https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 16:00:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897294 Thu, 19 Sep 2019 08:48:14 +0000 wrkbrk 2897294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We split pretty much all tasks down the middle:</p> <p>Get up when DS wakes us by 6 am 😂<br /> Breakfast, coffee, cuddles, cartoons, feed dogs<br /> I get DS dressed, teeth, hair<br /> DW makes his lunch and assembles his backpack<br /> DW leaves with DS at 8 am then goes to work; I leave and go straight to work<br /> DS is in school 8:30- 5 (aftercare)<br /> I pick him up and we are home by 5:30; DW is home before us and making dinner<br /> I unload his lunchbox and backpack<br /> We eat dinner<br /> Playtime<br /> I do DS bedtime routine while DW cleans up<br /> He’s asleep by 8 pm and we both work a bit more from our laptops<br /> TV, lights out by 10 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897284 Thu, 19 Sep 2019 06:02:16 +0000 meadow 2897284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My alarm is 4:30am. I'm up by 4:40 to shower, dress, scrunch my hair. 5:05 I make a bowl of cereal and eat breakfast, put lunches from fridge into frozen lunch boxes. Hopefully I have 10-15 minutes to think, watch a little tv, browse HB.....<br /> 5:30 I wake up DD and DS, bring them to potty, I pick out their clothes and dress them/prompt them to get dressed. DH gets up when he hears me wake the kids &amp; hops in the shower. DH throws on an undershirt &amp; basketball shorts then he joins us in time to put on kids shoes (jackets too if its winter) while I brush my teeth and throw on my last layer (either a shirt over my cami or a cardigan over my shirt). Then we load the kids &amp; bags in the car so we are out of the house by 6:05 am. DH gets dressed in work clothes and leaves for work after we depart. I drop kids off at 6:30 to daycare then head to work arriving between 6:50 and 7am. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897275 Thu, 19 Sep 2019 05:31:52 +0000 hellobeeboston 2897275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: we both WOH, so this is what we do... </p> <p>DH: Up &amp; out of the house by 6:30 most days, his commute is about an hour and 15 min..... except Thursday, he does the morning routine that day since he has to work until 7 that night. (SO NICE just having one day off from getting the kids ready &amp; out the door)</p> <p>Most mornings, I get up at 6:30, kids usually get up between 6:30 &amp; 7.... I make breakfast, kids lunch's, get the kids ready for school, etc. Bring my 1st grader to the bus stop at 8:10, me and the preschooler head home and get ourselves out the door by 8:30, drop off at preschool at 8:45... Then I drive 1 hour to work.</p> <p>We have activities every day of the week except Friday, and I try to WFH that day if I can.... My husband usually meets at activities, and Thursday I bring my older son to hockey with my little guy.</p> <p>UGH, it's a grind... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897244 Wed, 18 Sep 2019 14:17:44 +0000 MissLace 2897244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my husband actually does the majority of "kid stuff" during the week. I have a 2hr commute each way to work so im out the door by 7am and walk in the door around 7:15pm 3 days a week. The other 2 days i work from home (as of this week!). Basically i get at least one of my two kids up and to the potty and dressed, hand them something quick for breakfast and leave to catch a train. My husband always gets up after me and will bring down whichever kid is still sleeping, then hop in the shower while they eat. He then gets the other one dressed and leaves for daycare drop off by 7:45ish. He then leaves work by 4:30 (he has a 45 minute commute) and goes straight to pick the kids up at daycare (theyre 2 and 4 so in the same school still thank god), then he makes dinner and packs lunches, etc. by the time i walk in at 7pm-ish, i get them in the bath and PJs, then we divide and conquer bedtime since theyre in different rooms and super needy for like an hour until they fall asleep. Then we eat our dinner at like 9pm or pick on it earlier while theyre in the bath/playing. Then we lay out all the clothes/stuff for the following day the night before so its ready to go in the morning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897242 Wed, 18 Sep 2019 14:07:07 +0000 crazydoglady 2897242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy:<br /> 6:00-wake up, get myself ready<br /> 6:30- DH wakes up, feeds/kennels his dog, takes a shower<br /> I get the lunches/waters together (DH does his own)<br /> for me, the baby, and DS (I put together the baby's<br /> lunch and DH does DS' the night before)<br /> 6:45/6:50- wake and dress the baby<br /> 6:55-7:00- I BF the baby while DH is getting DS dressed (I don't pick the clothes,) brushed, and figures out DS' breakfast<br /> 7:10- Out the door. DH helps me load the kids in my car. DH has about a 15-20 min commute and I work in town, so I drop DS off at my MIL's house (she meets me outside,) I take DD to daycare, grab coffee, and then go to work (I get there around 7:35/7:40.<br /> 3:00- I pick up the baby from daycare, go home, settle a bit, and feed her<br /> 4:00- DH comes home with DS<br /> Evening-- DH cooks dinner, does the dishes, packs all lunches (mine included) but not the baby's. I do general living room cleaning and wipe down the counters after he's done cooking.