Hellobee Boards Topic: The 5 stages of grief during Infertility

Hellobee Boards Topic: The 5 stages of grief during Infertility https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 10:48:39 +0000 jaguar on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1971423 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 18:38:26 +0000 jaguar 1971423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pinata: Thank you for that article. It's wonderful. @Sunshine1810: YES! I was totally fine with IF, accepting that's what we need to get pregnant.... and now I'm back in a dark place. BSB on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1971300 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 16:41:27 +0000 BSB 1971300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pinata: Yup, you nailed it. That's how I feel. I accepted that I have IF, but I don't know if I will ever be okay with it. Sunshine1810 on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1970988 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 14:19:52 +0000 Sunshine1810 1970988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @jaguar: I feel like the miscarriage definitely did bring up more of the depression, and I have felt some anger too recently. *hugs* @Mrs. Pinata: Yes, it really is constant limbo. FliegepilzHut on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1969998 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:35:42 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1969998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pinata: Yeah...I've made up my mind on this one. I'd like to raise one or more kids *#@! it!!! :bummed: Mrs. Pinata on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1969975 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:22:16 +0000 Mrs. Pinata 1969975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @FliegepilzHut: Yes, agreed! I can reach acceptance that we're having issues, but it will take a LONG time for me to "accept" not ever getting pregnant! I'm definitely not there yet and can't imagine being there. :/ FliegepilzHut on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1969972 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:19:58 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1969972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pinata: That's a great article. Thank you for sharing! :heart: I feel that it validates my feeling that while I've reached a point of acceptance (of the fact that we are having difficulties), I'm unfortunately vacillating between bargaining, depression, and, rarely, anger, depending on where I feel I am in terms of resolving this existential crisis. :meh: Mrs. Pinata on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1969966 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:13:31 +0000 Mrs. Pinata 1969966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Leialou: Yes! Totally!! Hugs! Mrs. Pickle on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1969965 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:12:40 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1969965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pinata: limbo is a great way to describe it. My life feels so unsettled. Mrs. Pinata on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1969956 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:02:23 +0000 Mrs. Pinata 1969956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ So... I just read (and shared on FB) this article about dealing with the trauma with infertility. I think that it's really affirming that until you have resolved your infertility you're just in total limbo all the time. :/ Even after having our sweet boy (who I wouldn't trade for anything!) until our family is complete I won't feel like I will be at 100% acceptance and ability to move on. <a href="http://blogs.psychcentral.com/after-trauma/2014/11/infertility-is-trauma-physical-and-emotional/" rel="nofollow">http://blogs.psychcentral.com/after-trauma/2014/11/infertility-is-trauma-physical-and-emotional/</a> winter_wonder on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1968478 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 22:01:40 +0000 winter_wonder 1968478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Anger jaguar on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1968327 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 19:52:49 +0000 jaguar 1968327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was at acceptance before the miscarriages. Now I'm back between anger/depression. Mrs. Pickle on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1968126 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 17:07:33 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1968126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm at acceptance. It's just a part of my life. Sometimes I slip back into depression. alohaorchid on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1967978 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 15:53:35 +0000 alohaorchid 1967978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm definitely at acceptance. I know I've already said this but I feel at peace and no longer feel angry or sad at our IF diagnosis. Sunshine1810 on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1967959 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 15:39:58 +0000 Sunshine1810 1967959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I never ever thought I would be here, but I think that I am finally at acceptance. It definitely took me 3 years to get to this place though. I definitely still go through periods of anger/depression (especially after IVF 1 failed, and my m/c after IVF #2), but I am in a much different place than I was a couple years ago. PurplePumps on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1967076 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 09:51:39 +0000 PurplePumps 1967076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think anger, bargaining, and acceptance for me. I am the type of person that holds on to a grudge, so I will always be angry about having to go through all this to get pregnant. I was a bit unsure of what bargaining really meant, but if it means I'm stubborn and will do anything, then that's me. And acceptance, as in this is life and I will deal, then yeah, I've accepted this as a part of how my life is. LindsayInNY on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1966938 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 08:21:46 +0000 LindsayInNY 1966938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I balanced between anger, bargaining and acceptance - depending on where I was in a cycle, treatment, etc. Hoots on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1966927 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 08:12:23 +0000 Hoots 1966927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think I fluctuate between anger, bargaining, and depression. I'm not sure I'll ever make it to acceptance. ineebee on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1966914 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 07:49:19 +0000 ineebee 1966914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The article helps to validate my feelings about my infertility... a lot of times I felt like people never took the diagnosis as seriously as I did, and it made me wonder if I was overreacting. I'm sure there was some overreaction involved, but if it was a big deal to me, it's a big deal, dammit! As for applying the five stages, considering the fact that there are often (not always) more treatments you could try, it's pretty hard to get to the "acceptance" stage. I don't think I ever did. I fluctuated between bargaining and depression, I think. :( BSB on "The 5 stages of grief during Infertility" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-i-fertility#post-1966820 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 01:35:00 +0000 BSB 1966820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <a href="http://infertility.answers.com/coping/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-infertility" rel="nofollow">http://infertility.answers.com/coping/the-5-stages-of-grief-during-infertility</a> What stage are you at? I don't think I'm at the stage of acceptance, yet. I think I'm cycling between denial, anger & bargaining.