https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 17:22:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321633 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 23:54:56 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1321633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: Maybe you could call and just speak to someone on staff? I agree, also, about maybe trying to find a doula who could work with you. My second C/S was a HBAC transfer, and my midwife was able to come with us, and was even allowed in the OR with my husband and myself. She was really helpful in keeping me calm because she didn't share my feelings the way my husband did. Of course he was sad and worried, seeing me sad and worried; but she was able to help me feel more peaceful about everything. And, honestly, I wasn't really scared of the surgery the second time around-- I was more scared of getting the IV and the needle-related stuff. But it all went just fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321595 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 23:04:09 +0000 lilteacherbee 1321595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a similar experience to @Mamasig:. My son was LGA and because I had gestational diabetes, they were going to induce at 39 weeks. We decided to do a planned c-section because we thought that was a better option than a possible emergency c-section in my case.</p> <p>I've had major surgeries before, so maybe that's why I wasn't too scared. The spinal tap was the worst part for me. I was more worried about getting my baby out safely (even with the c-section, he ended up having to be vacuumed). Recovery wasn't as bad as I expected. By 3 weeks pp, I felt pretty much back to normal. I'm now 7 weeks pp and have no issues.</p> <p>They were able to give me some meds right before surgery for anxiety (the anticipation of the spinal tap had me freaking out a bit) and I BF afterwards with no problems. I'm sure if you talk to your doctors, they will be very understanding and do what they can to help if you end up needing a c-section! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321552 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 22:32:09 +0000 Aimed 1321552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely agree with the others to speak to your ob about your anxiety, I think that would help.<br /> I didn't take anything for the anxiety, the doctors were so great and reassuring and my husband was there so that all helped.<br /> I think focusing on the outcome is the way to look at it, you likely will not have a c section, but if you do it is in your and your baby's best interest.<br /> As far as bfing is concerned, I didn't bf but that really didn't have much to do with having a c section. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321511 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 22:06:32 +0000 indi 1321511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: Agreed. Making my contingency plan sure helped a lot to ease my mind about how I'll deal with it if we need to go that route.</p> <p>@littleblessings: Definitely talk to your OB when you can, but maybe look into a therapist or a good doula, too. Your anxiety re: the possibility of a c-section could hinder your progression of a vaginal delivery if you let it get you too tensed up. While it's not the alternative you want at all, I do think that talking through the full procedure and making plans for before/during/after with your OB will help you address your fears. *big hugs!* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321489 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 21:52:35 +0000 Mamasig 1321489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry the thought a c section scares you so much. I've never had a vaginal birth and only a c section, so I can only speak for my experience. I was not against c sections and really just wanted a healthy baby and mama at the end. I didn't care how we got there. The thought of a vaginal birth and possible complications scared me more than surgery.</p> <p>Plus, if you had a successful vaginal delivery once, I'm sure you will again.</p> <p>I had a scheduled C section with my son because of his size. Honestly, it was not bad AT ALL. The day of the section, there was excitement and a sense of calm. Yes, the anesthesia is probably the worst part but I think it was more the anticipation and not the actual act. </p> <p>During the section, I felt some tugging, pulling, and pressure but no pain. The recovery was good. I made sure to move as soon as I could and stayed on top of my pain meds. I felt a little tugging at the incision for a couple of months but it was gone by the time I returned to work at 12 weeks.</p> <p>I'm pregnant with my second and plan to have a c section again. Not all c section experiences are bad and I hope this maybe calmed your fears a little. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321479 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 21:41:56 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1321479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe try and hire a doula to keep you calm through delivery, and help it to go smoothly (trying to avoid a c-cection). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321434 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 21:18:56 +0000 travelgirl1 1321434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: Aw don't worry! You totally might not need one! That said, if you do, I had a FABULOUS C-section experience. Loved it!</p> <p>What is it like? Super convenient! You get given a date and time so you can plan exactly when you're having you're baby. Not at all tiring, but it is painful when the meds wear off.<br /> How does it feel? I didn't really fell anything. I was a bit scared going in, and I didn't like them putting the spinal in because LO was breech so her head position made it hard to breathe when I leaned over but that was the worst bit. I made sure they were aware I get nauseous easily, so they kept an eye on that, and other than that it was kind of fun waiting for LO to be born and once she was born it was magical, she was laid on my chest and we just got to know each other while they stitched me up!<br /> How long is the healing process? They say six weeks not to lift anything heavier than LO. I found the first two weeks difficult in terms of sitting up in bed, walking any distance but after that I was fine.