<br /> It's not perfect but we really have this divide and conquer mentality. I do most stuff for the baby and he does most the stuff for the boy. He's gotten annoyed before when I've tried to do his stuff (laying out clothes, etc) because he can do it himself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897235 Wed, 18 Sep 2019 12:52:55 +0000 meganmp 2897235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I don't mean that you decide what he doesn't like, I mean list out all of the things and say, "Hey, DH, here is all of the stuff that needs to get done in the morning. What would you like to take?" and make him pick his stuff. Then there is no room to complain because he picked his stuff. If you don't want to make the list of things, ask him his proposal for how the morning should run. Also, if he says that he doesn't want to do any of it, then that will open a clear new conversation about household balance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897208 Wed, 18 Sep 2019 08:44:23 +0000 MamaJ 2897208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do the whole morning routine alone, but DH does a good bit of the evening stuff so I feel it’s mostly balance. We only have one LO and one on the way so not sure how it will change when we have 2. I work 8-5 and DH works 7-330. </p> <p>530 - I wake up get myself ready, get lunches together (made the night before), chill, drink coffee. - I used to go to the gym but now I have no energy while pregnant.<br /> 6ish- DH gets up and gets himself ready and leaves at 645<br /> 630- I get LO up, make him get dressed, get his cereal, put on a show for him, etc<br /> 7- leave for school drop off<br /> 715ish - drop LO off at school and head to work.<br /> 745-8 - arrive at work. </p> <p>DH almost always picks up LO, rubs errands If needed, gets him a snack, has him do homework and has dinner started or ready by the time I get home from work. We switch off on bedtime duties. The only exception is if he is out of town then I do the evening stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897198 Wed, 18 Sep 2019 07:11:00 +0000 Ajsmommy 2897198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamatimes3: He has to get himself ready and pack his lunch and breakfast (which i think he should to at night)…. but in my opinion he doesn't have to do much of anything!!! @peaches1038: i mentioned that and he said that there are no appts in the evening that he can make.. like there are none late enough for him to go to after work...<br /> @shabang: I think he may have realized that he needs to just "buck" up bc he never brought it up last night and this morning he just got up early. he got ready and went and packed his breakfast and lunch before i even left. Although i am confused bc he still left the house at the same time as he did yesterday so.... IDK!!!<br /> @Mrs.Panda: he did get up earlier today and i guess it worked for him.. we still had a tiff but it was bc i asked him if he went out through the garage to get a battery out of one of the kids ride on toys (i can't figure out how to get it out!) i texted him and said "if you go into the garage get the battery out, i'll charge it. Well, well well did he have a fit... how dare i ask him to do something extra when just yesterday he told me he needed help.. (rolling eye emoji) he's such a baby...<br /> @meganmp: this is good idea but i'm not sure what he does that he doesn't like.. LOL.. other than dropping the kids off!! but he has to bc if i do then i dont' get home in time to pick DS up bc his daycare closes at 5 and i have a 1 hr commute so leaving at 4 is basically the latest i can..<br /> @MrsSRS: i think he may have realized what the "schedule" looks like and what i do after he complained yesterday and i was sarcastic about getting DS dressed.... @DesertDreams88: LOL... can't say that i disagree.... @erinbaderin: he had been getting up after me and blaming me for getting up late... but today he got up before me at 530.. i guess it worked better?? IDK bc as stated above he seemed to leave the house at the same time plus he was a jerk face when i asked him to do one minor thing.. how dare i!?!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897194 Wed, 18 Sep 2019 06:57:41 +0000 ALV91711 2897194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually do a majority of the morning myself by choice. DH is usually up by the time we leave. </p> <p>DS2 is usually up 5-5:30. I get up with him and make coffee and he plays. Sometimes I’ll tidy up. We wake DS1 at 6:30 if he’s not up. We all have breakfast then get dressed. I shower and pack lunches at night. We are out the door about 7:20. I drop DS2 at daycare and DS1 at school and I’m at work by 8:30. I’m not a morning person but enjoy our mornings as everyone is happy and we aren’t really rushed. If DH is uo he will help whoever needed. </p> <p>In the evening DH picks both boys up from daycare and they get home about 4:30. He gets DS2 fed. I get home about 5 and then DH starts dinner. I get bags unpacked and DS2 to bed. He’s in bed at 6. Usually we’ve had dinner by then. We both work on clean up or whatever needs to be done. DS1 likes to help with lunches. One of us gets DS1 showered and he’s in bed at 7:30. </p> <p>DH has more flexible