https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 14:52:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925508 Tue, 16 Nov 2021 21:26:59 +0000 LemonJack 2925508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I’m sorry. I totally understand why you’re sad about your little girl not having a sister. ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925492 Mon, 15 Nov 2021 20:18:45 +0000 bees_knees 2925492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs.kiwi: this is exactly how I feel! I know what it’s like to have a close sister and I’m just sad she doesn’t get to experience that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925491 Mon, 15 Nov 2021 20:16:40 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2925491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I remember not sharing with anyone for a couple of weeks.. I didn’t want to talk about it at all. I actually wouldn’t mind having all boys, but I mourned my little girl not having a sister since I’m so close to my own sister! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925490 Mon, 15 Nov 2021 20:02:38 +0000 bees_knees 2925490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs.kiwi: thank you for sharing. yes this is my first time experiencing gender disappointment too…my third boy I wasn’t upset about at all, even though everyone assumed I should be? People have already asked me today if Ive found out the gender yet and I said no. Just not ready to talk about it yet I guess :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925489 Mon, 15 Nov 2021 19:12:49 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2925489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I was never team green, but I have a boy, girl, boy…. And boy.</p> <p>I was really hoping no.4 would be a girl so my daughter could have a sister. I definitely mourned for a good number of weeks after finding out it was a boy.</p> <p>It was my first time experiencing gender disappointment and was surprised at how much it affected me.</p> <p>I didn’t share with too many people because I know many people don’t even have one of their preferred gender. At least I had one girl, right.</p> <p>And of course I must mention how much I adore my sweet little boy now who is 14 months now 🥰. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925488 Mon, 15 Nov 2021 17:29:50 +0000 bees_knees 2925488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It’s a boy :( and I know i should be thrilled for a healthy baby but I really really really wanted DD to have a sister. Especially because I lost my sister 4 months ago. Ultimately I’m glad I found out now, because I’ve cried more times today than I care to admit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925487 Mon, 15 Nov 2021 16:18:26 +0000 caitcat 2925487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We intended to find out ASAP with both of our kids...but I didn't realize until after finding out about girl #2 just how much my husband was hoping for a boy that time around. I was glad we had time to process that ahead of time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925485 Mon, 15 Nov 2021 15:38:26 +0000 ALV91711 2925485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I wanted to come back and say that we did find out for #3 (3rd boy!) And I’m glad we did because it seems DH needs some time to get used to the idea. I didn’t realize how much he wanted a girl. I think that it is better to get used to the idea beforehand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925484 Mon, 15 Nov 2021 13:08:26 +0000 Mommy Finger 2925484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For what it's worth, if you feel like you will deal with any sort of disappointment, I would find out. One of my best friends dealt with some huge disappointment with her 3rd and 4th being boys (I don't judge, it happens to the best of us) and it definitely helped her to know in advance so she could love on those babies when they were born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925483 Mon, 15 Nov 2021 12:43:55 +0000 bees_knees 2925483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You guys we got the NIPT back and everything looks great! Whew. But I have the gender results waiting in my messages *just in case* I want to know…so far I’ve made it 20 minutes. 😂 I don’t know if I can wait another 28 weeks!! </p> <p>I am mostly worried about gender disappointment. Do you think it’s easier/better to process before birth or after? Idk! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925167 Sat, 09 Oct 2021 04:46:34 +0000 meadow 2925167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@foodiebee: was team green for my twins h loved it! Same reasons as you.....so little left in life is truly a surprise.....and to avoid excessively gender stereotyped stuff </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925165 Fri, 08 Oct 2021 16:46:45 +0000 bees_knees 2925165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, all! Everyone has such good insight! I still want to wait...but not sure I can? IDK. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925160 Fri, 08 Oct 2021 14:26:11 +0000 ElbieKay 2925160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband had a strong gender preference the first time, so we found out early so that he'd have time to process if he didn't get his preference. And he did not get his preference, so I'm glad I did not have to process his disappointment at the birth.</p> <p>The second time, it was identical twins. Since I already had a boy, I had a strong preference for girls, and so we found out for the inverse reason. (The twins are girls.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925150 Thu, 07 Oct 2021 15:10:50 +0000 LadyDi 2925150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was team green for #1 then found out for #2 and #3. To be honest, I think I liked finding out ahead of time! Maybe it has to do with the birth of my first. Labor was intense and I ended up having an emergency c section and he was whisked away by the pediatrician as soon as he was pulled out because there was meconium so we overheard the nurses saying "he" and eventually my husband asked if it was a boy. It was all very stressful and anti-climactic and not the whole "my husband joyfully announcing it as he cuts the umbilical cord" moment I had envisioned.