https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 22:49:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc/page/2#post-18799 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 11:09:54 +0000 lemondrop 18799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No!<br /> I'm so glad that we didn't tell the world about it, because it took us the better part of a year to get things to work. It was hard enough keeping my husband up to date on where we were at this particular part of the month, it would have killed me to have anyone else asking on a regular basis.<br /> Not being successful around the holidays was hard. I am especially glad that I told my SIL, as we were in the same stages of life, and she was very supportive. I knew that I could trust her not to tell anyone else though. She just told me that if there was news she wanted to be the second to know, and she was eventually :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc/page/2#post-18101 Fri, 18 Nov 2011 19:13:56 +0000 jaguar 18101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mum knows, only because she can deflect any family related 'WHY AREN'T THEY HAVING KIDS YET?' questions - struggling with IF is rubbish, and I don't want that extra pressure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-18027 Fri, 18 Nov 2011 17:12:42 +0000 MH.Abroad 18027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't plan too, but we will tell them as soon as we get preggers because they have to plan their furloughs long in advance. If we don't give them enough notice, they won't be able to be in the country when we have the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-17969 Fri, 18 Nov 2011 15:58:47 +0000 Mrs. P 17969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my mom since she's been facing cancer and needed some encouragement for the future. My stepmom knows too since she had 6 MCs (before adopting her kids) and was an avid charter - she's helping me figure out mine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-17945 Fri, 18 Nov 2011 15:20:45 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 17945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone at all for the first six months or so, but now that its taking so long, we needed to tell a few people for support. I haven't told my dad or stepdad because I think they think we're too young, but my mom and sister know, as does DH's mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-17492 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 18:55:51 +0000 Running Elley 17492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our parents and siblings know. We didn't tell them at first but we told all of them when we MC the first time because we really needed their support. Since that happened they know that we're trying now but our parents know about the 2nd MC too so they do a good job at deflecting relatives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-17484 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 18:29:37 +0000 arielle9510 17484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my parents, because honestly they are my best friends and I tell them pretty much everything. We haven't told my husband's parents. I left that decision up to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-17468 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 17:49:57 +0000 mrskc 17468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone we were trying. We just got married and when people asked, we would say like five years down the road. We didn't want to feel any pressure. But now that I've had a miscarriage, it's pretty obvious that we're trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-17368 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 14:31:35 +0000 elouise 17368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We will not be telling anyone when we one day decide to TTC. I think it would make it weird and a topic of conversation- like all. the. time. Which would really stress me out. Even if it didn't come up, I would probably worry that it would because everyone would "know". Luckily we haven't had pressure from either side, so that that makes it a little easier too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-17223 Thu, 17 Nov 2011 10:41:02 +0000 Smurfette 17223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are stating in April and plan on not telling anyone that we are. My girlfriends (pretty much all have a baby(ies) or are pregnant) are trying to get it out of me. But I am trying to hold strong and not tell them. A couple girlfriends have had issues and I always felt bad when others when ask them are you pregnant yet? Trying to avoid it if I can. I have a feeling that it isn't going to be easy for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-17078 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 22:57:09 +0000 BabyBunny 17078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have told many people because we knew it would probably take us a long time. Our friends and family who know that we are TTC know not to pressure us because they know that I have PCOS/fertility issues. I share what I feel like sharing during any given cycle. Sometimes they ask, sometimes, they don't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16686 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 14:01:53 +0000 cyndistar3 16686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told a couple of really close friends, I would have felt really awkward telling my parents... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16638 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 13:13:49 +0000 HabesBabe 16638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone because I didn't want any more pressure from friends/family (we were one of the first to marry, didn't want to start trying for a couple of years). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16636 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 13:07:20 +0000 meaganceleste 16636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't told anyone we're TTC outside of a couple of my good friends. Our reasoning is that we didn't want to get anyone's hopes up or face the "So are you knocked up yet?" questions. Once we do get pregnant, we'll definitely tell our family before the rest of the world, but not until we know there's something for them to be excited about since most likely it would be the first grandbaby for both sides. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16520 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 10:23:43 +0000 carrieknitscake 16520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've told my parents and some of our friends. Telling our friends was a dumb idea since they seem to expect to you just be pregnant right now. Other friends know the struggle to conceive and are more understanding about it. </p> <p>I told my mom since she's the one who I can really cry about it with. She understands what I'm going through, so it's easier that way. We haven't told my inlaws because my MIL's super nosy. She'll find out when everyone else does with a future pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16512 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 10:15:46 +0000 Mrsbells 16512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We only told people after we were pregnant, the first person we told was my mom at 11 weeks. I think telling people that your TTC just adds pressure because they will keep asking about it and that will make you feel worse if you arent getting pregnant right away </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16490 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 09:42:54 +0000 mediagirl 16490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Mom has been pretty pushy about it so I just told her and everyone else who asks, "when are you having kids!??!" that we're not sure we are yet. That usually shuts them up for a while. Or a few minutes, in my Mom's case. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16489 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 09:41:32 +0000 sorrycharlie 16489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we aren't telling anyone - with the exception of my telling my best friend, and I know she'll keep it mum. we don't want to listen to unwanted criticisms or advice - re: buying a house, having a million in the bank, etc etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16481 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 09:36:29 +0000 twodoghouse 16481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have not told our parents. However, my older sister started TTC this summer and told my parents and our younger siblings. She did not tell me because apparently I have a big mouth? Ha, the joke's on her because I've managed to keep my own TTC secret for almost a year now. </p> <p>My really close friends sort of know we're TTC but we haven't talked about it in depth. Strangely, the only people who know we are really really trying are three girls that I work with. That's mostly just because one is trying, one is going to start trying soon and the other is already a mom. So I guess we're all sort of at that same point together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16475 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 09:29:53 +0000 MrsLMA 16475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom works in the reproductive health arena so, for me, telling her was a no-brainer since she willb e supportive and have good tips/advice. We told our cose friends and other family as well becuase we're excited and have no reason to think it will be a struggle. I'm hoping we don't regret the decison if it takes a while though:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16457 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 09:14:14 +0000 mrsjyw 16457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our parents, but we felt comfortable doing so because we are close to both sets and neither of them have really given us any pressure. They're really supportive and I'll take all of the moral support I can get through our TTC journey. I've also told a couple of my best friends about our plan to start in the new year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16446 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 08:56:45 +0000 Adira 16446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband told his mom that we were going to start trying next year, and when she asked me about it, I lied to her and told her we'd MAYBE try next year, haha. She already bugs me enough about having grandkids, I really don't want her up in my business all the time being like "Are you pregnant yet???"</p> <p>I'm not telling my family. I'd rather just surprise them with the news once we're actually pregnant.</p> <p>I <i>did</i> tell a few of my best girl friends though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16408 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 02:34:53 +0000 looch 16408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone, I didn't trust my MIL not to say anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16397 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 00:45:47 +0000 cyneswith 16397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dad points out that this way if I need support, it's easier if they already know. My mom's glad because this way she can deflect attention off my sister-in-law (my grandma keeps pestering her to have another baby, since they see each other fairly often - SIL doesn't want more. I live halfway across the country, so she never pesters me about it.) Also, I can be excited about babies when talking to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16390 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 23:59:46 +0000 jaguar 16390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mum knows, but that's it. She knew anyway, since she's always been aware of my medical history - so yeah, it wasn't a big surprise. I told her mainly so she could keep relatives at bay and not harass us about TTC stuff, because I don't think I could handle that during this IF period. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16376 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 23:16:37 +0000 twinmama 16376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell any family until we had been unsuccessful for about a year. But once we started getting treatment, we wanted family support. If we had to do it all over again, I think I'd still approach it the same way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16349 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 22:30:39 +0000 Boogs 16349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone until we were pregnant. We didn't want to have to deal with questions if things took a long time or didn't go well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16346 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 22:26:15 +0000 shellio 16346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell our parents, like others, didn't want the added pressure. I did talk about it with a few friends who were going through or had gone through the same thing (we tried for 18 mos) and DH told one friend who had tried for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16319 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 21:10:30 +0000 VanessaC15 16319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our families are already ask too much about if I'm pregnant yet, so we decided not to tell them we are actually TTC. We don't need even more pressure that they already put on us. Plus, I like the idea of it being a big surprise to everyone :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/telling-parents-about-ttc#post-16318 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 21:05:24 +0000 mynoahbear 16318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell just because we were both older and didn't know how long it would take to get pregnant. We just thought it would be less stressful and less pressure if we kept it to ourselves. </p>