https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 21:53:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1161038 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 17:08:42 +0000 Lindsay05 1161038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This reminds me of the movie "I love you, man"! However, I do not know how to ask a friend out without it being awkward. I don't even know how to start a conversation without saying something ridiculously stupid and lame! Good luck :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160995 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 16:31:31 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1160995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: wow, your situation is exactly like mine! Except this girl has a child and she is 4 months younger than LO so they will be in the same school district and grade.<br /> I will let you know how it goes :)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160989 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 16:28:52 +0000 swedishfish 1160989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: too bad. Maybe the chicken dance instead? :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160988 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 16:27:56 +0000 artsyfartsy 1160988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a hard time making friends. DH's best friend's wife has become very close with me, but we only hang out when we go out as a foursome. I don't even have her number. They are like a brother and sister to us. They just started trying for a baby and are hoping they get pregnant the first couple of cycles so our LOs can be in the same school year together. I feel like I should take the next step and invite her out for a 1 on 1 thing...but I'm so awkward without DH as a buffer.</p> <p>Please invite her out and inspire me to do the same! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160986 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 16:24:55 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1160986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: me doing the dougie will NOT, I REPEAT WILL NOT give her any desire to be friends with me. All her interest will be gone and I will be at square one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160985 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 16:24:09 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1160985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow...I am SUPER lucky to have you guys and all your encouraging words and commiseration and understanding. Thank you thank you thank you like words can't even express. :heart:<br /> I am NOT what anyone would describe as shy. However, it is fun and easy to make friends when you work, or when you belong to a group (college, sports...) or when you are just young, in general. But being a SAHM, I really don't get out much to be honest, and when I do: it is to run errands.</p> <p>Anyways----I will ask her on a mom date ;) I know she is bored too (working husband, she's sahm, 1 child..)<br /> I think I will wait until I have a reason to go shopping (maybe to get LO some winter clothing) and just be like, "hey let's go winter clothing shopping for the kids. I'll take you to a nice lunch place afterwards". I think she will ABSOLUTELY want to go and say yes. Issue is, I hope we click. I guess we will just wait and see.</p> <p>@photojane: um, that's me. I have met women at BRU or the ped's office...and as soon as they walk away i'm thinking, "come back! you and me just *totally* clicked!" Maybe I should chase them down and get their numbers, hahaha. </p> <p>@cyndistar3: @swedishfish: You're like me. :( the funny thing is, she doesn't have mom friends either. When I did go out with her and her friends last Friday, her and I were the only ones worrying about our kids the whole time and who had to leave early to catch bedtime (shes still BFing too!). So, hopefully her desperation + mine will make us good friends, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160978 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 16:19:00 +0000 swedishfish 1160978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: is it sad that every time I see this thread pop up I start singing teach me how to dougie in my head? Maybe it's a sign that you should invite her to a dance party! Haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160921 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 15:23:50 +0000 .twist. 1160921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bookish: I'm pretty sure a bee community has been mentioned before! Beeville anyone? Lol, who's gonna start it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160575 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 11:14:44 +0000 littlek 1160575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll be your friend!!! :). I think inviting her shopping is a good idea. Or maybe dinner so your husband can be your buffer? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160563 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 11:07:40 +0000 Cole 1160563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally suck at making friends too but I think you have an easy in here. One thing that might make the shopping angle easier is to have a goal. I had to get silly favors for a party and it was so much fun to go with a friend and it gave us something to talk about. Plus, I didn't feel funny calling and asking her to wander aimlessly around the mall with like we were 15 again :happy: .