https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 05:29:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-your-tale-surviving-through-transitions#post-2896741 Thu, 12 Sep 2019 13:36:11 +0000 graceandjoy 2896741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: Nooo 20k?! You have been through a lot! I think mothers are truly survivors! Doing what it takes!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-your-tale-surviving-through-transitions#post-2896739 Thu, 12 Sep 2019 13:27:34 +0000 pachamama 2896739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha sorry didn't mean to be negative. But 2 kids has been rough.. . or maybe motherhood doesn't suit me 😣<br /> We just got through something pretty rough- we had a major leak (caused by a freaking cloth diaper sprayer hose attachment that broke) that caused about $20,000 in damage. 3 Floors of my house were affected. Hardwood floors, carpet, trim, ceiling, couches, all had to be replaced. It was the week my 3y/o camp ended so I had nowhere to go with 2 kids. It was truly terrible. The machinery the water damage place brought in was soooooo loud and in our house for 6 days. Anyway, we got through it. I made sure I kept the kids on a schedule and pretended it wasn't that big of a deal even though my kid was scared of all the machines and fans and sanders etc.<br /> So we've been through infertility, a missed miscarriage, 2 kids, PPD bad both times, and a home reno when the kids didn't have daycare or a sitter to go to. And we're ok. Mostly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-your-tale-surviving-through-transitions#post-2896729 Thu, 12 Sep 2019 12:22:21 +0000 graceandjoy 2896729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: Uggh I remember those days too. Hopefully my mindset will be better with this 3rd one!</p> <p>@Mrs. Pajamas: Thank you for the encouragement! We def came up with baby steps to make all the transitions easier (the ones we can control anyway). And nothing is THAT bad; it's just we are barely 2 weeks into the new school year, routines, the whole bunk bed thing, and I just have to keep telling myself there is an end to this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-your-tale-surviving-through-transitions#post-2896728 Thu, 12 Sep 2019 12:18:19 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2896728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: Love this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-your-tale-surviving-through-transitions#post-2896727 Thu, 12 Sep 2019 12:17:57 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2896727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: I feel you mama. My biggest transition point was about 3 years ago. We found out I was pregnant with DD2 the day our moving truck arrived to move us from DC to CA. We moved for DH to start a new job. So he went to work as soon as we arrived in CA. Meanwhile I was navigating 1st trimester, having DD1 (2yo at the time) at home with me, finding her daycare, keeping my job from DC but working remotely, settling into new home/neighborhood, unpacking/finding all the things in our million boxes, finding an OB, etc, etc. It was ROUGH. I was freaking tired and crying every day with feeling so overwhelmed. Eventually I found DD1 daycare and that allowed me to work, get some space and settle into a new routine. My parents were super helpful in talking me off the ledge and getting me to identify the most important thing that would be helpful and that was childcare because I couldn't do anything with a 2yo at home. So maybe start with the thing that would be most helpful in relieving your feeling of exhaustion/worry/everything is overwhelming. And then go from there. But yes you will survive and we're here to support you along the way! Good luck and hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-your-tale-surviving-through-transitions#post-2896718 Thu, 12 Sep 2019 11:02:50 +0000 pachamama 2896718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Let's see. When I first had my second son pretty much every single day was a challenge and I wanted to run away. Now I only want to run away like 3 out of 7 days 🙌 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-your-tale-surviving-through-transitions#post-2896712 Thu, 12 Sep 2019 09:49:46 +0000 graceandjoy 2896712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSRS: I'd love to know what books you read! And you are amazing for getting through all that, especially I know it must be hard on you too! </p> <p>@Becky: I think DD1 mostly handled/handles transitions like a champ; it's my soon to be middle child that's going nuts haha. But in turn b/c we spend so much of our time/energy dealing with DD2 I feel like I need to be more attentive to DD1; even if she doesn't SHOW signs of distress through transitions, I KNOW it affects her too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-your-tale-surviving-through-transitions#post-2896709 Thu, 12 Sep 2019 09:44:11 +0000 Becky 2896709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the biggest transition DD1 had was that within a 3 month span of time we got rid of her pacifier, she was hospitalized with RSV, we moved to a new house (literally signed the papers while she was in the hospital), and DD2 was born. Her behavior was really challenging over my maternity leave but I think it was pretty typical 2.5 y/o stuff and she dealt super well with all the transitions. She also started a new daycare a few months later and that was very smooth sailing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-your-tale-surviving-through-transitions#post-2896708 Thu, 12 Sep 2019 09:43:23 +0000 MrsSRS 2896708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hoo boy. Last fall we navigated DS starting kinder, DD going from 4 days morning preschool to full time, me moving from working 30 hours a week to 55 hours, their dad moved out, and we started a 75/25 custody split. Everything was fine. We were ok. They learned their new routines. It felt normal by Thanksgiving. Which was when their dad bought a new house. So then we negotiated a new house transition. By the New Year all was manageable. I knew I needed to be in survival mode so I dropped all the non essentials. I paused my gym time for that semester, but I was able to pick it back up by February. I batch cooked. I relaxed screen time rules. We did fewer baths and more quick showers. I made time for therapy. I instituted non-negotiable independent quiet time on weekends when they didn't nap. We read books about changing and feelings. It was FINE. You too shall be fine. It will be hard but you will do it. All will be well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tell-your-tale-surviving-through-transitions#post-2896707 Thu, 12 Sep 2019 09:18:47 +0000 graceandjoy 2896707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to read some uplifting stories haha. I know we'll all be okay and settle down at some point, as we've navigated DD1 through lots of transitions too. It's just now we transitioned both DD1 and DD2 to bunk beds, they both started kindergarten and preschool respectively, DD2 dropped naps, and I'm pregnant, so things are so chaotic in our house! </p> <p>My only light at the end of the tunnel is that they really SHOULD be fully settled into their new routines by the time baby brother comes. That's 5 months! They gotta be good in 5 months right :silly: </p>