hours so he takes care of more around the house during the week. I think I may do a bit more but he’s pretty good about helping out with anything I ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897181 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 19:38:17 +0000 erinbaderin 2897181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What time does your husband get up? From his point of view, what is it that he thinks he does? Because I agree with everybody else, it doesn’t seem like he has that many jobs. </p> <p>Our mornings look like this:<br /> At 5 I get up, jump in the shower. My husband gets up a few minutes later. We both get ourselves ready, he heads downstairs and feeds the cats, makes himself breakfast, and mixes up our younger son’s yogurt drink/Restoralax combo. If I have time I start to pull our lunches together (I make B’s lunch the night before, my husband fills his water bottle, adds the ice pack, and packs it in his backpack).<br /> At 5:55 I start waking up the kids. They’re usually grumpy and reluctant to get up, and I feel terribly guilty about how early it is. I also start pulling their clothes out and trying to get them to tell me what they want for breakfast so my husband can start assembling it. I spend the next 10-15 minutes trying to cajole them out of bed, into clothes, and downstairs, where we get them set up with their breakfast. I finish making lunch for my husband and myself, slap some peanut butter on toast to eat in the car, and try to get out the door by 6:20 - depending on traffic my commute is 50-90 minutes, usually around 60. My husband gets them to finish their breakfast, tidies up (usually), and drops the off at their separate daycares before catching the 7:10 train. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897178 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 18:06:58 +0000 DesertDreams88 2897178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kept looking for what your DH actually has to do and it is SO minor. F that. I'd honestly be shifting a bunch of what you do on to him to make it more even. </p> <p>You already have to wake up crazy early and he gets to sleep in, so... again, F that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897170 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 16:36:26 +0000 MuzzyBee 2897170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In our house it goes:<br /> 6am DH leaves for gym and work<br /> 6.30ish I get up with 2 kids<br /> Make breakfast, get dressed, make 1 lunch, check bags and then leave at 8.<br /> First drop off is close, second drop off is halfway to work.<br /> Get to work around 9-9.15, start at 9.30. Finish at 4, pick up kids, home by 5.30, cook dinner, DH gets home around 6 some nights I head to the gym as soon as he gets home. He bathes kids and gets them ready for bed, I get home around 7.30 and we split the kids for reading and good nights.<br /> DH puts some washing on normally and cleans up in the kitchen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897166 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 15:53:45 +0000 codeitall 2897166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not a morning person. Ironically, DH and I work in the same building 25 minutes away (with no traffic), but we drive separately because my hours are way more flexible than his.<br /> DS is 4, DD is 2.</p> <p>7:00 DH wakes up and gets ready<br /> 7:30 DH leaves<br /> 7:30-8 kids wake up and come cuddle with me till everyone is awake<br /> 8:10 Me and DS get dressed in a 'race' and I get DD dressed<br /> 8:15 We get our shoes on at the shoe bench and I pour dry cereal or granola into bowls for the car<br /> 8:20 Hop in car and leave, kids eat during the 10-15 min drive there.<br /> 8:35 drop off kids<br /> 9:10-9:30 arrive at work<br /> 5:00 I leave to get kids<br /> 5:45-6 pick up kids</p> <p>I am lucky, meals are provided by daycare so I don't need to pack anything, and I hate mornings, so we've really stripped down the getting ready time as much as possible. I also hate cooking in the morning, so dry cereal all the way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897163 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 15:17:14 +0000 JennyPenny 2897163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: That sounds fine, but if you take on getting DS dressed all the way, he should take something from your list, like getting DDs breakfast ready. </p> <p>@MrsSRS: I like the idea of a color coded schedule. It could help him see that he's not taking on a fair share and possibly encourage him to get up earlier. We did something similar once and it got my DH getting up much early which has really helped the mornings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897159 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 13:21:32 +0000 Jess1483 2897159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mostly have to agree with the others--his morning isn't "easy," but neither is parenting, and you are bending over backward to set him up for success. </p> <p>Our morning is unique (DH works full time from home, but he absolutely can't be disturbed--calls are recorded--so it's mostly working outside the home but with no commute), but I'll chime in anyway.</p> <p>4-5--I get up. I work 4:30 or 5:30-7 a.m. on-line, so I get sort of ready, and then work.