https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 07:24:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577704 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 21:06:05 +0000 mauri 577704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I support her right to choose. Since she is a minor, I do think her parents are responsible for providing her medical care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577676 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 21:00:47 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 577676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The teen should decide for herself wether to continue with or terminate her pregnancy. Teen pregnancy is a family issue and creates hardship on all the members of the family, so I see why the parents wanted her to choose an abortion. But, no one but the girl/woman should make that decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577610 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:42:15 +0000 yoursilverlining 577610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiew92081: abortion is not more risky than pregnancy and childbirth (except in third world countries). I agree that someone is likely to have some emotional trauma from a forced abortion (or a forced pregnancy), but childbirth is physically more dangerous than abortions. </p> <p>I imagine the parents are responsible for the bill since she is a minor...? Sad story all around! Hopefully het parents come around and support their child and grandchild! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577515 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:15:56 +0000 blackbird 577515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wonder how many of these teen moms say they will take care of the baby....and then their parents end up wholly supporting them. </p> <p>I'm surprised that her parents are responsible for half of that medical bill....that's what government assistance is for. And i wonder if they have insurance? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577454 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:57:31 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 577454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiew92081: Agreed with you on that point. When the pregnancy is wanted, abortion has been shown to be mentally distressing... But I mentioned that. Exactly why I support choice, because it would be equally distressing to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term.</p> <p>And that PDF is a compilation of a number of different studies, which is why I chose to cite it instead of single studies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577434 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:51:24 +0000 mrsmenow 577434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry to post and dash-when baby cries for the boobies:)</p> <p>I am so greatful for the help I did get form my mom. we lived with her and she paid the bills for the house and I paid for everything for my daughter. She made it possible for me to graduate and go on to college.</p> <p>If one of my daughters (I have 3) got pregnant I think I would do the same. I would help them so they could get a head but ultimately they would be the one taking care of the baby-up all night, buying diapers, etc.</p> <p>I think what her parents did was so wrong. I don't think they should have any say in the matter. I only struggle with them having to pay for the hospital bill and anything financially for the baby. You would hope (and I can't imagine anybody here on HB not helping) that they would help her if she needed it so that she and the baby could have some chance at a future, but as far as the court ordering it-I struggle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577424 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:48:14 +0000 Dandelion 577424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. jacks: that study doesn't say anything about forced abortions, though...which is what this case would be. it's one thing if you made the choice on your own and decided it's what you wanted for your life. But, I would imagine that being forced to have an abortion would have a similar connotation to having a miscarriage or still born baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577410 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:43:49 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 577410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiew92081: actually, emotional scarring for desired abortions has also been found not to be borne out in the literature.</p> <p><a href="https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&#038;q=cache:jwx7Hvy2OcEJ:m.plannedparenthood.org/mt/www.plannedparenthood.org/files/PPFA/emoteffectsabort_01-07_(spot_revised_05-25-07).pdf+studies+of+the+emotional+benefits+of+abortion&#038;hl=en&#038;gl=us&#038;pid=bl&#038;srcid=ADGEESjLhOu4g5XEbbrQUjFEmB7mJRhYEdKBGCQL12J-po0jgcFnmZp41B5-PWVFK8bcZn8YV9nrYOtVPQzdZcnCannWF-9eezej_4J5o3JmKy_e9ooTJW09OXGe5bqF_uyVp4nx5Qyx&#038;sig=AHIEtbRdxjuF25aWooy1fLhMJy2SklHwcQ" rel="nofollow">https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&#038;q=cache:jwx7Hvy2OcEJ:m.plannedparenthood.org/mt/www.plannedparenthood.org/files/PPFA/emoteffectsabort_01-07_(spot_revised_05-25-07).pdf+studies+of+the+emotional+benefits+of+abortion&#038;hl=en&#038;gl=us&#038;pid=bl&#038;srcid=ADGEESjLhOu4g5XEbbrQUjFEmB7mJRhYEdKBGCQL12J-po0jgcFnmZp41B5-PWVFK8bcZn8YV9nrYOtVPQzdZcnCannWF-9eezej_4J5o3JmKy_e9ooTJW09OXGe5bqF_uyVp4nx5Qyx&#038;sig=AHIEtbRdxjuF25aWooy1fLhMJy2SklHwcQ</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577395 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:39:18 +0000 KissMeCait 577395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Her body, her choice but also her responsibility. I don't believe that her parents should be obligated to foot any part of the bill. If she's old enough to have sex, get pregnant and give birth, then she's old enough to figure out how to support herself and her child on her own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577361 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:22:53 +0000 prettylizy 577361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It makes me sick that her parents would force her to do something she isn't comfortable with. I do struggle with her parents having to financially support her and her new child, but I've never been in that situatuion so it's hard to know what is right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577290 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:02:08 +0000 MamaMoose 577290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I absolutely support her right to choose. How terrible of the parents to try to force her into an abortion. She's still a minor and at the moment I do feel it's her parents responsibility to support her even if they don't agree with her choices. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577274 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:57:14 +0000 Mrs. Pen 577274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow that is really sad her parents would go to such great lengths to try and coerce her... So sad. But good for her for standing up for herself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577273 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:57:07 +0000 Penny Lane 577273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It should absolutely be up to her. Her body, her life, her baby. </p> <p>But, IMHO, she also shouldn't be expecting them to help pay for her child. If they offer to help, fine. Good, even. But suing them to make them pay for your child? Not so good </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577266 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:50:44 +0000 Arden 577266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I support her right to choose, either way. </p> <p>It's disgusting to force an abortion onto anyone, but I also don't believe in denying one to someone who is capable of making that decision. I know that if young women are forced out of abortions many will attempt it on their own and end up dead.</p> <p>I don't think the parents should have to contribute financially though for her medical bills - that's what medicaid is for (women in tight situations) and I don't think her parents should be responsible for her decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577260 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:49:33 +0000 MrsSCB 577260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiew92081: I agree with you 100 percent. Well said!<br /> :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577257 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:49:08 +0000 Dandelion 577257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. jacks: True, it's safer than the back alley abortions, but it's still a procedure. Even skilled abortions can have complications. Also, like @cyndistar3 said, the emotional scarring would be horrible...especially if it was something that she didn't choose for herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577247 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:45:34 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 577247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiew92081: while I'm in agreement with much of what you said, there is plenty of evidence to say that abortion with a properly trained provider is a very low risk procedure. It was illegal abortions that killed women! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577239 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:41:19 +0000 cyndistar3 577239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiew92081: Exactly! Not to mention the fact that she would be emotionally scarred forever. I would resent my parents forever if they forced me to do something that extreme. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577230 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:37:21 +0000 Dandelion 577230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyndistar3: Not to mention the potential long term effects on her body that could be if she had an abortion. I know bearing a baby changes your body forever, but an abortion is way more risky. I'm glad to hear your parents were so helpful about it. I hope I DON'T find myself in this situation when my daughter is a teenager, but even though she's not even born, yet, I already plan to do what I can do help her finish school and help the baby have a great start. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577220 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:32:52 +0000 cyndistar3 577220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiew92081: Exactly this!</p> <p>I too am a teen mother, I gave birth when I was 15 year old but luckily no one tried to force me to have an abortion because to me that wasn't an option. Even though my father was kind enough to pay for me to go to the midwife I wanted (which my now husband paid him back for) I still got Medicaid in case there was an emergency, for birth control after and for lo when she was born. So there are options, I don't see how forcing the poor girl into an abortion seems like the best plan... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577194 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:22:30 +0000 Dandelion 577194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think the parents should have tried to force the girl to have an abortion. However, I don't think they should have to pay for the baby. I think this could be one good reason for having government assistance. It's there for a reason.</p> <p>I do think, though, as her parents, they should provide the things to her that they would provide a daughter that wasn't pregnant, including a way to get to school. I know that even if my daughter got pregnant I would do what I could to help her stay in school to give her and the baby a good chance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577191 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:21:48 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 577191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I support her right to choose no matter the end decision she makes... As long as she wasn't coerced one way or another. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/teens-and-abortions#post-577178 Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:14:40 +0000 mrsmenow 577178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a teen mom (pregnant at 16 delivered when I was 17). I felt a lot of pressure from my family to not have my daughter. But ultimately my parents told me it was my decision (also my respnosibility).</p> <p>This article gives me really conflicted feelings. I do think she should have the right to make that choice, but I do think once you become a parent you are an adult and should ultimately be responsible for yourself and your child. And if you are lucky you will have some support from your family.</p> <p>Do you think a parent chould be able to make this decision for their child and do you think their parents (the grandparents should have to foot the bill?</p> <p><a href="http://news.yahoo.com/pregnant-teen-wins-abortion-battle-150554993--abc-news-topstories.html" rel="nofollow">http://news.yahoo.com/pregnant-teen-wins-abortion-battle-150554993--abc-news-topstories.html</a> </p>