https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 02:19:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427947 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 15:43:03 +0000 Ginabean3 2427947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: oh wow! Well, if you end up coming here we can totally hang out. 😊 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427935 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 15:40:47 +0000 Foodnerd81 2427935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ginabean3: ironically this move would be to Southern California. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427853 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 15:11:17 +0000 Kemma 2427853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pancakes: this is my philosophy too (also military!), sometimes you have to be the person that makes the first move and i try to say "yes" to every invitation!</p> <p>@BlueWolverine: change is always scary but what a fantastic opportunity for your family! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427755 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 14:36:32 +0000 jape14 2427755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BlueWolverine: I went to grad school in Durham and my husband went to grad school in Winston-Salem. We ended up in Raleigh where we didn't know many people besides coworkers (and my grad school friends, most of whom left after graduation). It's been a little tough for us because the area of Raleigh where we live is not known for having many Northeastern transplants (which we are). We have found that it can be hard to make couple or mom friends if you're not active in church (we aren't religious at all). But our neighborhood is great and there are lots of young kids so having a LO has opened up our social circle a little. I wish I would have joined the junior league when I first moved here and didn't have kids, but I'm pretty active with my sorority's alumnae organization so that has helped me to meet people. This area is absolutely great for kids, and on the whole, I love living here! My husband and I sometimes think it would be nice to move back to our hometown area where we know more people, but the quality of living here is so great that we never consider it seriously. Actually, since moving here, 4 of our 5 collective siblings have moved here too! </p> <p>Feel free to wall me to chat or if you want more specifics :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427583 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 13:12:53 +0000 Ginabean3 2427583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: this is me right now too! Except the place we would be moving is only an hour away....but with traffic in Southern California it might as well be a different state, i.e. I couldn't come back and see my friends daily. I'm trying to keep an open mind because if DH got this, it would be huge for his career. But I don't want to leave my "village" here. I have an almost 3 year old and a 6 month old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427560 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 12:57:02 +0000 birdofafeather 2427560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we did this for DH's job and it was really tough, especially because it was a city i NEVER (like, never ever) thought i'd live in and we didn't know more than 3 people from a distance. i tried to meet people right away and got lucky and met some mom friends like the 2nd week i was here. they were all wanting to meet up, so it was a great reason to get out of the house with my toddler.<br /> we're planning on moving again soonish to be closer to family, but it's still going to be in a city we only know 1 person in! DH and i plan to get involved with a church right away, join the YMCA, get DD1 into a preschool, etc to immerse ourselves in the community. we know it takes a while to find your people, so we want to get involved right away. we're also planning on buying right in the heart of the city so everything is walkable, etc. so we can't help but run into people! maybe one day when we finally have friends, etc, we would move more rurally to have more land! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427533 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 12:38:15 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2427533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My response has been eaten up twice! </p> <p>Anyway, DH did this when we moved in together after getting married. He had a hard transition. If we had to do it all over again. I would rent for at least a year. This way we would really have an idea of what kind of environment we want to live in and a better commute for the first year transition. A month before we moved we closed on our house and his initial commute was super brutal. </p> <p>He had a lot of visitors that first year and those were bright spot days. I would do that again- open our home and explore the new city with visitors.</p> <p>Another move like that where either or neither of us knows a soul is in the cards. Over time I think almost anywhere can feel like home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427523 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 12:31:29 +0000 autumnleaves 2427523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BlueWolverine: When you note you'd like to live in the country - would it be in a neighborhood or not? I think it would be easier to move into a big neighborhood - there are some in this area in NC that are more in the country.<br /> I have friends who moved here not knowing anyone and they have lots of friends through FB mom groups, church, exercise groups, their kids, etc.