</p> <p>7--DH promises to be out of bed (or home from the gym) by now. He starts working on breakfast for DS1(6) and DS2(4) and any packed lunches. I get DD (4 months) and nurse. </p> <p>7:15--Boys are allowed out of bed, they dress themselves and start eating breakfast. I'm usually done nursing/getting DD dressed by 7:15 or 7:30, then she does great in a bouncy seat.</p> <p>7:45--Boys are supposed to be done eating. They get teeth brushed, etc mostly on their own. I frantically try to eat something and help finish lunches if they aren't done--try to squeeze in some clean-up. If DH can spare a few minutes, he tries to spend some time with DD.</p> <p>8--Out the door--DS1 gets on the bus. DS2 and I sometimes return to the house for 30ish minutes before carpool picks him up for preschool, then I go to work. When I was leaving earlier (around 8), I dropped off DS1 and took DS2 to work with me (I taught preschool). I usually had to do morning dishes when I got back from work around 3.</p> <p>For me to start working on-line from home in the mornings, it took a big adjustment from DH. He is NOT a morning person, so it took time for him to understand that it wasn't fair for him to expect me to do all the morning things and be ready for work at the same time as he just needed to walk upstairs to his office (this was before baby, so technically I could do it, but it was hard). Now he's a pro and can handle it alone when he needs to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897157 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 13:02:52 +0000 MrsSRS 2897157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a single parent now, but mornings looked the same when I was married, so:<br /> 5:00 get up, shower, coffee<br /> 5:30 prep kid breakfasts, feed pets, get dressed, finish lunch packing started after dinner<br /> 6:00 wake kids and make them get dressed and brush hair<br /> 6:15 kids eat breakfast, I pack their bags or read to them or do school paperwork<br /> 6:35 kids brush teeth, put on shoes, and help pack their bags, I start dishes<br /> 6:45 get in the car</p> <p>Can you show DH the schedule you wrote out and ask him how he'd like it changed? Maybe add in what he does in detail and highlight the tasks color coded for you both first. That gives a clearer visual. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897156 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 13:00:33 +0000 kiddosc 2897156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know why you feel like you need to make anything easier for your DH. It sounds like you are pulling much more than your fair share of the weight. </p> <p>My Schedule:<br /> Up at 6:30, I shower and get ready. DH gets up and makes DS's lunch and then gets in the shower when I get out.<br /> DD gets up around 7 and then comes into our room and watches cartoons while we finish getting ready.<br /> DS wakes up and gets himself dressed and watches cartoons if we're not ready yet.<br /> DH takes DS downstairs and gets him breakfast around 7:30 and I get DD dressed. She eats breakfast at daycare.<br /> DH leaves for work around 7:40, he will take DD to daycare if I have an early meeting.<br /> I pack the kids backpacks and we walk to the bus at 7:45.<br /> Bus picks up DS at 7:52, I drive DD to daycare right next to work and am in my desk by 8:30. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897153 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 12:49:01 +0000 meganmp 2897153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids go to school where I work (which is 45 minutes from home) so our morning looks like this:<br /> 6:15- DH wakes up, showers and gets dressed<br /> When he is done showering, I get up (I shower at night)<br /> I get ready, he makes breakfasts and lunches (we all eat in the car)<br /> I make sure kids are up, dressed, brushed, and combed- clothes are laid out by me the night before<br /> I take kids to school- out the door by 7am.</p> <p>If you were to list all of the things that need to get done, what would your DH choose to do? That's what we did. My DH loathes getting the kids dressed (he has no patience for it) and I really hate making lunches, so- problem solved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897150 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 12:29:32 +0000 Mrs.Panda 2897150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know you asked what my mornings are like, but I think your husband needs to get up earlier and get moving. Sorry, you're a grown up and these kids are yours, too.</p> <p>For us, both DH and I wake up at about 6. One will shower while the other kind of hangs out in bed, does other personal morning stuff, then we will switch. </p> <p>I get DD up at around 6:30, get her dressed, teeth brushed , hair done. I pick out clothes for DS to wear and DH changes his diaper and dresses him. We get out the door at around 7:15 and I drop the kids off at daycare before heading to work. I work 8-5 and my commute is about 1 hour between drop off and driving to my job (I'm usually running late because of something or another). Kids eat lunch at daycare. DH has a flex schedule and has to work 8 hours and has to be in by 9. He often works late despite whatever time he gets in due to the nature of his job. </p> <p>You're doing everything you can. Your husband needs to buck up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897149 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 12:09:14 +0000 charm55 2897149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do all drop offs and pickups and it is exhausting. But with my schedule, it just makes sense that I do both. There's nothing else DH can do to make it better, but I do appreciate when he acknowledges that it must be hard. </p> <p>Our schedule: </p> <p>6:00 - DH up and gets himself ready.