not turning them into a battle and reminding myself that she's just having a hard time "managing" herself. I also have much more success when I'm gentle with her rather than letting myself get angry and frustrated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944177 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 03:10:03 +0000 jaguar 1944177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha, it sounds a bit dramatic when I put it like that @shopaholic but omgosh, my head is going to explode. She can be so happy and chilled out, and then goes all demon-child on me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944174 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 03:03:48 +0000 shopaholic 1944174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I NEED for this to just be "a phase." :sad: K just turned 20 months and the increase of tantrums, stubbornness, and frustration has just increased every month since 16 months. I had to laugh in pain and commiseration at your comment "world of pain." 1/2 the parents I talk to tell me it improves drastically once they're close to 2 and can communicate more. Then the other half [maybe truthfully?] tell me that didn't happen for them till 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944172 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 02:55:45 +0000 AprilFool 1944172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is the same age and we have the same issues! Some days I am just hanging in there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tantrums-in-19-month-old#post-1944171 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 02:48:46 +0000 jaguar 1944171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, so I've heard all about the terrible two's.... but can anyone please help me out with this whole new world of pain, that is 18+ months?</p> <p>Georgia is a gorgeous kid, such a sweet girl - but SO stubborn. She's into everything now (a nice change, since she was a late walker) but that means MAJOR tantrums if we take her away or try to distract her from what she wants to do. We're trying to gently reinforce words like 'no' (and alternatives) and she just screams, throws herself to the floor, proper helicopter breakdancing moves. Sometimes she gets herself super worked up.</p> <p>She's only speaking certain words, certainly not able to communicate in huge sentences or anything - though she does understand us for some things, I'm sure of it. Is this just part of an in-between age for her? I feel like a shocking parent some days. </p>