https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 01:34:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-three-year-old#post-912029 Mon, 08 Jul 2013 08:12:04 +0000 Honeybee 912029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Three has been a very difficult age for us, too. One of the things that helps us is physically removing DD from the situation when she starts melting down. We take her to a different room entirely, acknowledge her feelings and hold her if she needs to cry. She doesn't get to return until she has calmed down. Also, Mrs. Twine recently wrote about the Nutured Heart discipline style, and this has had such a transformation on DD. I was on the verge of a breakdown a few weeks ago, and things have dramatically improved since then. I feel like I'm actually enjoying my time with DD again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-three-year-old#post-908510 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 16:29:33 +0000 HLK208 908510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 was so hard. DS was best behaved when we spent one on one time with him. He really needed and loved some extra attention at that age because he had a new sister and wasn't dealing with change very well. </p> <p>I read so many books on early childhood development, how-to's on discipline, etc. For us, it worked best to just keep calm, get on his level, acknowledge how he was feeling and state that we cannot do X behavior then I would ask for an apology and hug him. After that, I dropped it completely - tried not to to bring it up later in the day.</p> <p>You can probably get by without preschool until 4 if you put her in social situations often. If she repeats the same behavior - you can take away privileges. If you're at the park and she gets upset with another child, you may have to say, "if you yell at other children, we will leave the park" just to keep it simple. Sometimes it makes them more angry, which is hard too. </p> <p>I can tell you, we are 3 months into 4 and it is SO much better than 3!!! I can understand why he is feeling the way he does and how to respond. He is so much calmer and better with expressing words. When he was 3, I didn't even know what to do with myself because the tantrums were so severe. Preschool helped a bit for us. Is there a less expensive alternative? Maybe a co-op? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-three-year-old#post-908490 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 16:15:47 +0000 mrbee 908490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: This book really helped Charlie when he was melting down a lot... we use these techniques almost every day!<br /> <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/06/26/the-best-parenting-book-ive-ever-read/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/06/26/the-best-parenting-book-ive-ever-read/</a></p> <p>Sharing is still really tough for Charlie, especially with a sibling who is always trying to borrow his toys! These books have helped some:<br /> <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/07/31/how-our-two-year-old-learned-to-share/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/07/31/how-our-two-year-old-learned-to-share/</a></p> <p>But most of all, we've learned to take away and/or hide toys that trigger a lot of fights!</p> <p>Good luck!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-three-year-old#post-908478 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 16:08:04 +0000 MamaBehr 908478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrBee it tends to be whenever she doesn't get what she wants. With peers it is when someone takes something she doesn't feel like sharing. She does not calm down easily. I have tried ignoring her, rationalizing with her (how does so and so feel about it, how would you feel if so and so didn't share with you), asking her to walk away, eventually she does calm down, but many times it is only when she gets what she wants (which is because the other mom intervenes, I don't want her to get what she wants when she screams like that). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-three-year-old#post-908463 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 16:00:35 +0000 mrbee 908463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: How long does it take her to calm down... and is there anything in particular that helps her self soothe? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-about-your-three-year-old#post-908453 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 15:57:03 +0000 MamaBehr 908453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I am beginning to worry about my three year old. I love her to pieces and she can be SUPER sweet (especially with her baby brother!) but sometimes around peers she can be terrible! Due to finances and a new baby in December, we have taken her out of preschool, but I'm beginning to wonder if she needs something so that she can get some peer on peer time. </p> <p>This is what she does specifically:<br /> When she gets frustrated with a peer she screams at the top of her lungs. She will yell "I AM ANGRY" and start screaming and crying. This is how she deals with DH and myself when we don't do what she wants. And, this is what really worries me, she has started to make like she was going to hit someone. I really don't want her to go down that path, is this normal or does she need preschool? </p> <p>HELP!! </p>