</p> <p>You should try reading MWF seeks BFF if you haven't. It was a cute look at how one girl tried to find more friends and you can steal some of her ideas. It made it more obvious to me how many people are looking for new friends which makes it feel less awkward trying to meet people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160465 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 09:46:22 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1160465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do it! Shopping will be easy. You will have lot of the random things to talk about like whether that shirt looks good or whatever. Think about some stuff that you'd like to know about her before you go. come up with some topics beforehand. people generally like to talk about themselves so if you ask her questions about herself and let her talk and then open up about yourself in return, it should be fine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160396 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 08:43:47 +0000 Bookish 1160396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Making adult friends is so hard! All my college friends are still partying hard (got a text at midnight from a friend dressed as a pirate in a bar...), and the moms on my street are so mean girls it's ridiculous. I mostly just email Bees, to be honest! I do have a local bee who is lovely and I need to hang out with her more!</p> <p>Can we all just move to the same city and hang out? ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160362 Sat, 19 Oct 2013 07:55:04 +0000 Cherrybee 1160362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just send her a text asking if she is free on X day for coffee, lunch, going shopping, a "play date", whatever. Then go! Simples! </p> <p>Just remember, she is a new mum so she will be hoping for someone to spend time with who understands what she is going through. She has previously made the effort to show she likes you, so you know she would love to be your friend. Just think of it as you offering her the hand of friendship - what a lovely, generous gesture - as opposed to the other way around, you trying to make a friend. You've got a lot to offer a friend and here you are offering it all to her - lucky her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160177 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 23:27:27 +0000 Kimberlybee 1160177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: I would start with inviting her for coffee or brunch (to beat the lunch crowd and provide you with more quiet time) and thank her for being so kind to you and your LO. She sounds very nice and social so you might find that you really don't have to initiate most of the conversation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160100 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 22:07:31 +0000 doodlepoodle 1160100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: h hahaha! This is me around new people! Thank goodness my core group of girlfriends were all drunk in college when we were getting close ;-) knowing me I'd intend to offer to watch her LO so she could take a relaxing shower (new mom heaven!) and say "so do you wanna shower?" And accidentally make it sound like an invitation.</p> <p>@TurtleDoves: mom dating is HARD. you know we just moved to a new town and we know one family but I'm having the same issue. I hate to bombard our old friends with hanging out constantly bc we don't know other people. Like other PPs said, ask her over for a meal, go shopping, offer to take her a meal. If all else fails, come back to kansas. :)</p> <p>You have a very easy to get along with personality. She'll love you more than she already does. Now stop being stingy and start putting out the vibe:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160080 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 21:58:55 +0000 Running Elley 1160080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: I'd totally invite her shopping!!! She will loooove you! It sounds like she's already trying! :) You could always move here if all else fails.... :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1160026 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 21:22:22 +0000 sandy 1160026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: I had to make all new mom friends when I stopped working to become a SAHM...and I will say most girls want so much to have a community of mom friends and are willing/open to work on developing a friendship. </p> <p>I met a lot of mom friends at play gym, parent-tot swim, library storytime, and the children's museum. If I hit it off with a mom I would exchange numbers with her and either invite her along for another activity the following week (like splash park or a picnic at a playground) and soon enough we would be getting together several times a week. </p> <p>If you think she's the type of new mom that wants/needs some child-free time then definitely ask her along for a shopping trip. I she's a relatively new first time mom (baby is less than 6 months old) I might offer having her over for a playdate and saying you want to order lunch or want an excuse to make a yummy brunch dish. Or offer to drop off a meal and visit with her if she's more the type to want to stay and let her baby nap. I would just feel her out and don't be afraid to put yourself out there. I know for me it was so nice having friends check in with a text every week or so just to see how things are going. Let her know you're so excited for her and her new baby and just show you care and she will be able to see you're making an effort and I'm sure she will reciprocate. It sounds like she's already trying to be your friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159977 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 20:53:44 +0000 Andrea 1159977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should just go for it! She'll love you! Go shopping! ;-)</p> <p>I don't mind initiating if I want to be friends with someone. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out...no biggie. Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159945 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 20:37:54 +0000 fancyfunction 1159945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm fairly bad at it myself but have been getting out of my comfort zone some more lately and have been meeting some new people. A couple of other moms and I got together after a library class and now we get together every week. So it's not so bad once that initial hurdle is crossed. Go shopping together, like others said you can chat as you shop, stop for coffee or a quick bite and take it from there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159943 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 20:37:03 +0000 Smurfette 1159943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think shopping is a great first "date". If you do lunch/coffee you feel like you have to talk the whole time. Shopping you can both go to different parts of a store and then met back and show what you found. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159941 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 20:36:28 +0000 Raindrop 1159941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Making friends is sooo hard!! :) I go back and forth thinking I have no friends to thinking I have a good amount of friends all the time.</p> <p>I think you should just go for it and have lunch or shopping or a chick flick (?)with her one on one. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159937 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 20:33:56 +0000 mrs. bird 1159937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>go for it! just ask her to do something like go shopping, or maybe go for a pedicure together, if it goes well you could grab lunch after. she will either jump on board, or she'll politely decline by making up some excuse, if she makes up an excuse a couple times, then stop asking and see if she asks. it doesn't have to be awkward! i think her behavior shows she interested in a friendship, you have no reason to think she wouldn't want to hang out. you're fabulous, show her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159911 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 20:25:22 +0000 mrbee 1159911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To keep things safe, you could maybe mirror similar things to what she does... sit next to her at events, bring gifts for her LO, stuff like that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159870 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 20:01:43 +0000 Katrocap 1159870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@turtledoves: Go for it! Since she's always made an effort to show she really likes you, I bet she'll be excited you initiated the outing.</p> <p>@photojane: That's so cool! I've swapped numbers with moms at library storytimes. But they've never contacted me. Of course I've never contacted them ...</p> <p>I'm really bad at making friends, too. I'm always nervous about what we'll talk about and if they'll like me, just like middle school! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159863 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 19:56:52 +0000 petunia354 1159863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am going through the same thing with a wife of one of DH's friends!! Our husbands both try to get us to go out but we are both so shy. And we always make fake plans when we are together but neither of us follow through with a phone call or anything. I wish I knew the secret so I could pass it along. I will say that I'm glad I'm not alone...I always thought I was some sort of social misfit for not being able to make friends so easily and being so shy.</p> <p>I'd say just invite her out! Like pp have said, there are lots of distractions and things you could talk about at the mall. And if you bring your kids that is an automatic conversation starter! Hugs! Good luck! :heart: I'd totally be your friend if we lived in the same area. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159860 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 19:54:32 +0000 Amelieisme 1159860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: I have the same issues! I would love some friends and have old friends but none in town where I live (and have for 5 years so no "new in town" excuse). I would just ask her to go shopping... sounds like she's gone out of her way to show she interested in friendship with you. I'm totally awkward too and would have the same worries. Just letting you know you're not alone. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159849 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 19:46:17 +0000 photojane 1159849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, I talked to a chick at Target for 2 minutes yesterday. 10 minutes later she found me and asked for my number. She said she had no mommy friends, and was looking for some. </p> <p>So, there's always that approach.</p> <p>I think shopping is a good activity for awkward first friend dates. Lunch or dinner has so much pressure - you have to come up with conversation topics &amp; make all kinds of eye contact. I think having the babes there will be a great way to break the ice.</p> <p>If that fails, come to VA. I'll be your friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159848 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 19:45:39 +0000 mrsjazz 1159848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: invite her out, no buffer! </p> <p>I don't have a hard time making friends because I am ok with a few awkward moments if it means I get to know a cool new person. Put yourself out there, girlfriend. You're awesome and she obviously likes you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159844 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 19:43:39 +0000 .twist. 1159844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: I'm an introvert by nature but I try to be outgoing in social situations. However, I find myself feeling shy and saying really awkward things. I think I try to over compensate for my shyness. Usually gets me a lot of (what I feel are) awkward looks/laughs. Haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teach-me-how-to-make-friends#post-1159839 Fri, 18 Oct 2013 19:40:37 +0000 HLK208 1159839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: whaaat? You seem so outgoing on here though! I would have never guessed. </p>