https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 21:29:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-a-friend#post-196503 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 15:35:47 +0000 Shutterbug 196503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @chopsuey119 and @Jennimac... I think that even though it might be worse at first, maybe not hearing it directly from you will be the thing that makes her back off, which sounds like it's probably the best thing. </p> <p>I had a friend like that (drama magnet) and I realized that everything I was doing with her wasn't because I wanted to, it was all for fear of explosions and drama. Once she was out of my life (for the most part) everything was so much calmer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-a-friend#post-196475 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 15:22:35 +0000 cyneswith 196475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unless it is a super close friend or family member, I let people find out via facebook. Until you make it public, just let people know that it isn't yet public knowledge, and you should be fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-a-friend#post-196465 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 15:16:02 +0000 mrbee 196465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you split the difference and email her? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-a-friend#post-196464 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 15:15:57 +0000 singingbee 196464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @chopsuey119. Sometimes it's better to let those friends that have sort of drifted away stay away. I had a friend like that and I let her back into my life for a short time and it was so stressful. Every time something happened, I wanted to kick myself for getting her back in my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-a-friend#post-196463 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 15:15:35 +0000 MrsBrewer 196463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just let her find out when you make the big announcement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-a-friend#post-196457 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 15:13:37 +0000 chopsuey 196457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like she's not your friend anymore, so I don't see why you need to tell her..? You really don't need crazy, drama filled people like that in your life so I say let her hear it through the grapevine and if she's hurt, oh well. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-a-friend#post-196451 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 15:08:46 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 196451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a friend like that. She was my best friend but went crazy our freshman year of college (with boys and alcohol, not drugs though). Could you text her the news? That way you tell her but don't have to deal with the phone call. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-a-friend#post-196438 Wed, 20 Jun 2012 15:03:57 +0000 littlebug 196438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I need advice. I have this "friend" who I've had a troubled relationship with for years. We were best friends through high school and our first year of college, but then she got sick (anorexia) and developed a drug and alcohol problem. I tried for years to support and/or help her, but it ended up only causing me stress and heartache. I had to end the friendship for a while because it was too hard for me. Finally, she seemed to get back on the straight and narrow and so I slowly let her back into my life. But she has continued to be a kind of crappy friend and also a bit of a stalker. I invited her to be a bridesmaid in our wedding only out of obligation (I couldn't ask 3 of the other girls and NOT ask her, it would have caused all kinds of drama that I wasn't willing to deal with) and it still caused all kinds of drama. She didn't show up for my bachelorette party, and then in the weeks leading up to the wedding, she literally called/emailed/texted/fb'd me 2-3 times PER DAY. When I finally told her to stop, she started doing it to my sister, my MOH. It was out of control. After the wedding, I kind of stopped speaking to her because I was so annoyed with her behavior. I hardly talk to her anymore - I mostly ignore her phone calls (because she only ever calls when she's having some kind of crisis and "needs" me) and I never call her.</p> <p>Anyway, now that we're pregnant and getting ready to make our announcement in the next couple of weeks, I'm really feeling like I don't want to call her and tell her myself. But at the same time, I feel this obligation to because a) it will cause drama among our other friends and b) it will hurt her if I don't. But I really am having a hard time bringing myself to listening to her gush and be so over-the-top weird about it. I kind of feel like just letting her find out like most people will, through facebook or the good old gossip mill. </p> <p>Am I being absolutely horrible? Should I just suck up my annoyance and negative feelings and call her? </p>