https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 08:23:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036806 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 14:19:56 +0000 ShootingStar 1036806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are not team green, probably will never be. I wasn't all that interested in the surprise at the end, as others mentioned it was still a big surprise when we found out at 11 weeks. </p> <p>For one, I really wanted to know. I wanted to picture having a daughter or having a son. I wanted the excitement of buying adorable gendered clothes before the baby came. And designing a gendered nursery. </p> <p>We also had a strong preference, and when I found out I wasn't getting what I hoped for it gave me the time to be happy and excited about it. And to see my husband get so excited in planning for our little boy, which makes me even happier about it. I know we would've been excited and happy for him on his delivery day if we didn't know, but I'm glad I won't have that sharp feeling of sadness at finding out I'm not having a little girl on his birthday. At the time I found out I cried, and then I cried *because* I was crying. I felt like he deserved better. But now I'm happy and prepared and I feel like I'm already starting to get to know the little boy growing inside me. I think I'd feel more disconnected if I still didn't know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036552 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 13:14:17 +0000 Charm54 1036552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are team green for a lot of the reasons people mentioned (ultimate surprise/anticipation, gender neutral stuff, gear more than clothes for gifts, etc). Our family , friends and even people we don't know well are SO excited to find out if it's a boy or girl. It's been a lot of fun guessing and with only 4 weeks to go I can't *wait* to have DH announce if we have a son or daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036541 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 13:11:39 +0000 Ginger333 1036541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've done team gender and I've done team green and I'd never be team gender again. I loved finding out at the birth - it was honestly the best moment ever. The anticipation during labour was great motivation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036489 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 13:00:21 +0000 Ree723 1036489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love being Team Green. I know I wavered for a bit on finding out with this LO, but it was a momentary waver and now I'm back on board. I just love the excitement of not knowing and wondering what it's going to be. I actually think the opposite on bonding - not knowing if it was a boy or a girl meant that DH and I spent so much time dreaming about life with a daughter or son and the anticipation built so much!</p> <p>For me, it was all about the moment our baby was born - watching DH's face light up as his eyes welled with tears whilst saying "it's a GIRL!" was the most magical moment. I could be wrong, but I don't think you get that kind of raw emotion and reaction at a 20 week scan. It's just so powerful to hear the announcement at that life changing moment, rather than in a sterile scan room where you get up shortly thereafter, walk out and go about your normal day.</p> <p>I'm totally biased though - it actually irks me when people announce all the details before their baby is born. I just don't get as excited for them when their baby arrives....sort of like if you've peeked at your Christmas presents, you're not as excited about opening them Christmas morning. Sure it's still great you can finally use the presents, but the magic has been diminished somewhat. Just my view though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036444 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:47:59 +0000 avivoca 1036444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out with this little one, but I think if we have a second we might be team green. My husband would like a boy though, so we'll see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036442 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:47:03 +0000 artsyfartsy 1036442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm registering for all my big ticket items in gender neutral colors even though I'll be finding out what I'm having so we can hopefully reuse things for the next baby. I'm trying to register for some gender neutral basics in clothes and bibs (we will get tons of gender specific clothes later I'm sure) but can't find hardly any!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036441 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:46:40 +0000 tinyperson 1036441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: that's what we say too! It's a surprise at the u/s or a surprise at birth - still a surprise. DH and I are planners, so we didn't even consider team green. Also we can't come up with any boys names we like, so finding out it was a girl took the stress off :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036435 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:44:42 +0000 deerylou 1036435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out, and will likely do the same with subsequent children. I think being surprised at the end would be awesome, but I personally don't have the patience or will power. I enjoyed finding out because I was able to plan, and attached more of an identity to her, while she was still in the womb. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036434 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:44:14 +0000 artsyfartsy 1036434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: omg that's so sweet!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036415 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:38:49 +0000 catomd00 1036415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Team gender! I'm dying to know what my little bean is! I don't know how people can wait! I'm ready to plan and shop and it's been difficult for me to find true gender neutral things that don't look super boy-ish! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036334 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:14:18 +0000 Grace 1036334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think FutureMrsMcKay is bang on. I love the anticipation of Christmas and it's the same excitement waiting to see if LO is a boy or girl. And for a purely practical reason - it stopped me from buying too much stuff. There is only so much gender-neutral clothes out there, so it's saved me money! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036323 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:08:17 +0000 Torchwood 1036323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I always figured you could stock up on boy clothes, and then add a hairbow or skirt if it's a girl. Unfortunately it doesn't work so well the other way, but for you that's fine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036294 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:59:06 +0000 Lindsay05 1036294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>These are all making me smile :) Such great reasons! It is still such a hard decision! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036284 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:56:05 +0000 lilteacherbee 1036284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much exactly what @MrsTiz said. I'm wayyyy too impatient to wait!! Plus, it helped to bond us with baby. And I'm a hugeeee planner, so I can't imagine not knowing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036276 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:53:08 +0000 autumnlove 1036276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out for our first two but we are considering TG for any future LO. I dislike most neutral clothing so I guess I can order boy clothes from my hospital bed...we are set on girl stuff! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036270 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:50:37 +0000 lovehoneybee 1036270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePeony: I sort of feel the same about not being TG with a subsequent LO. I'm still on the fence about it (and about having another LO).