</p> <p>For #2 and #3 we decided to find out. We had VERY small gender reveal parties with our parents and siblings and I thought it was so fun and exciting and celebratory. Similar to @kayla0416: my first two were boys and I really wanted a girl since I knew it was our third and last. I was disappointed and sad and then mad at myself for feeling that way and I am REALLY glad I had time to process those emotions before he was born, rather than during the 4th trimester, which ended up being a very challenging time for me anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925149 Thu, 07 Oct 2021 14:45:13 +0000 kayla0416 2925149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have 3 girls, and we were team green every time. For the first two, it was amazing. The first time, I didn't care either way if we got a boy or girl, so we were happily surprised. The second time I didn't care either - I thought it would be fun to have one of each, or it would be really fun to have sisters, and we knew we'd have another one so I still had a chance at a boy either way. So we were happily surprised with our second girl. The third time, we knew it would be our last baby and we already had two sisters, so I very very very strongly wanted a boy. We got another girl. Of course I absolutely love her to pieces and it's so fun having 3 little girls, 3 sisters. But I really really struggled with that disappointment and the "loss" of never having a boy for a Long. Time. Like months. </p> <p>So I think that if you want it one way or the other, find out. I wish I had with the third one. I think it would've helped me to process it before she was here. If I had another one I would find out as soon as possible (not happening, DH says 10000000% no lol). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925142 Wed, 06 Oct 2021 15:19:16 +0000 foodiebee 2925142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green for our one and only and loved it. I loved the moment that my DH announced it was a "he" after delivery. We don't really have many opportunities as adults to be truly surprised like that! Also, like Lady Baltimore, we don't love gender stereotypes. We still needed the same items no matter the sex of the baby, so planning felt like it would be the same either way. Our families found it a lot of fun, and we had great moments that we got recorded of family meeting our DS for the first time and finding out baby was a he. We love those memories now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925141 Wed, 06 Oct 2021 11:24:39 +0000 lady baltimore 2925141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green with our first LO, and are team green with my current pregnancy. DH would have gone either way, but I firmly did not want to find out for two main reasons:<br /> *I figured that if there was going to be any gender disappointment, it would be overshadowed by the exhilaration of the birth. (100% true)<br /> *I am super irritated by gender stereotypes, the idea of "boy colors" and "girl colors", etc., so I wanted to avoid running into that for as long as possible.</p> <p>I said that I would only consider finding out this time if DD (almost 6) was super attached to the idea of having a sister (in case we needed time to prepare her for a brother). She's been super flexible, however, and even though she currently expresses a preference for a brother, she will quickly follow that up with "but we don't get to pick!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925140 Wed, 06 Oct 2021 10:56:16 +0000 periwinklebee 2925140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have liked it I think but my husband would have never been on board, lol... </p> <p>One thing to consider is I know a non-trivial number of people who've had their surprise ruined inadvertently by an ultrasound tech. At my anatomy scan I had the doctor come in to take a look - she inadvertently said "whoa, he's showing all the goods" and then in concern asked "wait, did you know the sex?" Of course, if you don't want to find out, you can always remind them of this... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925139 Wed, 06 Oct 2021 09:47:01 +0000 Clementine12 2925139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was Team Green with my first (DD1) but found out with #2 (DD2) and #3 (DS). My reasoning was - I have girl stuff around, do I need boy stuff? But it would've been fine either way, and if I had one of each I might've gone Team Green again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925138 Wed, 06 Oct 2021 08:35:50 +0000 Bluemasonjar 2925138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were Team Green for both of our babies and everyone was amazed because I am also a planner. I wanted gender neutral for the big baby things anyway and then I had a bunch of gender specific things picked out before I went into labor and was ready to order as soon as I delivered. I thought it was totally worth it and so much fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925137 Wed, 06 Oct 2021 04:11:13 +0000 ALV91711 2925137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green with our first and it was really good. To me then it didn’t make a difference. We found out for the second and it was pretty special too. Now for #3 we will most likely find out again. We have time to decide and I know DH wants to know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925136 Tue, 05 Oct 2021 22:47:13 +0000 bees_knees 2925136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonJack: It does sound really special! Part of me wants to wait just to prove to myself that I can...and also prove my husband wrong (he doesn't think I could do it lol) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925135 Tue, 05 Oct 2021 22:45:52 +0000 LemonJack 2925135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I totally get wanting to know, but if you feel like you can wait it’s definitely a special moment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925134 Tue, 05 Oct 2021 22:43:49 +0000 bees_knees 2925134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonJack: That makes me want to do it!! :) I just don't know if I can hold out for another 35 weeks :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925133 Tue, 05 Oct 2021 22:39:19 +0000 LemonJack 2925133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe I’m biased because I’ve only ever been team green, but I think it’s great! I always enjoyed trying to predict (my hunch was correct with 2 out of my 3), and other people loved guessing too. In the delivery room, even the nurses got excited, and with our last baby one of our nurses wrote down her prediction on the board in the room before she left during shift change. It made for a really fun atmosphere, and it was always super motivating during labor. My husband announced the sex of the baby, and it was always such a cool moment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/team-green-ers-would-you-do-it-again#post-2925132 Tue, 05 Oct 2021 22:08:43 +0000 bees_knees 2925132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have 3 boys and 1 girl. Three of my pregnancies we found out the gender asap with the NIPT...the first I had to wait an (excruciating) 20 weeks for the anatomy scan ;)</p> <p>I'm thinking about going team green this time! I don't know if I can do it? I'm a planner. But also, this is our last baby (for reals, this time hahaha), we already have everything we'd need if it were a boy vs a girl, and honestly...I think I'd have some gender disappointment if it's a boy. Although maybe I'd rather have the gender disappointment early so I'm "over it" by the time he's here. idk.</p> <p>Team Green mamas...would you do it again? Was it as awesome as people say? Or is it just as exciting to find out at 10 weeks? </p>