https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 31 May 2026 04:52:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-introverts#post-2292609 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 14:01:02 +0000 Raindrop 2292609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: Thank you for sharing your story. You and your parents sound amazing! :)</p> <p>I'm super terrible at public speaking but for some reason I'm okay talking in a fairly large group setting but I mask it by thinking I'm only really talking to like 3 people in that group. People are really surprised I'm an introvert.</p> <p>Seeing my parents struggle all the time - I made it my mission to find a fairly good job so that I wouldn't have to struggle as much as them and also help them. So I think those thoughts drove my social introvert-ness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-introverts#post-2292594 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 13:48:35 +0000 gingerbebe 2292594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: My parents were the same - immigrants working nonstop. But they saw pretty early on that I only liked having like 1-2 friends at a time, that I really loved coming home from school and reading books, or riding bikes alone through the park, and they were afraid I was going to be too introverted for my own good. I think the one thing they really talked a lot about was that sometimes we have to do uncomfortable things to make our life better. </p> <p>So they made me do a few activities that would occupy me while they worked, but that had a good introvert/extrovert balance, like orchestra/band, which was an individual task done in a group setting. Dance team and cheer was like that too - you need individual skill, but you have to do it in a group setting to "succeed." Church was also a non-negotiable, so we were always in group settings and doing group activities for that, but again, it was a good balance because they were familiar faces I saw every week so it wasn't as overwhelming. Occasionally, my folks would also force me to do a really uncomfortable task, like a public speaking contest or Bible quiz once or twice a year, just because I needed to learn. Over time, it helped me make my own decisions about activities too. Foreign language was one. Its something you have to work hard towards yourself, but you really don't get fluent until you start conversing frequently with other people and you don't get to learn that culture until you really try to branch out and explore a country or community that speaks that language. So after 6, 7 years of learning French, studying abroad was something I independently decided to do to better myself, even though I knew I would find it really hard. And it was! Super mentally and emotionally draining. But I never once regretted doing it.</p> <p>I really credit my parent's approach to helping me be a social introvert. When I tell people I'm an introvert, they are really surprised because I can speak well in public and socialize in big group settings, etc. But I find it really exhausting and need a lot of decompression time. I want to make sure I'm cognizant of that in my son and be able to be a good advocate for him in a school setting so that he's not pushed aside or mowed over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-introverts#post-2292556 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 13:29:35 +0000 Raindrop 2292556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: You are right. I agree it seems like the world is becoming more geared towards extroverts than it was when we were younger. Though there were a ton of group activities still and I was question quite a bit for not having more friends. </p> <p>I want to say that there was a mrs. high heel post about raising an introvert in an extrovert world which really touched me.</p> <p>I get the feeling one of my sons is an introvert and one is an extrovert. I do want to help them the best of I can.</p> <p>For me, my parents were just very busy people trying to make ends meet so they didn't really prepare me for anything. I still did some what okay but I ponder sometimes if I would have turned out better if my parents had the resources to prepare me better. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-introverts#post-2292542 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 13:20:55 +0000 gingerbebe 2292542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: I did well in school too, but observing schools and workplaces today, they seem to push extroversion way more than we were kids, which is why DH and I started talking about it. I want to honor my son's inclinations but I also want to teach him to "turn it on" when necessary for his benefit - which is what my parents did for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-introverts#post-2292532 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 13:13:01 +0000 Raindrop 2292532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks that was a good read. As a person that is an introvert that did really well in school I still related to a ton of what was said in this article. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-introverts#post-2292500 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 12:54:32 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2292500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting! Thanks! I'm pretty sensitive to this based on my own experience and also wanting the best for my LOs- one more extroverted and one more introverted. I can already see that they will thrive in different environments and want to explore how best to accommodate that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-introverts#post-2292488 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 12:40:10 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2292488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Cool! We often talk about how technology can bring out introverts into online collaborative spaces. Kids that wouldn't always want to raise their hand to answer a question in class might be willing to respond to a question in an online group. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-introverts#post-2292478 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 12:31:50 +0000 gingerbebe 2292478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a social introvert and a mama to a 1 year old who is clearly showing introvert tendencies, there has been a LOT of conversation between my husband and I lately about how to best engage our son in the future and I'm really glad articles, books, and research like this is making the rounds.</p> <p><a href="http://ideas.ted.com/how-to-teach-a-young-introvert/" rel="nofollow">http://ideas.ted.com/how-to-teach-a-young-introvert/</a> </p>