https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 29 May 2026 16:09:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2508525 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 15:31:07 +0000 pastemoo 2508525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ksnow: :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2507356 Sat, 26 Mar 2016 23:39:37 +0000 ksnow 2507356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks all! They left today and we decided she'd stay home with us for lots of reasons listed above, esp those who remember being sent off! At the last minute she said she wanted to go with them but I think it was just typical sad they were leaving/don't think she really wanted to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2507345 Sat, 26 Mar 2016 22:48:09 +0000 Mrs. Bee 2507345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom sent me away when my brother was a month old (I was 15 months old so much younger) because he was so colicky and difficult.</p> <p>I would be fine with sending my 3 year old away if they were ok with it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2507344 Sat, 26 Mar 2016 22:44:47 +0000 MoonMoon 2507344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I could do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2507333 Sat, 26 Mar 2016 22:12:22 +0000 JCCovi 2507333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't want her to feel 'sent away'. Plus at this age every single day makes a difference towards getting to the 'new normal'. Probably better to keep her around and try to shower her with attention any chance you get. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2506105 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 19:45:28 +0000 pastemoo 2506105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ksnow: I'd ask my big kid, who would probably fall all over himself saying yes, and he would get super worked up about it... and then I'd send him. I would want him to feel like it was his idea in a way.<br /> So if/since she is resistant, I wouldn't do it. But if she thinks it sounds fun, keep talking about it till that day comes, and she;ll have a ball.</p> <p>Also, has she ever done that before? My son has spent a week away from me in the past, and will again in about a month, so he is a little more accustomed to it. The first time he was a month shy of 3 years old. Now he'll be a month shy of 4 years old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2506098 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 19:41:00 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2506098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not. Especially since she said she wanted to stay with you. That is far too long. Plus, not a good association that she leaves mommy and daddy as soon as new baby is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2506044 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 18:56:24 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2506044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's a pretty long time. If she was excited and wanted to go I would let her but I wouldn't push it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2506025 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 18:25:33 +0000 mrsjyw 2506025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't do it for such a long time and far away. My mom is local and took ds overnight a couple of times on separate occasions and ds was still so excited about going there and coming home. I think longer than that would've added to any normal stages of new sibling jealousy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2506022 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 18:22:01 +0000 regberadaisy 2506022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: exactly the same. That's a very long trip for a child. Especially so close to the birth of a sibling. And because you already asked and she wants to stay with you. I wouldn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2506015 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 18:18:37 +0000 NovBaby1112 2506015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's definitely a tempting offer!! But I agree with others, I would not do it now so close to baby being born....but def take them up on it in a few months!! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505942 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 16:50:21 +0000 Torchwood 2505942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was 13 when my sister was born and it still hurt my feelings that they didn't want me there for a few weeks. I would go with keeping her there unless she changes her mind and pushes to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505934 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 16:43:09 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2505934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a newborn and almost 2 ye old and my mom offered to take my son for the week when my daughter was born! I said no.. I'd rather have him here and adjust to the new normal.</p> <p>As others said since she is older and said she wants to stay of corse is habe her stay </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505929 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 16:40:15 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2505929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably wouldn't. It does should tempting but a little 3 year olds mind could really take that the wrong way with the new baby being here. Plus that would be too long for me for her to be away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505928 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 16:39:58 +0000 erinbaderin 2505928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't - not for that long, so soon after the new baby, and with no warning. Especially since she said she wanted to stay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505793 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 15:23:26 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2505793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: I agree! I might ask her one more time, MAYBE just to see what she says but ultimately because of the reasons you listed above and because she said she doesnt want to go, I wouldn't send her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505788 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 15:21:19 +0000 misolee 2505788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 3.5 and little bro was born about a month ago. She loves her grandparents and goes over to their home all the time. </p> <p>But a week after LO2 was born, she refused to go anywhere with her grandparents. I think she didn't want to be away from me with all the change and new baby, etc. I didn't push her on it bc she was probably feeling sad. </p> <p>Last weekend, she did however go sleep over for one night. I tried convincing her to stay home (husband was traveling) but she insisted on leaving. LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505750 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 14:59:18 +0000 snowjewelz 2505750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say no just b/c she said no. I'd respect her choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505742 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 14:56:34 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2505742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: +1<br /> While in obvious ways it helps in others I like the above mentioned I think it makes the transition worse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505730 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 14:46:07 +0000 rachiecakes 2505730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember being sent away when I was almost three and my brother was born.<br /> I wouldn't do it! :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505729 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 14:44:40 +0000 winniebee 2505729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't do it so close to the birth. She might feel as if she is getting "sent away." Also, your hormones might make you really miss her or be sad about her being gone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505728 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 14:43:22 +0000 LindsayLou 2505728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, I wouldn't do it so close to the birth of a new sibling. I think it would be better to get used to the new normal as soon as possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505727 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 14:42:57 +0000 ksnow 2505727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: Yeah this would be the longest I've been away from her, she's been there for 4-5 days before</p> <p>@birdofafeather: that's my concern too :meh: and she LOVES her baby brother, so I'm worried she'll be mad to go even though she always has fun there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505725 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 14:40:29 +0000 birdofafeather 2505725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't so close to the birth of a sibling because to me that would seem like new baby is here, DD1 is sent away. I would have no problem with it at a later date! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505720 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 14:37:06 +0000 runnerd 2505720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no prob sending my toddler for solo trips to the in-laws, but we haven't done more than 3-4 days. I don't think I could emotionally handle him leaving for that many days, but that's me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/tempting-offer-for-older-lo-with-a-newborn-would-you-do-it#post-2505711 Thu, 24 Mar 2016 14:32:07 +0000 ksnow 2505711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I just had DS a little over a week ago and DD is 3. So far she's been doing as good as could be expected, but of course it's a rough transition, so some acting out and definitely missing having all of mommy/daddy's attention. My parents have been visiting helping, and my husband's been off work. They'll be leaving this weekend, and DH will be going back to work next week as well. My parents offered to take DD with them back home for 11 days, at which point my mom is flying back for another visit anyway so would bring her home. </p> <p>She's spent lots of time with them, and has been there for a solo visit before. </p> <p>I'm not sure what to do! On one hand it would be very nice to have some time solo with new baby to adjust, feel better physically, deal with sleep deprivation by taking naps during the day...on the other hand I don't want to make DD feel abandoned/increase jealousy. I don't want her to feel like she's being sent away now that the baby's here! I know she'll get lots of attention there, but maybe she just should stay here and settle into a new normal even if limited mommy time?</p> <p>I asked her today and she said stay with mommy/baby.</p> <p>What would you do? </p>