https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 11:13:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904845 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 14:20:00 +0000 MrsSRS 2904845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: "I expect you to be kind and to use words that help the people around you feel safe. If you can't do that I will give you space to be alone" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904802 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 09:43:15 +0000 josina 2904802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Telling DS that we no longer use the word "hate" last night, worked great! I told him he can say "I don't like it", but not hate, he went on to say it like 3 or 4 times right after that, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904778 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 02:50:40 +0000 graceandjoy 2904778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@caitcat: same here lol DT was great then she got annoyed when I start quoting him too much lol. </p> <p>Totally a grumpy troll over here with everything too haha. And she is a little perfectionist too. I def try to teach her we can fix mistakes, or work with something imperfect, etc. Sometimes I simply just acknowledge it’s frustrating that’s happening... She usually gets over it, plus I think it’s pretty normal development for their age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904722 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 16:54:55 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2904722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: hahaha yes! He calls things “junk”.. like yes the chair is totally junk because you wiggled out of it onto the floor. 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904720 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 16:50:45 +0000 josina 2904720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: DS totally does stuff like that at supper.. up/down/dancing around and then when the chair falls he's mad at the chair. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904713 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 16:29:23 +0000 Corduroy 2904713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: My DD is learning about 'the power of yet' at school and that seems to be resonating with her in situations where she hasn't figured something out (yet).</p> <p>I'm taking notes from the other posters. Great ideas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904709 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 16:12:00 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2904709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>These are good tips. My son is the same way. Yesterday during dinner he fell because he was dancing on his seat, hurt his leg. So he screamed he hates pizza, through it across the room. Then I sent him to his room to cool off he yelled that he hated me. It’s driving me insane so I’m going to try these tips. He’s very quick to temper and start spewing insults. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904708 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 16:11:21 +0000 caitcat 2904708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My almost five year old loved Daniel Tiger, but then totally turned on it when we started trying to apply more of these "life lessons" to her life! Oops. :)</p> <p>We use many of the strategies already mentioned earlier, and I'd say the biggest one that has helped us is modeling how we handle frustrating situations (or situations that my daughter would think are frustrating). </p> <p>Like this morning, I dropped a box of frozen waffles as I was getting the kids' breakfast ready. This kind of stuff doesn't really bug me, but I've started making more of a point to say something like: "Oh no! I dropped the waffles! Ugh. I'm frustrated. But I'll take a deep breath and pick them up...wow, that wasn't so bad! And now they're all cleaned up. I can get back to breakfast! I feel better." </p> <p>Or last night I needed to reach something in the pantry and had to get a step stool to help. Having to interrupt what she's doing to get help is one of the biggest things that bugs my daughter, so I paused to point it out to her: "Hey, C, look - I can't reach the box of the rice. I wish I could get it myself right now! Hmm. What could I do?" Sometimes it feels ridiculous in the moment, but it's made a big difference over time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904699 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 15:39:34 +0000 LadyDi 2904699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was responding to say Daniel Tiger but it looks like other posters did just that, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904697 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 15:36:47 +0000 josina 2904697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: Thank you! Those Daniel Tiger sayings will help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904691 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 15:23:04 +0000 catgirl 2904691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD will be 5 next week and Daniel Tiger is still a huge part of our lives for these types of things. Some of the ones we use:</p> <p>"When you feel so mad that you want to roar, take a deep breath, and count to 4.... 1...2...3...4"</p> <p>"When you feel frustrated, take a step back and ask for help"</p> <p>"Mad, mad, mad - it helps to say you're mad"</p> <p>We do a lot of talking about how to express our feelings. We talk about things we can say out loud to others and things we can say to ourselves to help. Like the previous post we try to model that - I never hide my frustrations from her. But I try to walk her through how I feel and what I do to deal with. </p> <p>Also we try to remain as calm as possible when responding to these types of things. We always acknowledge her feelings and give strategies for calming down and dealing with it. But we do not allow her to be mean or rude to us (or her friends, teachers, herself, etc.). Also we don't allow certain words to be used and she knows there are consequences for those words (hate and stupid being the big ones) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904686 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 15:05:03 +0000 josina 2904686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSRS: Awesome tips, thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904683 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 14:57:26 +0000 MrsSRS 2904683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Model, model, model. When YOU are frustrated, tell him, and explain how you're coping.<br /> "Grrr. My coffee spilled. I'm so upset I'd like to throw this cup. But I'm going to take a deep breath instead. Can you take a deep breath with me to help mommy deal with her big feelings? "</p> <p>"You feel frustrated and angry. You wanted that page to rip out and it didn't work the way you wanted. It's ok to feel frustrated, but it's not ok to say you hate something. Say 'that made me frustrated.' Would you like a hug or would you like to stomp your feet really hard?"</p> <p>"You feel angry at me. You may feel angry but you may not use unkind words "</p> <p>There are some good Daniel Tiger episodes about this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teaching-los-to-deal-with-frustration#post-2904585 Thu, 05 Dec 2019 10:22:54 +0000 josina 2904585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 5 and gets easily frustrated and then reacts badly...<br /> He couldn't rip a page out of his coloring book without ripping the whole thing, so it's "I hate this stupid coloring book".<br /> His brand-new powerwheels wasn't working right so "I hate this stupid atv!"<br /> If he gets mad at me or DH or his friends, "You're not my friend anymore!".</p> <p>How do you teach your LO's to correctly handle these situations? </p>