<br /> 6:45 - He leaves as I am waking up and getting the girls up<br /> I get them fed, dressed, and we are out the door by 7:30. </p> <p>We drop DD2 off at daycare/preschool. It's across town and totally out of way...I could make my life easier by moving her somewhere closer but we love where she is so I suck it up. </p> <p>Then DD1 and myself backtrack to school where I work and she attends.</p> <p>At 4:00 we do it all in reverse. It's exhausting but I'm not going to have my kids wake up earlier just so that my DH can help get them ready. We only have 1 more year of this nonsense then the girls and myself will all be at the same school. Can't wait for that day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897148 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 11:38:36 +0000 shabang 2897148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here's our usual split:<br /> MORNING<br /> Him: Up @5:15, shower/get himself ready, breakfast for everyone, lunches for everyone, feed/walk dog.<br /> Me: Up @5:45, take care of baby, get myself and her ready and out the door, 1 hr commute to daycare dropoff and then work.<br /> Him: Get other 2 kids up, hair/teeth/potty, feed 1 breakfast, 2 separate drop-offs, walk to train, train to city.<br /> EVENING<br /> Me: Daycare pickup for baby, commute, 2 school pickups for kids, take care of dog, snacks, start dinner, start homework<br /> Him: Pitch in when he arrives with anything that needs doing, after dinner baths/showers, kids dressed for the next day<br /> Me: About an hour of cleanup and prep for the next day. Put the baby to bed, nightshift when any of the kiddos wake up<br /> Him: Put the other two to bed</p> <p>My suggestion for your DH would be to BUCK UP, which is not helpful I know. Maybe it is a matter of trading off something particular, as others suggested? We're both exhausted and completely drained by this schedule, so I doubt we're a good model for anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897144 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 11:07:46 +0000 peaches1038 2897144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have an almost 4 year old. We all wake up at 645. DH gets DS dressed, gets his packed lunch and backpack set, gets his granola bar and piece of fruit ready that DS eats in the car and brushes his teeth all while I get ready. DS and I leave at 715 for a 745 preschool drop off and I’m at my desk by 8. DH is at work by 9.<br /> In the evenings, DH makes dinner and I play with DS. We switch off bedtime routines every other night. </p> <p>Maybe if your DH changes his chiro appt to later in the day, he won’t feel as rushed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897139 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 10:34:44 +0000 Mamatimes3 2897139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What does your husband babe to do besides dress your son and drop them off?</p> <p>I work 8-4:30. My husband works a shift schedule so I usually do everything and drop all 3 kids off. Kids are 3, 5, and 7. </p> <p>5:15 - wake up, shower, get ready, If I don’t need to wash my hair I can wake up at 5:30</p> <p>6:15 - wake up 3 kids (dress them, feed them, brush teeth, make coffee, pack lunch if necessary</p> <p>7:00 - leave and drop off all 3 (2 different spots)</p> <p>8:00. - arrive at 8</p> <p>This sounds smooth but I’m usually running around for the 45 minutes getting them ready. They tend to be slow and and one is hard to wake up.</p> <p>ETA - when my husband can drop him off he does. My day basically starts 30 minutes later. But I still do mostly everything to get them ready. He hurries them if need be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897135 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 10:09:43 +0000 Ajsmommy 2897135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: I don't disagree but I feel like I am taking the brunt in the evening so therefore he should do it in the mornings! And I feel like I do everything I can to make it easy for him... He's certainly not doing that for me...he's not laying out their pjs or setting out their dinners for me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897133 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 10:05:13 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2897133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: it’s actually been going crazy well (which I’m sure will now jinx it ha) but really I was prepared for madness and stress. I think it hinges on the boys being good in the morning and not throwing tantrums as well as the night before prep. If I’m scrambling it throws it all off. I have a client at 8:30 every morning so it has to go well. I do have a 10-15 min buffer just in case for tantrums and the eventual bad weather.