</p> <p>@swedishfish: Lol so do I! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036264 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:48:38 +0000 swedishfish 1036264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: every time I read what your DH said to you after your son's birth, I smile :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036257 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:47:08 +0000 PurplePeony 1036257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was an easy choice for us to be team green for a lot of the reasons mentioned here (build-up of anticipation, unscheduled-ness, don't want gendered stuff, and I think it will give me extra incentive during labor!). IMO, being team green for a first baby is perfect, but I would be more inclined to find out with a subsequent baby because I think a young child would relate better to conversations about a new brother or new sister coming...while "the baby" is fine for older kids and adults, it seems like an awfully abstract concept for a toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036248 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:42:48 +0000 lovehoneybee 1036248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: @MrsTiz: I originally convinced DH to be TG, then by the time the AS came along I wanted to know so badly but DH was gung-ho about it (and started using that analogy). </p> <p>By 30 weeks we both REALLY wanted to know, but hearing DH shout out "A boy! Honeybee we have a son!" is in the Top 5 moments of my life. It's the clearest memory I have of that day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036244 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:41:17 +0000 Torchwood 1036244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: That's a great way of putting it! Maybe I can help people understand better if I explain it that way.</p> <p>We're totally Team Green! We weren't for a long time, then I read an article on it, and I thought it sounded fun. DH agreed, and now he's even more set on it than I am. There are a lot of reasons, like not wanting a zillion pink or blue things, hoping people will buy more non-clothing items from the registry, trying to avoid gender disappointment, and hoping it will help me get through the last, hardest bit of labor cause I want to know! But honestly, I think for both of us, the main reason is that it drives our family nuts! We're just contrary like that. ^_^ Plus our names are a little "out there," so we don't want to tell them till they're born. We figure people will be a little less snarky about it once it's on the birth certificate, and hopefully they'll be more willing to not harass us to tell our names if they don't know boy or girl anyway.</p> <p>Also, we've found plenty of nursery ideas we like. Some are truly neutral, others are perfect to have *almost* done and then add some accents once we know. (Or maybe have bought the accents in both colors and return whichever ones.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036230 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:37:57 +0000 JessKas 1036230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green and I loved it! I didn't want a lot of gendered things, and not finding out prevented gendered gifts. I think little white onesies are the cutest! I also wanted the excitement of finding out right after giving birth. It was amazing! I feel like it really added to the excitement and anticipation of the day. I definitely want to be team green again in the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036224 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:34:50 +0000 MrsTiz 1036224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: That makes sense. I'm for sure a "let's open presents early!" type of person. Oddly enough, DH isn't but he was very anti- TG </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036220 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:32:51 +0000 artsyfartsy 1036220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: I so get the appeal of TG. I can only imagine what that feels like to finally know what your baby is after 40 long weeks and labor and delivery!!! </p> <p>I'm just too impatient! We are the "open Christmas presents early" kind of people. Literally. We do it every year. Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036200 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:26:14 +0000 lovehoneybee 1036200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: is right of course, it's a surprise either way, but DH likens it to opening Christmas presents early as opposed to waiting until Christmas morning and all the magic* that entails. You're getting a present either way, but if you wait you get the anticipation of waiting (which I totally get isn't everyone's thing) until that magical morning*...</p> <p>*If you consider bringing a new life into the works magic, which I do because that had to be the only way I could push a baby out of my vag. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036184 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:20:11 +0000 HabesBabe 1036184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Although it's a "surprise" at 20 or 40 weeks, I think it's a bigger/more rewarding surprise at 40w/birth for people who are pro-team green. The anticipation builds, and you are finding out right after you delivered, when emotions are high-- and having your SO or birth support person announce the sex rather than an U/S tech is so much more meaningful for us.</p> <p>We were TG with LO#1 and plan on being TG for any future LOs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036182 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:19:50 +0000 swedishfish 1036182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. mochi: I disagree - my DH wasn't any less bonded to the baby being team green. We knew there a baby in there and that was exciting enough! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036176 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:16:53 +0000 Ash 1036176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love being team green! It's one of life's last surprises. Everything seems so planned these days - knowing the sex, the name, and sometimes even the day the baby will be born. I feel like waiting to find out has made it even more exciting.... but at the same time it's all we know so I'm sure it's just as exciting either way. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036175 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:16:45 +0000 mrs. mochi 1036175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally agree with @MRSTIZ! It's a surprise either now or later. I especially agree that it helps with the bonding process especially for the father. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036173 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:16:40 +0000 heffalump 1036173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out with our first but we're team green this time. I wanted to know so I could plan. I love all things pink and girly and knew that if I had a girl and all gender neutral clothes and nursery I'd be upset. DH wanted to be team green, but he let me have my way. So we had our girl and I have all things pink and girly, and this time I'm letting him have his way. </p> <p>I think my favorite part about finding out the gender was planning. We knew LO's name, we were able to personalize her nursery for her, we got personalized gifts, etc. This time it was hard to come up with a nursery idea because I don't know who the nursery is for. I think one reason I would want to know this time is because it would make things more real for LO if I told her that she was having a brother or sister instead of just we're going to have a baby. But I think she's a little too young to get it either way..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-gender-or-team-green#post-1036170 Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:15:18 +0000 swedishfish 1036170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Being team green was easy once we got past the anatomy scan. It was so amazing to find out at delivery that we had a daughter! I would do it again in a perfect world but I think we will find out for the next baby so we can be prepared if it's a boy. We got a LOT of pink clothes after R was born. </p>