<br /> Before I had kids I moved away from NC to a smaller city in the north not having a job and not knowing anyone. I made friends through work and exercise. I ended up joining the Junior League there and that helped me connect with more people when I moved back to NC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427520 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 12:29:34 +0000 psw27 2427520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm dying to move... preferably somewhere warm. But DH loves his job so, it is what it is. I think moving is a big adventure! It is so hard to make friends anywhere, even now I'm having a hard time finding new friends with LOs in a city I've lived in for 15 years. It sounds like there are a lot of positives to your potential move, so I would go for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427503 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 12:15:02 +0000 cascademom 2427503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved from city to suburbs which for our area is a pretty big deal. We have our best friends nearby, but haven't seen them much with 3 year old struggles, etc. It's been an adjustment, but having the mom FB groups and nice neighbors has made the transition better. We moved right before winter again. I would recommend moving in nicer weather, so you can meet people and get the kids meeting kids. We're still working on it. I miss our friends in the city and need to find a way to get them up here or see them in the city somehow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427501 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 12:13:51 +0000 Foodnerd81 2427501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a possibility for us in the next few months, but I SAH and it would be for DH's job. Frankly- I'm digging in my heels and don't want to. We just had our second baby and I'm having a hard time adjusting and I have friends here and family is 5 hours away, as opposed to across the country. But we will probably go check out the area when the baby is big enough to travel and I've promised to keep an open mind- but yeah, I don't want to. </p> <p>I think it would be easy enough on the kids, and for you having a new job would at least mean you know people from work. My big thing is DH would still be working long hours and I'd be home alone with the two kids all the time. I'm just not feeling very adventurous at the moment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427492 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 12:06:59 +0000 mediagirl 2427492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BlueWolverine: it's hard. I moved here (Raleigh) 10 years ago knowing no one. I joined some meetup groups and that is how I found my friends I still have today. I'll be honest - finding mom friends has been much, much harder than finding fun, single friends. I work full time but still try to find groups where I may meet some moms - an evening MOPS group, a working moms group (now defunct) and I try reaching out to moms at daycare. </p> <p>I work for a small company so it's hard for me to make friends through work but maybe it would be an option for you? Also, when you move, hit me up. We can have coffee at my house to get you away from a half-unpacked house and let the kids play. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427469 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 11:44:26 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2427469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved 5.5 years ago. It was hArd at first. Small town. We met some people, and once we had our son I met so many more and now have great friends! I think if you can get to some groups with the kids that will help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427465 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 11:38:12 +0000 avivoca 2427465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BlueWolverine: I would do it again because I know that not every place is as a** backwards as the SE KY coalfields. Not every town constantly asks for your id when you buy things because "they don't know you" and not all people look at me wondering what I am and where I came from. The town was very isolated, down in a valley, and coal left a long time ago, so it was rural and poor. I just won't let that one bad experience ruin my sense of adventure and willingness to go different places. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427451 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 11:30:43 +0000 Pancakes 2427451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BlueWolverine: We are a military family, so we have done this a few times. I agree with @looch that it's harder on the adults than it is on the kids. It's important just to be really proactive about joining groups and introducing yourself to people. It's easier for the kids as they'll make friends through school. We are about to move again and it's always exciting to explore a new place. We've been prepping my daughter (almost 5) by talking up how fun it will be to choose a new house, how we'll probably have a lot more space than we currently do in our urban-ish neighborhood, how she'll get to try out a new playground at a new school, etc. It sounds like you would have a lot of good reasons to move. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427436 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 11:20:54 +0000 youboots 2427436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have not done this but would. M works for a large publicly owned company with offices all over the year. Each year we fill out where we would be willing to move temporarily or permanently... Asia, Middle East, Europe, etc. I lived overseas with my parents so the concept does not scare me. I think as long as I lived in a walkable neighborhood or a downtown I would be happy. The hardest part would be having to rehome our dogs with family or friends. I did not catch where you currently live. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427424 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 11:16:09 +0000 BlueWolverine 2427424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, everyone! @lamariniere: I too am excited about the potential move as a big adventure. I've lived in TX, Chicago, NYC and my home state and have never been to NC other than driving through. There are so many positives. </p> <p>@brownie: Wow, move and single parenting! That's impressive. I too am thinking it might take a while to meet new friends, but if I'm prepared for it, maybe it won't be so bad. </p> <p>@avivoca: I'm curious - it sounds like nothing good happened with your move. Why would you do it again?