https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Jul 2026 22:00:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrible-twos#post-1531343 Sat, 29 Mar 2014 11:29:42 +0000 Lindsay05 1531343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sammyfab: Yes, first/then works great too. As well as always with warnings of what they can expect. Oh yeah, when our toddler can fully run any app/game on an iPhone, we realized she is much smarter than we know and definitely smart enough to listen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrible-twos#post-1531341 Sat, 29 Mar 2014 11:24:56 +0000 Sammyfab 1531341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We give choices as well.</p> <p>We also do a lot of First / Then, e.g. First you need to put on your jammies, then you can go read books. </p> <p>We really prep transitions (5-minute, 2-minute, 1-minute warnings) so he knows what to expect next.</p> <p>I find that toddlers understand quite a bit and if we can get down to his level and explain things to him then we can circumvent tantrums more easily. I think it was from NurtureShock (or some other book) where it says to speak to you child as if you were the CEO of a company so you remain level-headed and rational. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrible-twos#post-1531301 Sat, 29 Mar 2014 10:37:34 +0000 Lindsay05 1531301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 21 months we have gotten better at reading her. Like PP said, offer two choices. Also try and be as consistent as possible. It has helped now that she can finally communicate what she wants. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrible-twos#post-1531248 Sat, 29 Mar 2014 09:59:53 +0000 Mrs. Bum 1531248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: lol...that was great. Too bad I'm pregnant or I'd have a glass of wine in my own sippy cup </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrible-twos#post-1530444 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 16:33:08 +0000 Freckles 1530444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: +1...i've been doing all of those things and it definitely helps. The other day LO was yelling for blue socks and guess who was out of blue socks?? So i gave her two choices, she picked one and got over the fact that there were no friggin blue socks.</p> <p>One day at a time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrible-twos#post-1530435 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 16:28:59 +0000 plantains 1530435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: oh yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrible-twos#post-1530422 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 16:24:27 +0000 mrsjazz 1530422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: Seriously. LO had the worst tantrum EVER on Sunday because she wouldn't go down for a nap and was super tired 2 hours before bedtime. I took her out for a walk so I could buy a beer and bacon! </p> <p>@Cchoi4: gave a more productive response though. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrible-twos#post-1530408 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 16:21:47 +0000 Kemma 1530408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: I just snorted and nodded my head </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrible-twos#post-1530402 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 16:19:00 +0000 mrsjazz 1530402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I drink. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrible-twos#post-1530397 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 16:18:14 +0000 Cchoi4 1530397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ugh, one day at a time. DS is almost 3 and I think I noticed behavior changes since 18 months. Preschool helped a lot with channeling his energy and also positively directing his independence. Other than that, I would say take it slowly with patience, choose your battles, and remind yourself that (s)he is just a child figuring out his own emotions/independence/boundaries and it is not malicious (even though sometimes you feel otherwise).</p> <p>A couple of tips-<br /> -offer something between two choices (not endless choices). That way they feel empowered but it is manageable for you and doesn't take forever for them to choose.</p> <p>-acknowledge their feelings when they are about to melt down or during a meltdown. "i know you feel sad/frustrated about this. Mommy knows. But we should do this because..."</p> <p>-Ask things nicely and with a smile. Sometimes this works for us, sometimes it doesn't. But it is certainly better than a stern face all the time.</p> <p>-Try to be as consistent about consequences as possible.</p> <p>-Remember it will pass! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrible-twos#post-1530374 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 16:12:18 +0000 Mrs. Bum 1530374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lord help me. My lo is 21 months and terrible twos is in full swing. I'm also 8 months pregnant ha so I'm pulling my hair out. How did you handle this magical time. ..?! </p>