<br /> If you have had a vaginal delivery and a c-section which did you like more? N/A </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321428 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 21:16:03 +0000 Katrocap 1321428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a planned c-section a year ago yesterday. Like you, I was terrified thinking about it. Absolutely petrified. But, like as @mrs.twine said, the worst part was the anesthesia. My reaction to the epidural was awful. But the actual procedure was honestly no big deal. I would not have believed that if someone had told me that ahead of time, but it's true. Immediately afterwards I was shaking uncontrollably for about 30 minutes. That was unpleasant. But the recovery was not bad. My stomach was sore when I laughed or sneezed for a few weeks.</p> <p>Given the choice of vbac or c-section next time, I'd go with c-section. It was so quick. Based on what you wrote it seems unlikely you will need a c-section, however, if you do, trust that you will be okay. You WILL be okay. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321403 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:59:57 +0000 Silva 1321403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should talk to your doctor about your fears. A good doctor will help calm you, and if there is a situation in which you need a c section, he / she can make recommendations to help you get through it. Your level of fear should be brought up with your doctor.</p> <p>I was really scared of a c section, too. I ended up with a great vaginal delivery. But I will say that on the other side of it, having met my baby and knowing what I could have lost, I'm no longer scared of a c section next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321398 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:56:55 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1321398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i had a c-section with charlie and a vbac with olive. honestly my c-section experience was great! even better than my vbac in many ways... the recovery with my vbac was a lot harder on me.</p> <p>once you get to the point of labor, the most important thing for me was to deliver a healthy baby. i did not prepare for a c-section at all, but it was not scary at all, and i don't really have any regrets.</p> <p>i'm sure you will be ok! :happy: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321388 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:52:47 +0000 singingbee 1321388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What is it like? I don't know that I could describe it, but it's not horrible.<br /> How does it feel? You feel some pressure, but not pain.<br /> How long is the healing process? I couldn't lift stuff because of the restriction they give everyone, but I was feeling normal by 3-4 weeks.<br /> If you have had a vaginal delivery and a c-section which did you like more? I have had both. My vaginal birth was with our daughter that we lost at 20 weeks, so it wasn't even a full term birth and I greatly preferred my c-section with our second. I had to have one because she was breech and now that I've had one, my next ones will have to be c-section. I wouldn't have it any other way. </p> <p>Good luck and don't worry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321357 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:40:12 +0000 artsyfartsy 1321357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Twine: Agreed! I'm terrified of a c-section also. I am definitely more scared of a c-section than a pain-med free vaginal birth. I broke down and finally researched c sections and made choices and preferences and included them in my birth plan and it really calmed my nerves.</p> <p>I still DO NOT want a c section, but if it comes down to it I feel like I will feel okay about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321346 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:35:45 +0000 littleblessings 1321346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Twine: I was going to talk to the OB at my appointment tomorrow but the weather is so bad that we are now in a state of emergency. Hoping I can still make it because I am freaking out so bad. I just wanna throw up and cry </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321341 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:33:48 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1321341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe it would help you to have a plan in place if you end up needing it? I don't think there's any reason to assume you won't have another vaginal birth, but maybe talking to your care provider about your feelings and knowing what's going to happen and how they are going to do things (including having some options available to help with the anxiety) would make you feel better? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321340 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:33:34 +0000 littleblessings 1321340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: good to know that you didnt need one after all.</p> <p>@T.H.O.U.: yeah if c-section is needed ill need anxiety meds. i feel like i need them now. lol</p> <p>@Aimed: did you take anything for anxiety? Did you BF?</p> <p>@avivoca: well if they highly suggest it I will have to have it. I labored really long with DD so if its suggested Im going with what they say.</p> <p>@Mrs. Twine: Did you take anxiety meds? Did you BF? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321321 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:26:16 +0000 littleblessings 1321321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: ill definitely need something for anxiety. im crying just thinking about it. its not even for sure if ill need it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321310 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:22:24 +0000 MamaMoose 1321310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: I would just ask for something to take the edge off your anxiety if you need it. But I wouldn't want to miss the birth of my child! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321302 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:20:19 +0000 littleblessings 1321302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: thank you for the reference.</p> <p>@MamaMoose: would it be bad to ask to be put under for the procedure? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321301 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:20:17 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1321301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Deep breath. It'll be okay. I've had two C-Sections now, and before my first, I was as terrified as you (if not more). To the point that I wouldn't even read the sections in my birth books about C-Sections. I was convinced that my guts would just spill out all over the ground like in some awful torture scene.