https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 20:33:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346170 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:26:25 +0000 Raindrop 2346170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlecasita1122: If he's the only guest is that okay? I guess DH and I can put our phones in the basket too.</p> <p>@youboots: When it comes to dealing with my BIL my DH drags his feet. I'll ask but I doubt he will say anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346165 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:24:21 +0000 Raindrop 2346165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Haha. I wish! I don't think so though. I haven't talked to DH about this but I'm pretty sure he wants his brother to be invited. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346142 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:16:27 +0000 Foodnerd81 2346142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: hmmm. If your not actually "hosting" I'm not sure you are totally obligated to invite him... What does your dh think? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346131 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:12:50 +0000 Raindrop 2346131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: It's actually just DH, me and the kids.</p> <p>My parents and brother go to an uncle's house for thanksgiving. </p> <p>DH has no other family in the area except BIL... and so BIL doesn't have any other family here either but us.</p> <p>Last year when he was living with us... he basically rolled out of bed, came upstairs... ate a bunch of food... while on his phone and left to do something with friends. He didn't even say anything nice the whole time! Sorry venting... I just think this will happen again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346128 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:11:33 +0000 youboots 2346128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe a little heart to heart with you DH more than 'rules' like hey man we would love to have you over could you please..... Enter two things here. Not that whole list. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346127 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:11:28 +0000 Foodnerd81 2346127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you hosting other people too or just you, husband, kids? I think if you are hosting thanksgiving, you kind of have to invite local family. It sucks that he is like a lame teenager, but I'd just suck it up. But maybe when you tell him when to come, be specific about what time you are eating and let him know you can't wait for him because of the kids schedules, and stick to it. </p> <p>As for the phone, eh. It's really rude but I probably would ignore it, ask him to turn the sound off but otherwise just move on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346120 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:09:06 +0000 littlecasita1122 2346120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really think you can get away with offering an invite with rules attached. Maybe when everyone arrives, you can have a note with a basket on a table the says something like "please leave your phone in here and enjoy spending time with family today" - I'm sure you can find a good saying on Pinterest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346119 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:07:59 +0000 Raindrop 2346119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: You do have a point. We normally don't watch football on Thanksgiving but it is a very common thing to do. </p> <p>I think I'm just trying to find an excuse not to have him there! :) I don't like him anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346113 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:05:53 +0000 hilsy85 2346113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: football on thanksgiving is kind of a given for my DH, so I would suggest having the tv on but muted so he could still watch, but I get that might not be acceptable to you...your house, your rules, so if the noise is disturbing I thikn you're within your rights to ask him to mute his phone or use headphones, especially at a home where people are trying to have conversations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346107 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:03:25 +0000 Raindrop 2346107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Actually the phone thing really bothers me. We were having dinner with him once... we were at a restaurant and he was watching a football game while trying to scarf down food.</p> <p>Sometimes I think why does he even bother coming to dinner with us if he's going to be on his phone the whole time?</p> <p>I'm guessing for the free food. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346095 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 19:55:07 +0000 hilsy85 2346095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh I probably wouldn't. if I didn't like him, then I would be happy that he is on his phone and having less interaction with me! I would just try to let it go for one day. Although I think you could ask fro a side dish if you wanted one (although it sounds like he might not bring one/a good one?). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thanksgiving-invite-question#post-2346094 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 19:53:33 +0000 Raindrop 2346094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off I want to say I really don’t want to invite my BIL to Thanksgiving. Though I think I have to since he lives nearby and his only other choice is going to his parents that are 6 hours away.</p> <p>The reason I don’t want to invite him is because I really don’t like him. I have tried time and time again to like him and we invite him to things but he always shows up late and is on his phone all the time even when we ask him not to be on his phone. He’s not a teenager mind you, he’s an adult in his 30s. He basically acts like a teenager though.</p> <p>I’m thinking with the invite I’m going to attach some rules. Example : Come on time. Dress fairly nicely. Bring a side dish. Can’t be on your phone the whole time. Interact with the kids. Say nice things. Don’t be sarcastic.</p> <p>When thinking about this… I’m pausing. Is it bad to give rules for coming to Thanksgiving? What would you do? </p>