https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 10:34:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse/page/2#post-1903965 Thu, 16 Oct 2014 17:18:33 +0000 Maysprout 1903965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH was my work spouse (while we were dating other people) and now he's my husband. So neither one of us are going to have anymore work spouses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse/page/2#post-1903953 Thu, 16 Oct 2014 17:03:14 +0000 travellingbee 1903953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Leah: I feel the same way. And I trust DH implicitly. We both have friends of the opposite gender. But I know I wouldn't be okay with him spending all day every day with somebody that he was that close to. Doesn't matter-- in our particular professions we only work pretty much with people of the same gender as ourselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse/page/2#post-1903935 Thu, 16 Oct 2014 16:39:55 +0000 Boheme 1903935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither of us do. Neither of us work in fields where it is advantageous or encouraged to foster close relationships with coworkers. It will come back and bite you in the ass, guaranteed :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse/page/2#post-1903647 Thu, 16 Oct 2014 13:58:09 +0000 LuLu Mom 1903647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Dh doesn't have anyone but I wish he did (male or female) I had 2 work wives, and they both left me within a few months of each other, it's been rough for me ever since. </p> <p>And for the record, I have no issues with the phrase "work wife/husband" it's very common here and it never implied cheating to me. It's just a bond with someone else in a field you both are familiar with, it could be the same or opposite gender in my mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse/page/2#post-1903629 Thu, 16 Oct 2014 13:52:18 +0000 yoursilverlining 1903629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Guys are definitely the best to live with. I only had 1 female roommate (plus dorm living on an all-girls floor); the rest were men. If I ever had to live with roommates again, I'd definitely live with dudes. </p> <p>I don’t have a work husband, but I’ve only been here a year so I’ve got time to find one. They definitely seem pretty popular in my office; I see lots of “work spouse” pairs who take coffee breaks together, eat lunch together, etc. and are happily married to other people. I don’t think it’s a big deal. I trust myself and my husband. Friends can be friends, regardless of gender. </p> <p>My husband had a work spouse, but they have different schedules now so they don’t see each other as often as they used to, which is sad since they are good friends. They would go to lunch or grab happy-hour drinks and talk about work. I think it was especially healthy and good for him because bringing his work issues/questions to me does nothing – besides being a soundboard and support system, I can’t really help, I’m not an expert in his field so what I can offer is honestly minimal. She however, is an expert and can bring really solid, constructive advice to the table. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse/page/2#post-1903610 Thu, 16 Oct 2014 13:42:52 +0000 Orchid 1903610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I'd like to be cool and say I don't mind at all, but honestly, I'm a bit leery of married folk having close friendships with members of the opposite sex. I think it can open the door to inappropriate things and maybe even cheating. I am my husband's opposite sex BFF and I don't see why he would need to confide in another. We talk a lot about his job and colleagues even though we're in wildly different fields. Familiarity breeds liking. Why take the chance, especially in the demanding high pressure field my husband works in, I'm glad that he has never had close friendships with other women! What can I say? I'm a little on the possessive side! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse/page/2#post-1902499 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 18:32:39 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1902499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: I've been told opposite sex roommates are the best kind. My mom had a guy roommate in college. I lived with a girl and she was always in my closet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse/page/2#post-1902495 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 18:26:04 +0000 Synchronicity 1902495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Work mom, fine. Work wife, uhh no thank you! I would hope he takes a hard pass on that one :P DH works with another man all day, so I guess if anything he would have a work husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse/page/2#post-1902494 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 18:25:44 +0000 dc yoga bee 1902494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Yep, DH has several close friends that are female, including his former roommate (and they lived together while we were dating) was a female. They don't refer to each other as "spouse/wifey/hubby" though :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse/page/2#post-1902485 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 18:18:17 +0000 BandDmommy 1902485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: For me, personally, I think it's a fine line. Luckily DH and I do the same thing, so he comes to me with issues/concerns/etc. He has a male mentor in his boss and they do things like happy hour, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1902476 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 18:08:08 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1902476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: I can get behind that terminology!<br /> @catomd00: my work hubby/ work bro and I were friends at work and outside of work. My husband's work spouse/ sis is strictly work related. I may even be projecting some of my warm &amp; fuzzies on her/ them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1902474 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 18:04:50 +0000 youboots 1902474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha, he works from home (so do I) so I'm his work spouse. His corporate headquarters are in New York. He has been in his industry for almost 10 years and has always worked from home so I can keep up with him well enough to suppourt him. I also help him plan his travel schedule. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1902470 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 18:00:20 +0000 catomd00 1902470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I find the whole work spouse concept very odd, but not because it's a close relationship with a member of the opposite sex. I guess just because I like to keep my professional and private lives separate and have never worked in an environment where these kind of relationships existed. I am totally fine with my husband having close friends of the opposite sex. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1902421 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 17:00:00 +0000 simplyfelicity 1902421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband had a work "sister" but not a work "wife." I understand it's not meant to be romantic but it would probably make me a little but uncomfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1902416 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 16:52:49 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1902416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: @Leah: @BandDmommy: @lawbee11: without referring to the opposite sex co-worker as "work spouse" are you all comfortable with your SO's having a close friendship with their opposite sex co-worker? The friendship could just be a really good working relationship; not hanging out after work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1902392 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 16:24:48 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1902392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: DH totally has a work mom! She makes him stop to eat lunch even when he's busy :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1902379 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 16:03:31 +0000 Orchid 1902379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess we're pretty old fashioned but neither my DH or I would be ok with each other calling someone else our work wife/husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1902059 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 13:09:03 +0000 BandDmommy 1902059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: My thoughts exactly! I've seen way too many affairs to want my DH to have a work wife. DH goes to happy hour with his boss (male) every once in awhile but that's about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1902053 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 13:05:53 +0000 lawbee11 1902053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Considering how many relationships/affairs start at work, I probably wouldn't be too cool (let alone grateful) with my DH having a work wife! I definitely don't have a work husband...my closest co-workers are all females. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1902051 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 13:03:57 +0000 dc yoga bee 1902051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What the?!?! Never heard of this before. We also both work in very conservative offices. Throw that term around here and you're looking at a grievance of some sort. The only husband I have is the one I took vows with. And DH works in a pretty much all male office. So, I hope he doesn't have a work spouse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1902038 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 12:58:58 +0000 Adira 1902038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Little Misters Mom: I'm with you. I don't like the term "work wife/husband." Seems weird to me!</p> <p>@blackbird: Totally hear you on being surrounded by men! I go out with one my coworkers all the time (we walk to Dunks and back), but I just call him my mentor of my coworker or my friend. We talk about everything, both work and personal life, but it would be so weird for me to refer to him as my work husband! I don't think he, his wife, or my husband would appreciate that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1901976 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 12:25:31 +0000 CakeLady 1901976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never thought of her as a work wife before, but I guess she is and I am so thankful for her! She helps keep DH sane at work and she has become one of my best friends. DH and I are actually taking a weekend trip with her and her real life husband soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1901954 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 12:12:25 +0000 mrs. wagon 1901954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think Wagon Sr. has a work wife. He kinda has a work mom...?? his finance manager is a woman almost his mom's age and she is the sweetest. Even though he's her boss, she gives him advice and sort of takes cares of him. He and his boss are like BFFs though... I guess they are work bros? haha</p> <p>ETA: I wouldn't do well with him having a work wife. He wouldn't either if I had a work husband. We're too jealous! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1901935 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 12:01:45 +0000 MrsSCB 1901935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Ugh, I had a coworker whose GF would call constantly when he had to work late (which was fairly often in our business). Like to make sure he was at work or whatever. Which he clearly was. We would get so annoyed because he'd always answer and we'd have to listen to him reassuring her and it would waste time. If you're concerned you're SO is lying about where he is, that's an issue you should deal with. Don't just call a million times to check up on him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1901898 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 11:52:59 +0000 PrincessBaby 1901898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like the term work wife or work husband or work spouse. I think it would be disrespectful to my husband for me to call someone that. Even jokingly, that just doesn't feel right and it doesn't sound like a "cute" term to me. My husband would never call someone that, either. I have a male coworker who is my direct counterpart and we have to coordinate everything and so we communicate a lot, but it would not enter my mind to call him that bc I think it would be disrespectful to his wife and my husband. Dude is just called my coworker, nothing more nothing less.</p> <p>So no. I wouldn't be grateful for any type of work spouse! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1901884 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 11:45:36 +0000 blackbird 1901884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: no he wasn't around and he left his phone on volume and we all got tired of it ringing over and over. She thought he was ignoring her </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1901781 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 10:59:44 +0000 blackbird 1901781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs.shinerbock: seriously. If some reacts that hard to a boss or employee calling about work stuff, there's more going on. Sometimes I take calls in the off hours-always from men. It's always work related and DH knows that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1901780 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 10:59:37 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1901780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: wait, what...your co-worker let someone else answer his phone? He needed to man up &amp; set his wife straight not his manager. </p> <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: ha ha, mine is the same way...just embrace it already b/c I do!</p> <p>@mrs.shinerbock: Dang!!! That's ridiculous. There has to be underlying issues in a relationship or one person in a relationship that simply cannot deal with their SO having opposite sex spouses or bosses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1901763 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 10:51:26 +0000 cascademom 1901763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH doesn't have a work spouse. He's close with his coworkers though. There was a recent shakeup at his office. One of his coworkers texted him if he wanted to talk about it as the coworker was away on vacation. The coworker is generally surly and rough around the edges, but cares about my DH, so that means a lot to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thankful-for-sos-work-spouse#post-1901686 Wed, 15 Oct 2014 10:00:33 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1901686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I've been the manager who "got an employee into trouble with his wife" because I called his cell phone to ask him to come into work early because someone had called in sick. It caused a ridiculous amount of drama and I finally had to explain to my employee that he needed to deal with it or find another position because I was going to need to call him on occassion. </p>