</p> <p>First, if you had a vaginal birth with your first, I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's possible that you might need a C-Section for some reason, but the chances aren't that high. </p> <p>Second, it's not that bad. For both of mine, the worst part was the anesthesia. I am totally needle phobic. But even that wasn't bad. It didn't really hurt hardly at all, and other than feeling nervous, there wasn't much to it. The actual surgery feels about like someone poking at you if your arm or leg is numb. It doesn't hurt. You will feel some touching and pressure, but nothing that even remotely approaches pain.</p> <p>Recovery can be uncomfortable, but don't be scared to get up and move around. I was the first time, and it delayed my recovery. They took out the staples on day two and put on steri-strips. My thought was, "You are going to hold my innards together with glorified tape?! I am not walking anywhere!!" But it is okay to walk. Everything will stay where it is supposed to, and you'll feel better faster. Take the pain medication you are given if you need it. You WILL be uncomfortable, but it's not horrific pain by any means. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321294 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:18:12 +0000 avivoca 1321294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: I would try not to freak out. A healthy mom and a healthy baby are what is most important. That being said, they cannot force you to have a c-section because they think baby will be big. I second what @dandelion: said, as that thread has tons of great information. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321291 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:17:05 +0000 Aimed 1321291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As @MamaMoose: said, they are not related biologically to you so it has no bearing on you whatsoever. Plus you already had a vaginal birth so it likely won't be an issue.<br /> Everyone in my own biological family had Caesarians, my mom, my sister for both hers and even my first cousin with hers. I just assumed that I wouldn't need one for some reason as my pregnancy was so smooth but lo and behold I ended up having one. I was so upset, felt that I should have done more,<br /> Labored longer etc but it turned out I have a weird shaped pelvis and so I am unlikely to have a vaginal birth.<br /> Honestly, it is scary, it's major surgery, but it's only done in cases where it is best for you and baby and at that point, you won't care, you'll just want a safe outcome. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321287 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:16:04 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1321287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In addition to pain meds (epidural) they also should be able to give you some narcotics to help with the anxiety and kinda make you sleepy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321282 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:14:27 +0000 sorrycharlie 1321282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: I was terrified of a c-section too. Surprising for me, it's definitely not one of the normal anxiety-provoking things for me..but I would go into a cold sweat, breathing would pick up, etc. when I thought about it. That said, though, anyone I talked to that had one said it truly is not as bad as I thought it would be. I did not end up having to have one but I took some comfort in that. Many people even said it was easier than a vaginal delivery (depending on the circumstances surrounding it!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321271 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:11:23 +0000 littleblessings 1321271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: The baby keeps flip flopping which way he wants to be. Dr. said a C-section is definitely possible that and I have a small frame. I was told this baby is bigger than DD. I almost had emergency C-section with her. </p> <p>@sorrycharlie: I hope im lucky and get to have a vaginal delivery. If I don't they might have to knock me out for me to be okay with everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321263 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:07:46 +0000 MamaMoose 1321263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well since you aren't related to their family their experience has no bearing on you. So don't let your MIL upset you. Since you've already had a successful vaginal birth there is no reason to believe you won't have another one. If the worst happens and you end up needing a c section unexpectedly just remember, healthy baby and healthy mama is what matters most! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321262 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:07:29 +0000 Dandelion 1321262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questions-about-cesarean-section" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questions-about-cesarean-section</a></p> <p>Lots of questions answered here! I'm having one in March. I can tell you that there are worse things than csections. Healthy baby is number one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321260 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:06:33 +0000 sorrycharlie 1321260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did not have a c-section, but do not freak! It doesn't mean you will just because his family did. My MIL delivered all 3 of her kids via c-section, and both of her grandchildren (my nephew and my daughter) were delivered vaginally. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321259 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:06:29 +0000 swedishfish 1321259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Try not to worry about what might be. You've already had a vaginal birth. Are there any indications you might have to have a c-section? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/terrified#post-1321254 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 20:04:11 +0000 littleblessings 1321254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay so my mother in law just informed me that everyone in DH family has had to give birth via C-section. I am terrified of it. Like the very thought makes me wanna vomit. I know tons of people have gone through it but the very idea of being cut open while awake is freaking me out. I am legit crying. I had a vaginal birth with DD and they mentioned C-section during labor and every time they did I passed out. </p> <p>What is it like?<br /> How does it feel?<br /> How long is the healing process?<br /> If you have had a vaginal delivery and a c-section which did you like more? </p> <p>Idk Im due in February and now have cold feet about everything. Please help. Any advice would be greatly appreciated too </p>