</p> <p>From what you write to another reply, you are literally doing everything so your hubby is gonna need to suck it up big time. I would make a list of all the tasks and divide it up between you and not give at all. You work too and these things have to get done regardless so it should be a partnership. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897132 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 10:02:00 +0000 Ajsmommy 2897132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: uhh. dagger... lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897131 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 10:01:09 +0000 graceandjoy 2897131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Except my dog starts whining at 6:30am to be let out and usually I don't go back to sleep after :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897129 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 09:52:41 +0000 Ajsmommy 2897129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: wow, this sounds soo smooth to me for some reason!! thanks!<br /> @Anagram: your night sounds like mine too minus the switching bed times! I drive home in traffic so 45 mins -115 mins, pick up both kids at different locations, get them home, after school snack, unpack back pack and lunch box, pack lunch for tomorrow, get dinner ready, feed kids, bath kids, kids into pj's and then DH usually gets home... Then I put both kids to bed.. not to sound like a martyr or anything but what more does the man want??? LOL<br /> @gotkimchi: thank you! I literally lol'd and just thank you.<br /> I can't take DS to daycare bc his doesn't open until 7 am.. that would really put me late. I do it when DH is out of town (like he was last week from tues-fri) but I have to take time off bc I'm missing like an hour of work each day bc DS daycare is 7 am-5 pm... so I have to leave work by 4 in order to pick him up on time.<br /> @josina: right!?!!? your mornings sound pretty nice :)@Becky: some days I wish we were on the later end of the schedule but we just aren't. Our neighbors are.. their kids go to bed at 9 - 930 but sleep in until 730-8, since we have to be up so early our kids are in bed before 8 and wake between 6-645<br /> @JennyPenny: I asked him this morning and first he said I had to get DS dressed.. to which I replied, I already lay out his clothes on your bed for him.. like really? that takes 1-3 mins tops to get him dressed.. so I said ok i'll do it then, I was heated and frustrated so I was kinda sarcastic "like ok, whatever you need... dear"<br /> @Anagram: we have not.. this just started last week really and DH was out of town from tues-fri soooo this is the first full week of it.. I'm not quite sure why it's too much for him. the only difference is that he now has to drop the kids at two different places. But I guess just the 1 mile to DD school, dropping her off, signing her in and then getting back into the truck to go to DS place is just adding too much time.. probably 10-15 mins I'd guess. But I'm not sure how I am supposed to make that up for him....<br /> @graceandjoy: gonna admit I'm jealous of that 730 am wake up time :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897120 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 09:33:05 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2897120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: we also do the switch off of bedtime routines and we each have our task to do to prep for next day so it feels totally equal to us and neither feels overwhelmed. It’s so key in not becoming resentful! 8 pm is our downtime too! </p> <p>We switch off who gets up in the night or does the pre 6 am wake with the baby too. Whoever gets up early doesn’t have to do bathtime that night and puts the older to bed. We each get a sleep in day til 8 am on the weekend. I pack DS1, DW and my lunch, she loads and empties the dishwasher before bed. While one of us does bath, the other cleans the kitchen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-me-what-your-morning-routine-looks-like-if-you-and-dh-both-woh#post-2897116 Tue, 17 Sep 2019 09:10:20 +0000 graceandjoy 2897116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally agreeing with everyone else; he needs to pinpoint WHAT isn't working for him; personally I just think he is resistant to change and/or extra work? </p> <p>My husband's work is much more flexible than mine (I have a 9-5 in an office). This is our schedule with a kindergartner and a preschooler (and will become slightly more complicated when #3 is born &amp; starts daycare mid next year) - </p> <p>7-7:30 Everyone wakes up, eats breakfast<br /> 8-8:30 DH makes their lunches, I am in charge of getting them changed and getting ready myself </p> <p>I SHOULD leave at 8:30 but I usually end up leaving around 8:40-8:45. Sometimes I'm still there to put them on the car, sometimes I leave first. </p> <p>8:45 is the earliest DD2 can get dropped off at preschool, 2 minute drive from our house<br /> 9:10 is the earliest DD1 can get dropped off at kindergarten, it's maybe a 4 min drive from preschool and pass back by our house. DH &amp; her currently park the car and he walks her to the door and waits with her </p> <p>Things won't change too much with DS3 next year as DS3 gets dropped off along with DD2 at the same school. It will become different in the summer when DD1 goes to camp; I might be dropping her off instead. </p>