</p> <p>I'm going in a day early to look around before the interview to see what I think of the area. If they offer me, DH is going to fly up and see what he thinks. We can't go together right now for various reasons. If we decide to do it, all three of us will probably go up to find a house. We're thinking we'll rent for a year or two to get a feel for it before buying something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427386 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:52:16 +0000 Greentea 2427386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have done it a lot, and completely alone, so having your own family through it will feel amazing! It can be very fresh, liberating, and exciting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427385 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:51:21 +0000 brownie 2427385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sucks but it should be worth it. Moved my 4 year old and 4 month old and lived a single parent for 3 months before hubs got a job and joined us. I would do it again if the opportunity was right. It's hard to meet people especially working full time. But it takes time. It took about a year last time to start making friends. I'm expecting the same thing this time around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427356 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:32:32 +0000 MrsRcCar 2427356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just moved in June to a place with no one we knew. I found moms groups here to get into life with. I enjoy this new city, I make an effort to get out and meet people. Moving has made me be more outgoing because I am determined to not be lonely and build my village so to speak. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427351 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:25:54 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2427351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved from our college/grad school town with a great social support network to a town where we didn't know anyone. We were younger (late 20s) with no kids yet, but it was very hard for me the first year. We've been here almost 5 years now and feel happy &amp; comfortable here. I think a big move just takes time to adjust to, and if you know that going in it makes it easier. We made friends through workplaces and meeting people in our neighborhood. I think it may be tough on your oldest child, but kids are resilient! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427350 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:24:38 +0000 avivoca 2427350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did it once before kids and I hated it. Granted, the location I moved to was very, very small and I am not white, so I felt very isolated in a small former mining town. I wasn't able to find a job and since I didn't have kids, I had nothing in common with the women my age. I had no friends and that was part of the reason that we moved again so quickly (within 9 months).</p> <p>However, that would not stop me from doing it again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427349 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:24:08 +0000 looch 2427349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My feeling is that it's a lot easier for my son and much harder on my husband and I, especially as we have gotten older. I would always consider it though, especially if I could go on a scouting trip in advance, I'd never be down for moving without having seen the place at least once! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427341 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:15:46 +0000 Anagram 2427341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I moved from Texas to NJ and didn't know anyone, but found mom friends through local fb mom groups pretty easily. It feels like home here 3.5 years later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427332 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:10:42 +0000 lamariniere 2427332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've moved several times to places where I didn't know anyone. I would recommend going to the city beforehand for a weekend, if possible, just to get a feel for it and scope it out. Check to see if their are FB mom/parent/social groups that you could join. If you are involved in church you could probably meet people that way. I have always looked at big moves as an adventure, but starting ar zero isn't for everyone. Both times we made international moves with my LO (at 14 months and 22 months), he adjusted practically seamlessly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-moving-to-a-place-you-know-no-one#post-2427284 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 09:45:15 +0000 BlueWolverine 2427284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a job interview in North Carolina next week and it would be a huge jump in my career path. Huge. My profession is very location driven and there's not really any way for me to move up in our current location. DH is very interested in the move as the area would be great for his career as well.</p> <p>We have a FANTASTIC urban family here. My best friend of 16 years, her husband and kids live here. My current boss and her family are close friends. I went to grad school in this city and have lots of friends. Two book clubs. A life. But I hate how fast the city is growing and and don't love it like I used to.</p> <p>NC looks great. Raleigh-Durham is about half the size of my current city. We could live out in the country in a nice house (and pay less than we did for our house here) and still only be 20 minutes from work. There are seasons there, which I miss. I hear it's great for kids as long as you avoid the Durham schools. It's closer to my family (12 hour drive as opposed to 24 from here). I have close friends in DC, which is only about four hours away.</p> <p>Add into all this that I'm six months pregnant and we'd have to move during maternity leave. Poor LO1 would have to adjust to a new house, new day care AND new baby sister. Oh, and starting over friend-wise at 40 just sounds like a lot of work. I just don't know what to do. I may not get the job and won't have to decide, but of course that's not what my mind is fixated on.</p> <p>Anyone else done this? Contemplated this? Advice? </p>