https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 17:00:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-sending-lo-to-daycare-for-the-first-time-after-1-year#post-2363364 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 15:02:00 +0000 .twist. 2363364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>L went back at 1. It was a little hard at first, but he really did get the hang of it quickly. We didn't really have a choice so he kind of had to adapt. They also sense your moods. Don't make it out to be a big deal and hopefully they'll feel the same way. Good Luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-sending-lo-to-daycare-for-the-first-time-after-1-year#post-2363354 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:55:34 +0000 Mae 2363354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: lol i wrote my response as you were writing yours. but yes. So glad DH will be in charge of drop off and I get to do pick up!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-sending-lo-to-daycare-for-the-first-time-after-1-year#post-2363352 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:53:31 +0000 Mae 2363352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all! I hope that we have time to do transition time. If I get the job I think I'm going to get, and if I take that job... I have no clue when I would start. With the holidays coming up I'm hoping I can push it off until the new year but I don't know then that I'd have that extra time to transition. :/ But we'll see. </p> <p>One thing that I'm hoping will help is that if I work this job I'll work shifted hours so I'll go in early and leave early. Which means I'll be gone before LO wakes up and DH will wake her up and get her to daycare every morning. She has less issue leaving him (and he is less heartbroken at crying) so hopefully that helps both her and me with the transition. :/ Plus I'll get to be the good guy who does pick up every day :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-sending-lo-to-daycare-for-the-first-time-after-1-year#post-2363349 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:52:30 +0000 erinbaderin 2363349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, also, make somebody else do the drop-offs. My son has been in full time daycare for 10 months and I've never once dropped him off - my husband does all the drop-offs, I get to deal with the delighted "MAMA!"s at pickup time. </p> <p>But for what it's worth, my son is a big sucky mama's boy and he's totally fine at daycare. The minute I arrive he runs to me, I pick him up, and he just sucks his fingers and stares around the room ("Bennett, can you say bye to your friends?" "No.") but both the daycare staff and my neighbour, who drops his son off about a half hour later, assure me that during the day he is a perfectly happy active chatty little boy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-sending-lo-to-daycare-for-the-first-time-after-1-year#post-2363334 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:41:04 +0000 looch 2363334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, I feel you. We started our son in daycare at the age of 2, and we had a LOOOONG transition, like months. First, he went in the morning. Then, he began staying for lunch. Then he began staying for the afternoon nap. Then, he began staying for the afternoon play time. It tooks months, and he cried at drop off every single day. Crying is a stress reliever for my son, even at the age of 5, so once I realized that, I calmed down.</p> <p>I agree with @Mamasig, sometimes it will get better, sometimes it won't. And it is no fault of yours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-sending-lo-to-daycare-for-the-first-time-after-1-year#post-2363308 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:32:17 +0000 skipra 2363308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good luck! I would definitely recommend transition time if you can do it! I have to put G in the baby room at W's school in order to volunteer and it is a 3 hour scream fest. I think if I could have been with him at first it would have been easier. I was with him the last time and he finally explored the room and played. Teachers always say that the more time they spend there, the easier and faster the transition. I'm sure she'll do great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-sending-lo-to-daycare-for-the-first-time-after-1-year#post-2363299 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:28:28 +0000 Mamasig 2363299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No real advice because it will be hard. But it does get better and sometimes bad again. But what they learn is awesome. Be strong, mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-sending-lo-to-daycare-for-the-first-time-after-1-year#post-2363288 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:23:42 +0000 lamariniere 2363288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: agree about a transition week. It's pretty standard here. I spent 1.5 weeks going to daycare with each of my LOs who started at 24 months and 13 months. In my experience, both of my kids cried every day for 3 and 4 weeks, and it was really heart-wrenching. But they got used to it and are thriving. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-sending-lo-to-daycare-for-the-first-time-after-1-year#post-2363255 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:10:15 +0000 erinbaderin 2363255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did a transition week (my daycare actually offered it for free). The first day the two of us went and stayed for about two hours, played, watched the routines, and had lunch. The second day we dropped him off for an hour of just playtime. Third day was two hours over lunch, then a half day including a nap for the last two days, before starting full time the following week. There were still tears at drop off for a while, but at least that allowed him to get used to it, observe the routines, and understand that I was always coming back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-sending-lo-to-daycare-for-the-first-time-after-1-year#post-2363242 Thu, 19 Nov 2015 14:03:13 +0000 Mae 2363242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nothing is sure yet, but it looks like there is a very good chance I will be going back to work soon. LO is 18 mo now. She will go to daycare full time. </p> <p>I am freaking out. </p> <p>She's very outgoing and is generally pretty good with (female) strangers so I think once she is used to it, she'll actually really love getting to play with other kids all day. But I think the transition will be rough. She is a mama's girl through and through and the times when I've had to leave her for more than an hour or two have resulted in stage 5 clinging for a while thereafter. And when she anticipates leaving me (like when DH puts her to bed) she sobs. </p> <p>Any tips for how to make the transition smoother for her? I know kids are resilient and regardless, she will be okay and get over it. But I have this pit of my stomach fear that she's going to think I'm abandoning her and be miserable even when she's with me worrying about me leaving her more. Ugh. </p>